Fantasizing about me and we're supposed to be friends.

[Xavier_Holland]

Ok, I'm not going to say I'm offended but the title says it all. I have known Daren for awhile now. And I have known Brad for awhile now. And I have known Jon for awhile now too. And by that I mean 6 months or longer. However, what was shocking was all in one day all three have confessed to me by no reason at all and me not provoking such a thing intentionally they have all had sexually engrossing moments of passion with themselves over me and my body.

That's flattering and I enjoy that sort of attention alot. And I am glad that all of them could release that sort of energy and have me to thank for it. It's kind of like giving the gift that keeps on giving.

However, I have known Derick for 2 years(it's no secret he has fantasized about me.) He's in some minor and amateur league homo-erotica and honestly boys, I really do love him. It's just the baseball bat he's swinging and how he acts when it's hard that's kept us from trying it. Plus, I'm usually a top so he's a top too and even though I swing both ways with a guy it just wouldn't feel right with my best friend. I have the,"best friend," rule. I've messed with Derick and maybe some hand action and even though my boyfriend knows, my boyfriend set rules preventing it when we got together. And as sad as it is for Derick, he just has to accept those are my baby's rules and since I love my boyfriend. It's no touchie touch, feely feel........

In spite of all this, a truly close friend who used to be a virgin has revealed to me that he too.... last night found me tantalizing to say the least. He has tried his best to avoid thinking about me like that. And he said it was hurting him emotionally to think of me in such a way. A part of me is at a loss because I can't really relate to fantasizing about a guy. But he says it's so bad he's almost in love with me. And finds himself writing my name sometimes in our college classes together. While he is attractive and cute, should I be comfortable knowing most of my male friends are........finding me whack material?

How do I help these guys in getting over me if I'm off the market? And how come it's always my friends that fall for me and not each other whom they would be PERFECT WITH?!


I like attention but please......

 

[Kurn]

If your baby is your baby...
I'll let the twenty-something's comment.
I suspect that this might be one of those either way you'll make a mistake situations. Good luck. Wisdom and prosperity to ya.

 

[dkonfrost]

well, it sounds like each of THEM have to work through their issues about getting over you. You've already explicitly stated that you're off the market, love your boyfriend very much and you've followed through by honoring your boyfriend's wishes (kudos to you for that! )

i think that the best thing you can do is to just reiterate/remind them about your present status. constantly if you have to. you're doing your part already, they should pick up the slack and realize that it aint gonna happen.

and the reason they fall for you? maybe because you're a good guy, and it sounds like it too

keep us posted!

 

[Xavier_Holland]

Thanks, I guess what I am going to try to do is just really stress the importance of my current relationship. I don't want to hurt any man's feelings and when it's to the point he thinks about me I'm sure it's a big deal for him to be rejected. I went completely monogamous so I just can't see myself breaking that for anyone really.

Let's say my,"true one," came along. I'd pass him up because it's being unfaithful in all honesty. And that's not really right for me so I'm going to try the whole,"I love him and we have big plans in the near future." Either that or I might have to bring him around everywhere I go and damn near molest him in public so that people can see I love this guy.

 

[GL]

Thanks, I guess what I am going to try to do is just really stress the importance of my current relationship. I don't want to hurt any man's feelings and when it's to the point he thinks about me I'm sure it's a big deal for him to be rejected. I went completely monogamous so I just can't see myself breaking that for anyone really.

Let's say my,"true one," came along. I'd pass him up because it's being unfaithful in all honesty. And that's not really right for me so I'm going to try the whole,"I love him and we have big plans in the near future." Either that or I might have to bring him around everywhere I go and damn near molest him in public so that people can see I love this guy.

Yes! That's it. Molest him in public. If they can't see you're serious then, well... I don't know what more to tell you.

Seriously though, you've done what you can by telling them that you've made a commitment to your boyfriend and that you are not the sort of guy to break that confidence. It's like dkon said, this is something that they will need to work out for themselves. Best of luck to you.

 

[ahotjock71]

Oh, I see....You are one of those "Everyone is in love with me" types. Sigh.

 

[Riverrick]

well, it sounds like each of THEM have to work through their issues about getting over you. You've already explicitly stated that you're off the market, love your boyfriend very much and you've followed through by honoring your boyfriend's wishes (kudos to you for that! )

i think that the best thing you can do is to just reiterate/remind them about your present status. constantly if you have to. you're doing your part already, they should pick up the slack and realize that it aint gonna happen.

and the reason they fall for you? maybe because you're a good guy, and it sounds like it too

keep us posted!

Agree with everything above.

I think its just a risk of being gay and having gay friends. We can be attracted to each other. These guys aren't blind you know and if you're good looking, they will notice.

 

[spikethecat]

Give them a picture and say "This will have to do ya!!" lol

 

[Xavier_Holland]

I don't want to anyone's feelings directly. But I did acquire an undertone in a few of my friendships today. And most weren't happy by my cordial decline towards their offerings of sexual pleasantry. I feel almost...guilty.

 

[dkonfrost]

I don't want to anyone's feelings directly. But I did acquire an undertone in a few of my friendships today. And most weren't happy by my cordial decline towards their offerings of sexual pleasantry. I feel almost...guilty.

Don't feel guilty dude, you're doin the right thing.

 

[Riverrick]

I don't want to anyone's feelings directly. But I did acquire an undertone in a few of my friendships today. And most weren't happy by my cordial decline towards their offerings of sexual pleasantry. I feel almost...guilty.

Try telling your bf that. He'll clear your head up.