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Falling in love with a girl...

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Hi all...

I am currently in a relationship with an older man... I do love him, but of late, I have found myself falling for another girl.

Earlier on in the relationship, he asked me if I was gay or bisexual. I told him gay, because at that point in time, that was what I had thought. But now I'm not so sure.

Add to that, I've already come out to a number of friends as gay (the girl who I'm falling for doesn't know that yet though). Should I now come out as bisexual? Am I even bisexual?

Should I break it off with my current boyfriend?

Any help and insight into this would be greatly appreciated.
 
Describe this "falling for a girl". give us a little more background about how you developed feelings for her and how you view your future together.
 
Regardless of whoever else you have in your life, if you do not have feelings for your boyfriend anymore then yes you should break it off with him. Otherwise, you're just stringing him along and that's not fair to him.
 
I can only say to be HONEST with both of them and it will help in your decision of who you are, or who you want to be.

Dont play games with either one. You will feel better inside later on and have more respect for them and your self..
 
Well, we are both doing medicine in university...

It is only recently that I have really gotten to know her as we have been placed in the same team. Prior to that, we both knew of each other but didn't really speak much to each other as we didn't have man friends in common. However, as we spent more time together over the last 2 months, I found myself becoming more and more attracted to her.

Apart from spending quite a bit of time together in hospital, we also had a couple of dates outside of it. I know it's wrong to do so but somehow I just found myself doing this.

What do I envision for the future with her? I don't really know. I don't even know if I will be in Australia in a couple of years' time. I might not be able to get a job here as I'm not a citizen or a permanent resident currently.
 
you didnt "find yourself doing it", you did it. take some responsability, man.

dont worry about the future. dont worry about lables like gay or bisexual. you are exploring your sexuality, which is important. just be honest to all involved parties. from what little i know about the situation, it does sound like you should break up with your boyfriend.
 
You don't have to label yourself. I always wonder why some folks think they HAVE to have a label.
You aren't obligated to act in a certain way because you have to fit the label you've given yourself. You fall for who you fall for.
The fact that you are falling for a woman after describing yourself as gay shows that attraction isn't always just physical. (otherwise, you wouldn't be attracted to a female as a gay man.) It sounds like you like her other qualities first, and that's a fine thing.
But yes, you should come clean with your boyfriend, it's the right thing to do. He deserves to know where he stands with you.
 
deserter85 said:
Well, we are both doing medicine in university...

It is only recently that I have really gotten to know her as we have been placed in the same team. Prior to that, we both knew of each other but didn't really speak much to each other as we didn't have man friends in common. However, as we spent more time together over the last 2 months, I found myself becoming more and more attracted to her.

Apart from spending quite a bit of time together in hospital, we also had a couple of dates outside of it. I know it's wrong to do so but somehow I just found myself doing this.

What do I envision for the future with her? I don't really know. I don't even know if I will be in Australia in a couple of years' time. I might not be able to get a job here as I'm not a citizen or a permanent resident currently.
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It all sounds so... technical.

Do you want to have rabid sex with her, or just be best friends forever?

Do you fantasize about topping her and what fun you will have licking her vagina?

Does those thoughts give you a hard on? Do you jerk off thinking about her vagina?
 
like others said no need to label yourself. just be honest with your bf and the girl. considering your bf is older, he is probably wiser and would understand your situation.
nehow good luck.
 
Well, There are two guys in my family that went through medical school. One is a brother in law - who ended up cheating on my sister with a fellow resident.

He didn't do this because he didn't love my sister, he did it because they were in a stressful, incredibly intense situation where they were together a lot, in a bubble that isolated them from other people, who didn't understand what they were going through.

That doesn't excuse his behavior, but the intimacy of their situation, created the attraction. He swears that under more normal circumstances he would never have gone there.
 
You're relatively young and your sexuality is, in terms of our line of work, like a tissue that not achieved end-stage development: it is still pluripotent, like a hematopoietic precursor: it can become a myocyte or a macrophage, depending upon where it lands up.

In the best of all possible worlds -- which this ain't most of the time -- our sexuality is determined by who we end up falling in love with. Paraphrasing Dr. Funkenstein, go with your heart and your dick will follow.
 
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