Finished!!!!

[EspionageofNY]

Ok so now I am most definately sure that I am done! Done with what? Done with love. I had just been looking for friends on biggercity when I found a page of a guy who seemed pretty cool. I just sent him a message saying hey. He didn't respond, so I thought nothing of it and just signed off. The next morning I got about three messages from him saying that we really wanted to talk to me and I could text him all day. Then he gave me his number (without even having one conversation before). So I texted him back and he really wanted to talk to me on the phone and I told him I'd be free after work. So we texted randomly throughout the day and he really wanted to chat. So I called him when I got home, he answers and then says "I have some paperwork to finish up at my job, can I call you back later?" And I texted him back an hour after and said "I'll be up all night so feel free to call whenever." Well it's been 4 hours since then and still nothing. I've been burned a lot. Burned by girls, burned by guys. so I'm done. Finished. Love is a crock of shit. I don't care anymore about anything really. I know this sounds really down but that's how I feel. The last time this happened, I said I'd give it one more shot. Well, bang, I'm done.

 

[8tomtoms8]

You may be done with random chance hookups. That is what you just described which has nothing to do with love. I can see why you are through with them. All wise men are or will be eventually. I dare say love will find you one day. The best thing to do now may be to jerk off and go to bed. I hope this helps.

 

[mystery4637]

Eh....I know plenty of guys I would consider "wise" who still have random hook-ups.

To each his own, I guess.

 

[chanio]

don't give up; life is full of possibilities. however, don't expect too much either. sometimes tricks are bound to happen. hehehe ;-)

 

[EricCage]

Looking for love in the worng places has nothing to do with love itself. These online meetings and hookups are not trustworthy. Go back to the real world!

 

[RicanDAB]

Espionage,

I think you're jumping the gun .. nothing in your post proves to me at this point like the guy is playing you. Perhaps the guy is legitimately busy or was caught on a wrong day ... not that I am saying you should contact him again. If he's interested he'll call or text you again, and if not you shrug it off an move on to others.

But I think that saying that "You're Done" is hasty and you're a young guy whose opportunities are wide open ... I trust this will pass and deep down you know this will too ...

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Live and learn.

The dude is obsessive communicator. 'Please, text me. Please, call me. Please, chat with me.'

In reality there is nothing that he wants to say or nothing that he wants to do. He only wants to be addressed and show his surrounding that his phone is beeping and that he is in demand.

That is a most common little game out there... Do not fall for it.

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If a guy chats me up with a smiley and 'hey, hi', that's all fine. If his second message has no substance and all he can say is 'I don't know', I just move on.

Guys, who do not know, should go and sort themselves out first... I have not got any time to waste...

SC

 

[Just_Believe18]

You shouldn't give up on love just because you couldn't connect with a stranger online.

 

[loppyears]

Forget him, I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who are worth your time. The one rule is you NEVER give up, never ever give up. Sure, it saves you from all the emotional harm you'll have to go through to find that special guy but you learn from that and move on. Besides he could find you

 

[spreadeagle]

I for one fail to see any connection between electronic communication and Love. Love is a face-to-face human interaction; electronics are simply a distraction, an obstacle in the path of Love, all medium and no message.

 

[uptightguy]

Ummm... Some people suck. And all too often these same people go WAY out of their way to spread their suckiness around. So yeah, it's easy to run into 'em online and off.

It's ok to be bummed about that.

Everyone needs to love.
Everyone needs to feel loved.
It's not a choice, it's just how we are... a basic human need that can't be denied or suppressed, at least not for long.

 

[aleisterc2003]

LOL....you're not the first nor shall you be the last to feel like that. granted, it wasn't love but you wanted the foundation at least....understandable. i fell in love twelve years ago. are relationship had been screwed up. for those twelve years we had seen each other off and on. now we're trying to build a relationship and i don't know him. i supressed my feelings for him to the point that i don't love him like i use to. though he seems to be in love with me. you see love isn't all it's cracked up to be. think about it....if it wasn't this person it would of probably been someone else. just date. experiment. don't look for it. cause when it finds you...you may not want it. and you'll just make them feel the way you do.
XXXOOO

 

[confusedboy23]

I wouldn't call that love. You don't even know that guy. If it had happened after you've been talking to him for a month or more, then, maybe yes. Otherwise, get over him and you shouldn't be discouraged by something like that. Maybe consider it as a random text message which you occasionally get.