Falling off the wagon...

[irishdreamer2287]

Ok months and months ago I started a thread telling you guys how I found my first real BF and how excited I was that I finally found a decent guy. Then 3 months later I wrote a thread saying that we broke up because we mutually decided that we were not clicking as much as we used to and would be better off as friends. At the time I thought that was the right decision. But now it seems that I cannot stop thinking about him. Every night he pops into my mind. At first I thought I was just lonely like I had been for so long before I met him but I think it's more than that. The other strange part is that I don't miss him for any sexual reason...I miss him for reasons more on the emotional side. Calling him at night and talking about our day or going places with him or snuggling on the couch. I don't know what to do... He is away at college and doesn't show any indicators that he misses being in a romantic relationship with me. He isn't dating anyone at the moment (I believe anyway) but I know that it is very possible he could start something with someone very soon. I struggle within myself almost every night whether or not to write him an email telling him how I feel (even though I have kinda hinted about very briefly before with him) and as I said he didn't really show interest in trying again. What do you guys think?? I am so confused.

 

[gameboy 11]

Maybe you should give in and tell him your feelings. All of them.

Either that or just try your best to find someone new to share life with!!

If you wanna chat about it, I'm on Yahoo and AIM a lot!

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Hit me up tomorrow...in about 10 hours!

 

[G-Lexington]

Why not test the waters slowly? If you haven't talked to him much since the break-up, send him a friendly e-mail. "Hey, just wondering how you're doing", and tell him briefly what's new in your life. If he doesn't respond, or responds very briefly, let it go. If not, take it forward.

Lex

 

[SantaCBear]

Y'all were a couple for 3 months, right... IMO, no need to beat around the bush.

Contact him and say all you need to say, tell him everything.

If he is still 'distant' after that you REALLY need to move on as tough as it may be.

 

[Centexfarmer]

Something else to consider, is that you might just be missing the emotional intimacy and NOT this guy. I'd figure out which of the two that is before I'd throw myself back in his direction.

 

[irishdreamer2287]

Hey Everyone...I just thought I would tell you all how this ended. I ended up writing him this very nice message saying all my feelings and how I miss him and I didn't care about any of the stuff we fought about. He wrote a little reply back to me saying that he just recently got into a new relationship which he is very happy with. So after a good cry I wrote back and told him that I was sorry I bothered him and I will let him be happy with his new bf. Which brings me to this morning when I finally except I am alone and even though I am not happy about it I will have to get used to it.

 

[JackFTwist]

its human nature to magnify what we don't have -

you are 20 - you have so much future --

this is a great opportunity to move into your future