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First and Last Relationship?

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Do you think it is possible to be in only one relationship and then spend the rest of your life with that person?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months, but for some reason it feels much longer than that. We love each other very much. We are committed to each other and would not do anything to risk losing one another. This is my first relationship, so I'm new to the whole dating world. He has had 4 boyfriends, but the longest one only last 4 months. So this is his first "long term" relationship too. So we are both learning too. Eveyone we know can see a change in both of our personalities. Its the good change.:D A stranger at the grocery store even said that we must have known each other for a long time, because of the we act together, but we were only together for 2 months when that happened. We both thought it was odd and funny.

We plan on moving in together next November. He currently has his own place and I still live at home. But I spend most of my time at his place. I even accidentilly called his place home, but he was happy that I said that and that I felt comfortable enough to say that. I might as well move in with him, but he does not want that. He wants us to get a place TOGETHER, so that it would have the meaning of your relationship is progressing. We both want to make this serious and for some reason we both think/know we are going to be togerther for ever.

There are so many reasons why we both feel that way, but the feelings feel so right. So I'm not going to go into detail.

So I guess what I'm asking is...Sould I be happy that I was able to find the first and only true love and not take it for granite and be happy with what I got. Or wonder what I might be missing out there, if I spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend.

And sorry for the thread.!oops!
 
Yes I do think it is possible to be in only one relationship and spend the rest of your life with them. I have known many straight couples that have done this, including two of my sisters. I would caution you that most the time it doesn't work that way. I would say just take one day at a time and if it is meant to be, you will be together forever. If it's not meant to be, it won't be the end of the world. Sounds like you have a good plan of waiting until you have been together for a long time before moving in together. Good luck!
 
I know a couple of guys who met when they were 19 and 21 - they have been together for 52 years and still going strong! Yes it can and does happen. Life is a journey amd sometimes we do not always know or understand the outcomes. If we a sceptical before we start on this journey, we never travel very far. Give it all you have. If you succeed, great. If your expectations are not met, you can learn from your experiences and continue on the journey.
 
I think be happy for what you have found, don't take each other for granted and continue the way you are going, which you seem to have got it right so far, so carry on. Good luck to both of you and you sound very happy and well suited to each other. So don't worry to much, I would try not to put any undue pressure on the relationship by thinking all the time this is "forever" but keep going at the present pace and if it continues to go as well as it has so far great and let it carry on.
 
I think you should be happy that you've fallen in love with someone and have no intentions of looking back

I truly hope your relationship is always successful and you find no need to second guess your feeling for eachother or decision to make it permanent

Good luck to you both

PS: Don't be sorry; this is a great thread
 
It can and does happen. I hope it does for you and that your love for each other will see you through the inevitable hard times. Don't over analyze live for now and be happy. It sounds like you make a good couple.

No need to appologise for posting it is a good topic. (*8*)
 
Hey Robz,

My best friend and his partner were each other's first boyfriend and they have been together 9 years now. So YES it is possible. Like some have said already, take this one day at a time and enjoy every moment. You never know what life has in store, but I am glad everything is so far good!!
 
Yes, I think it's possible.. however, not for me. The chance was gone a long time ago and I really think that I'm not the kind of guy for this kind of relationship.. ;)
 
robz1010 said:
So I guess what I'm asking is...Sould I be happy that I was able to find the first and only true love and not take it for granite and be happy with what I got. Or wonder what I might be missing out there, if I spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend.
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Therein lies the crux of the question.

For gay guys, I think its particularly hard for first timers to do the soulmate thing the first time around. We go through so much repressing our feelings during adolescence that when we finally come out and accept ourselves for who we are, those feelings to experience what its like being gay is overwhelming. Society shuns who you are and won't support your relationship. Its not easy to come out and then jump into a relationship with only one man, one penis, one kind of sex for the rest of your life. Maybe thats why a lot of gay relationships are open.

It IS possible for lifelong monogamy. It's just up to you.
 
homo or hetero

if you score the right one you win

if not, start again

best of luck...my only concern is why you have to ask?
 
being a bi old whore i w'ont rain on your parade but will wish you the best of luck and go with the goddes blessig
 
Robz1010,

If you want it to be the answer is yes...simple as that.

My best friend and his fiance...she was his first, his one and only. He's wondered what he was missing. He worried about what life could have been.

Then one day he realised that it couldnt be better than what he had. He had the love of his life. Someone who completed him, loved him, cherished him...and made him feel truly comfortable with himself. And that realization set him free. He no longer cared...he had what he needed.

It sounds like you've had that realization too. Dont take it for granted mate. Work at it. Cherish it. Value it. And realise just how lucky you are.
 
Thanks for all of your responses. Its nice to see that people feel it is possible. I was expecting a few to say the opposite, like I would be missing to much that is out there.


LeftCoastMikey said:
best of luck...my only concern is why you have to ask?
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Well the reason I ask is because, I wanted to get peoples opinion. I love my boyfriend very much and I would never have any regrets being with him. But a few people that I know might say that I was making mistake and should not limit myself to one person and go out exploring instead. My response to that was no. I'm happy with who I'm with and would never change it.(*8*) So that got me asking the question.
 
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