Feeling bad after a club

[chrisdobro]

I just had a very bad experience at a strip bar...

no matter what you say, porn must not, should not and has no place at a strip bar. Bath houses okay, but not strip clubs. Also guys stripping fully naked is not for me. Stripping naked in private/lap dances is fine, but for everybody not for me.

I'm gonna go throw up now.

I just feel bad now. Kinda like after watching an execution or something. Please make it go away. My well-being needs improvement.

I stayed there because of a friend, but at my expense. I've made an assumption that he liked it, but he probably did as he stayed. I needed to leave about right away after I got into the club but I stayed, knowing that if I leave, he probably will too. I still can't find my equillibrium. I'm still in shock. I'm also pissed at myself. I should be watching out for my interest instead of interest of somebody else. I can always say "I'll wait for you outside" and let them decide where their priorities lie. I'd be much happier hanging outside the place for a while rather than spending five more minutes inside.

I told myself I'm sorry for doing this, but it didn't help. It's in the past and I can't change it. I so hate it when I can't change things. I hope that time will take the pain away. I'm in pain ...

This thing keeps happening to me -- my lack of control in situations, even though I try to stop this. I just hope that some day I'll learn and circument a bad situation before it has a bad effect on me.

 

[luminum]

So I guess overt sexuality just isn't for you. That's okay. if that's the case an it comes up, just tell your friends that it's not your thing and bow out. If it's causing you physical pain, then I think you need to see someone because it may run deeper than just an anti-aesthetic.

 

[Txgoodoldboy]

Live and learn. To each his own. Now, you know.

Did you know the bar was going to have people stripping? I take it this was your first time at a strip club?

If a guy wants to take his clothes off, I love it. In Texas, the guys have to keep on a G-string. Or I guess, they still do, I haven't been to a strip show in a couple of years. The bar, in Beaumont, Tx., that had strip shows, was destroyed by Hurricane Rita.

 

[jockboy01]

Are you new to the gay bar/club world? I only ask b/c it would seem that way. I'm not ragging on you. Just b/c after a while, you don't really care that guys are stripping on stage. If you want to look, you look, if you don't, you don't. It's not a big deal. And I'm kind of a prude (ok, maybe not). But it doesn't bother me. At first, it totally would have, now, it is just another part of being out if I'm at that sort of place. But it's not generally the focus of my attention.

I do however, feel bad after clubs... more b/c I wasted a night unproductive than anything. But whatever, it's fun while I'm there.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

OK.

So, you have just learned that strip clubs are not for you.

Don't go there.

SC

 

[StlKj]

If you're equating seeing naked men in a strip club to having watched an execution, then perhaps you need to look at how you feel about men and sex a little closer. While they may prove to be somewhat sleazy, your reaction to the club is so over-the-top that it sounds almost violent.

Take a deep breath. You survived it. It's not the most traumatic thing you'll ever encounter most likely. Don't blow it out of proportion.

 

[TylerKid]

If you're equating seeing naked men in a strip club to having watched an execution, then perhaps you need to look at how you feel about men and sex a little closer. While they may prove to be somewhat sleazy, your reaction to the club is so over-the-top that it sounds almost violent.

Take a deep breath. You survived it. It's not the most traumatic thing you'll ever encounter most likely. Don't blow it out of proportion.

Ya, dude what he said. Just thill the eff out. Scarred for life I guess. You just seem to be too sensative. Learn to be in control of yourself. Your an adult that can make your own decisions, you just made a bad one, don't ever go to a club of that nature anymore. Deal with it.

 

[Chrysoprase]

You are not the only one who does not like strippers..

Although no prude I find the whole thing degrading, not only to the strippers themselves but also to the audience.

 

[nijuusei]

i'm sorry you feel so bad <= please accept this big hug from me ^.^
but it's a good opportunity to improve yourself;
use this experience and the pain you are feeling right now,
to create self-discipline
do only what you are comfortable with
don't get dragged into such things because of a friend
there are plenty of other things you can do together ^_-

 

[Soilwork]

I dont' get it... what's the big deal?

I mean if you dont like strip clubs - I dont' either - it's one thing but you seem to be really blowing it out of proportion.

I think strip clubs are degrating and smarmy. But if I go, I just ignore the strippers and talk to friends.. why are you so affected?

 

[Shepherd 2]

Remember the lesson.
Do not go to a bar, strip or no strip.
Shep+

 

[Ryuukie]

Huh? What was so bad? The stripper is a performer. If you don't like the show, just leave.