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[ariesstar89]

Somehow the subject of gay people came up today while riding with my mom. She told me straight forward that she dont see how people could be like that and that its against the word of God for people to be gay. I told her I dont think its all bad, but in a non-chalant way. The thing that got me the most was that if i were to come out to her, i think I would lose her in my life. I need my mom. She's one of the most important people in my life. If I were to come out, I don't think I would be happy knowing that I couldn't have her support.

I'm not planning on coming out, still trying to figure out what exactly is going on within me. But its just the fact that if I were to end up gay, I wouldn't have her to back me up. I know I would lose my dad, my sisters would support me, but without my mom, it would be hell.

 

[jimm04]

Parents still remains children

 

[WYSIWYG]

"But its just the fact that if I were to end up gay." Your already gay, aren't you?

Your situation isn't any different than most gay men, In the end, she is still your mom and your her son, whether she choses to accept you or not is her problem and not yours!

There is only ONE you and you have something to contribute. Your of age now, and the adult decisions you make are your own. You are unique, and what you do in the bedroom is your business and no one elses, by the way.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Good place to start is with the movie "For the Bible Tells Me So" - Blockbuster has it. Rent it and watch it.

Straight from the Bible belt myself, thought I could never tell my mom and dad, but eventually it meant that they would not participate in my life.

I also notice that parents take it better when their kids are older. I think parents still feel responsible until a kid is in their mid-late 20's.

If you are financially dependent on them for school, may want to hang on a bit.

 

[ariesstar89]

before i begin this. i have to admit that i am drunk and im trying my best to think logically. so bear with me. haha

to WYSIWYG, i dont consider myself completely gay. im more bi than anything. i love women and men, but im in an internal conflict with what i truely desire. to answer the question of if im gay or not. I know that it is my life, thus leading me to be able to talk about things with other gay men, but i don't really know what to think to be honest. not going to lie. reading hardreader's story I thought I knew made me feel like I am in that story. i suggest you read it if you havent already, but if you do, im in the predicament that jess is in.hope that helps you

to jeff, i am finacially dependent on my parents. im in my sophmore year of school and hoping to complete it all and move on in life. thats the only thing that really keeps me from being myself. i dont know how they would react if i were to turn out gay and if they would still help me pay for college. im really scared of my dad more than anything, since he is paying for the majority of college. but i really wouldnt mind losing him. its more my mom than anything. i need my mom. im sure you understand. she is essentially my rock, besides a couple of close friends (who i fear who turn on me if I were to come out)

To Davya, i would almost settle for what your mom is doing than to possibly be shut out completely. refer back to what i said earlier. i need my mom. she is my rock that I can turn to.

I really hope all of yal can understand what I'm feeling. I dont consider myself completely gay. I do have gay thoughts, and I do get off to gay porn. But I also find myself have thoughts about girls and getting off to reg porn. I hope all of yal can understand what I'm feeling. Not going to lie, but I need to find a man and be face-to-face with him to help me understand everything.

 

[Lube]

If your mom won't accept that you're gay (or bi or whatever) is she really a rock in your life? I don't think so. Same thing for your friends.

That being said, Volcom makes a good point about educating her.

 

[Tizinsane]

My parents think being gay/bi is a choice, too. My dad is a common sense kind of guy, so I think I could eventually convince him its not a choice. My mom on the other hand.....forget about it.