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Fell in Love and he doesn't love me back.

Unfortunately, time is the only cure. Some NSA fun might be a temporary fix, but leaving the country is almost guaranteed to work. It's not wrong of you to want to confront him, but I don't think it'll bring you any good. If you run into him, ignore him. You do it to hundreds of people every day. Don't freak out or cause a scene. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he still has control over you. You can cry at home later if you need to.
 
Unrequited love, it hurts, a lot. Hang in there(*8*)
 
polski said:
Is it wrong of me to want to confront him? I have only 3 weeks left in the country, and somehow all I want to do is to tell him everything. I am not going to invite him anywhere or something, but I don't know whether I will be able to control myself if I run into him. Yesterday I ran into his cousins and somehow everyday i run into someone we both know and it just brings me back to thinking about him.

I still wake up dreaming about him everyday. After he 'raped' me or something, I took anti depressants for 10 days as soon as I woke up just to calm me down and somehow stop thinking about him. I think I ruined my exams, thinking about him and all that he has done to me and it just makes me sad how I let my guard down so much in front of someone.

I just need to know, if I do run into him (which has a high chance of happening), what should I do? And is there really a way for me to stop dreaming/ think of him as soon as I wake up because it just brings back a rush of feelings and I don't like starting the day in such a way.
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OK. I'm going to be blunt. There is hurt and confused, and then there is wallowing and unnecessary dramatics. Trying to stop yourself from thinking about him is hurt and confused - imagining scenarios in which you "run into him" is being the author of your own demise.

HE can't MAKE you do anything. If you are feeling hurt that's one thing, but he doesn't control you or your self esteem unless you surrender that to him, or in this case his idea.

No one can get you over this but you. Your actions and choices are your own, accept what YOU did to put yourself into this and don't repeat it, then write off him and anything HE did. Wallowing, will get you precisely nowhere.
 
I know you are right. It still feels a bit difficult to let go of him at the moment.

I am starting to feel really ashamed of the things I did, to get his attention and to try and mend things between us. It is the shame that is taking its toll on me right now. I know I can't let go of this all until I leave the country as planned.
 
If you run into him, pretend like you don't care. Be cool, say hi, and try to ignore him and spend time with other people around you. <-- this will be very difficult to do. Don't be rude, but don't care either. I would have said you should avoid him, but it'll be better if you could prove to yourself that you could face him and know you can do it without him. Eventually, you will be able to do it without him, but if you could face him and at least act normal, it'll hopefully speed up your recovery.

If you can't, then try to avoid meeting him. If you see him from afar, change your course and stay away.

As for the shame, it is exactly how I felt every time I thought I had no chance with this person I loved for four years. Yeah, some shame might be there, and it sucks. When you stand on your feet again, it'll all go away. (*8*)
 
The pain is fleeting, and I guess that is a good sign. I don't wonder much about him anymore. I just need to realize my own worth; because i sacrificed my self esteem for him and I don't know how to be able to get back up on my feet again. I have made my peace with nothing ever happening again with us; any more regret or guilt forming in him; or even another apology from him.

I fell for a man whore; I thought I was different, but the truth I was another pawn in his games. The reason why I was so eager for something between us happening was that I was leaving; and I sort of just wanted to feel something or someone. Someone who could have understood me and he just shut me out; rudely and abruptly. I am beginning to see all that I had blindly overlooked and now I know that he was never good enough for me. I degraded myself to make him good enough for me and it is time he was shown the truth.
 
OK, that's a good start to a new life: Seeing things more clearly. You'll be fine (*8*)
 
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