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Falling for a guy after knowing him for some time

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Hello guys,
I haven't posted here in a long time. My life's been going great recently- and it just got better last week or worse I'm not sure.
Anyways I met this guy from the US. He is over here in my country for vacation. This past week we hanged out almost every day. He is a very pleasant guy- really fun to talk to and enjoyable overall. He is not the most good-looking guy but he has a very pretty face and nice curly hair.
So at first I didn't feel any attraction to him. But then one night he was gonna sleep at my place and he came out to me. He didn't really flirt with me though just did it rather subtly. It was more of a "I'm gay in case you're interested occasion". That night we stayed up until late and talked about films and music and I haven't felt that good talking to someone in a very long time. We slept in separate rooms but I must admit I was getting pretty horny than night at the thought of him sleeping on my bed in the room right next to mine.
Anyways we got one more night together. But I'm unsure if I should reveal my feelings to him or not. For one thing he is going away and I'm afraid of getting attached because that means I'll miss him so much more. Also I'm having second thoughts all the time- can you love someone that didn't really attract you at first glance? And then I'm not entirely sure I'm ready to have sex with another man - I think I'm gonna be so awkward and bad at it and I don't want to disappoint him. Plus he is about 8 years older than me and has so much more sexual experiences.
So what do you guys think? Hit it up with him or better let the flame just burn out?
 
I'd go for it

Have even tried getting something going with straight guys, and even though nothing actually happened, the friendship was deepened.

Odd thing though, after doing it with other gay guys, usually resulted and the endpoint for those relationships.

You'll never know until you try ...
 
I'd go for it

Have even tried getting something going with straight guys, and even though nothing actually happened, the friendship was deepened.

Odd thing though, after doing it with other gay guys, usually resulted and the endpoint for those relationships.

You'll never know until you try ...

Correction: "Odd thing though, after doing it with other gay guys, usually resulted as the endpoint for those relationships.
 
Honestly, it's something that you need to discuss with him.

The easy answer is "Go for it". But you've become friends, although the chances of anything more than casual friends is limited by the distance between where you both live.

If you're comfortable with him to the point that you trust him enough to experiment with him, then be honest about your lack of experience. And if you're going to go further than just experimentation, use condoms.
 
This really depends on what you think will happen to you and how you think you'll feel when he leaves. What happened to you might be a realization that you are ready to be sexual. If you can handle a casual encounter that will be with someone you won't see again, go for it. A lot of people look back on situations like this with fondness and fantasy the rest of their lives. Play safe.
 
So I think I'm just gonna go ahead and try out my luck with him. Of coure I won't forget to use condoms. Thanks a lot everyone for reminding me though. I still don't feel secure about my body though and I think this is gonna show if things get sexual. Also I get attached to people easily and so I'll be really sad when he leaves, but all I hope is that at the end of the day when he'll back to the US he'll have some nice memories of me.
 
Congratulations on having made a decision, and best wishes!

I sincerely regret not having made a move in a lot of ambiguous situations, and as a previous poster stated, a lot of my favorite memories were made when I did act on the moment's allure.
 
How did it go? Hope you had a good time. Any chance for a long-distance relationship?
 
How did it go? Hope you had a good time. Any chance for a long-distance relationship?

We're meeting on Monday. I'll let you guys know. I don't think a ling distance relationship would work. We live really far away from one another (He's in the US, I'm in Europe). We could only meet like once a year at best. But I really wish we could come up with a way to make it work. If we're both into one another ofc.
 
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