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Fatherhood

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Lol thats kinda cute in a weird way but I think its almost like human instinct to want to procreate.

Like some animals become more aggressive to mate and shit. Idk. Weird but normal.
 
If I decide to settle with my boyfriend we need to talk about getting a surrogate!
 
While I understand the desire to be a father, I have never understood the surrogate thing. IMHO, there are so many more important things to give your child than your DNA.
 
I used to feel the same way when I was 18-20 or so. It was very strong. Eventually I let it go, but if I was completely financially sound I think I'd still adopt.
 
sixthson said:
While I understand the desire to be a father, I have never understood the surrogate thing. IMHO, there are so many more important things to give your child than your DNA.
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Well said.

Love? Nurturing environment? Early education? Sense of wonder in the world? Culture?

All your DNA contributes is some ability to predict inherited medical conditions. Plus stroking your own ego.
 
You're only 18. This shouldn't be a priority in your life at all. Many people do not have children until they are way into their 30s. As you find yourself and embrace your young adulthood more, I believe you will find the freedom and experience of life will put aside those biological urges to procreate. ;)
 
There's nothing wrong with wanting to find a way to have a child who is genetically related to you. It's part of our biological makeup as animals. And honestly, I can understand it. I'd love to look into my child's face and see a part of me in their features, to know that in some way, I had created a human life out of nothing. That desire is overpowering.

That's not to say adoption isn't a wonderful and desirable option as well. It too is a rewarding experience and I would also love to adopt. And that child would be my child as well. But even though I would still be that child's father, there will always be someone else out there who shares something with that adopted child that I cannot share. It wouldn't make me less of a father to that child, and it wouldn't make me love them any less. But it's that small connection between a biological father and child that makes me want to have at least one biological child.

I don't see why it's such a bad thing to want to have a biological child and I certainly don't think voicing that desire says anything negative about adoption whatsoever. The two are not mutually exclusive.
 
i think about this all the time
ive substituted with cats lol
and i want to have a boy on the first try
 
I really don't know whether I want to have children. I would love to give my parents a grandson or granddaughter...but the responsibility...is huge.
 
I've experienced strong bouts of paternal instinct, but I've always returned to the feeling that I am perfectly fine with not having children. It's something I struggle with, though, as my long time partner is much older than me, to the point that it would never be an option to have children together. It's something I wrestle with from time to time.
 
Ooohhh... I've been having this feeling for a month now! LOL

The other day I saw a guy with his baby (no mother around) and I even considered hitting on him to get my perfect family! hahaha!! Lately, whenever I meet a guy I ask him if he wants to have children sometime.
Now, whenever I see a baby I think "I want one of those". I'm really messed up.


I think I'll get a puppy soon.
 
It's normal for any person to have a desire to want to be a parent no matter what their orientation is. It's easy for some than others to have a child but there are a few routes for gay men. You are only 18 it' nothing something that should be on the top of your list but if it is something you are seriously thinking about you should look into some of your options so you know what to be prepared for when you get older. I went through a similar phase but helping raise my nephew helped (in a good way, he's a good kid), I don't think I'll want my own kids though.
 
Fatherhood is a wonderful thing, although 18 is a bit too young. One needs to be emotionally and financially ready to take on what is a huge and awesome responsibility.

I’m 61 and have been through parenthood in 3 stages. I had 2 daughters when I was quite young and was fortunate to have my mother help with them. From that, I have 7 grandchildren. My oldest grandson is 17 and a senior in high school. I am very proud of what a wonderful young man he has turned out to be.

When I got together with my husband, my kids were adults but he had 2 pre-teen kids so I went through it again. This year the youngest graduated from college and got an apartment with two friends.

Also this year, one my daughters died and we are now raising two of my grandsons who are in elementary school. I don’t have the energy I had when my daughters were that age but I have more stability and wisdom and that makes me a better parent. It’s all been good.
 
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