First crush

[Captain53]

Since I am coming to terms with being gay fairly late in life (I'm 56), I really cannot tell if i am falling in love or if this is just an infaturation with the first man I ever had "real" sex with.

He is 60, attractive, charming, loving, caring. I love to be with him, to be naked with him. I am still having issues with attaining orgasm but hope most of that is a med reaction issue.

I quess my question is how do you tell the difference between a major crush and love. He has told me that even if I find someone else ( I am still reaching out) he wants us to remain best friends.

Am a bit confused at this point.

Sharing of experience would be most apprecianted

 

[Halifaxboy8]

You're 56, not 10. You have a well of life experiences to drawn upon. There isn't any difference between what people feels be they gay or straight (or whatever). You've had relationships with women, I assume, before you came out?

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I quess my question is how do you tell the difference between a major crush and love.

Time, mainly. My advice would be to spend less time analyzing it and more time enjoying it.

Lex

 

[Captain53]

You're 56, not 10. You have a well of life experiences to drawn upon. There isn't any difference between what people feels be they gay or straight (or whatever). You've had relationships with women, I assume, before you came out?

Yes, i was married for 30 yrs. Perhaps, then, this is love. I certainly would not turn away from such a wonderful man'

 

[Captain53]

>>>I quess my question is how do you tell the difference between a major crush and love.

Time, mainly. My advice would be to spend less time analyzing it and more time enjoying it.

Lex

thanks lex, that is great advice which I shall most assuredly heed.

 

[Centexfarmer]

My advice would be to spend less time analyzing it and more time enjoying it.

Lex

I have to agree with my friend Lex here.

I'll add, follow your heart.

Life can be so short, enjoy the moments that the two of you share together.

The best advice that I ever got from a friend, the same friend who encouraged me to follow my heart?

Don't forget to breath.

If you're breathing that means that you're still alive, and you have someone that obviously wants to share life with you.

Enjoy it!

 

[Eagle653]

At the very beginning, I'm not sure anyone can really tell the difference--they are basically the same. Over time, though, it becomes clear--after the novelty of new sex wears off. When you miss the person because you haven't seen him in several hours or days; when he's the first person you think of when you have news you want to share; when you feel his joys and sorrows with him; when you realize what a void there'd be in your life if he wasn't in it--that's love, not lust.

I do like Lex's advice too--don't analyze, just enjoy! Seriously, though, you'll know when you've transitioned from infatuation to love. And, it sounds to me like you're well on the way!

Good luck, and glad you found someone so special!