First Date with a boy... :)

[gameaddict]

Yesterday I finally had my first date with a boy...and it was great I've had gfs but I feel alot more comfortable with him and vice-versa we've been talking for ages and I knew he was gay and I too told him I was Bi. We then started talking and became friends and slowly we started liking each other more and more and eventually I asked him on a date and told him I liked him, luckily he liked me too. Anyway so the date began and we went shopping together and then we went to the library (his request) and read some books we then went outside to somewhere private and had a long chat about his previous bfs (he has had 6 so It's the only thing that worries me...lol) and he then asked me what I had done with a guy, I told him (I haven't done much) and then I asked If I could hug him (I dont really hug guys...) we hugged and we then started looking at each other deeply... he knew I wanted to kiss him but he knew I was too shy to do but I eventually kissed his cheek and pulled back very quickly (i was very shy) he then kissed me on the lips which I liked (he could tell) so he did it 3 or more times lol. I then started cuddling him lol as I was SO COLD and yeah that was nice and we really enjoyed each others company. Ok now my problem lol: I want to pasionately kiss him badly but can't find the right moment, we've spoke about me only being comfortable being on top (sex) and he said he's fine with it but I don't believe him and finally the fact that he's had 6 previous bfs makes me think I'll be another number... any advise?

I didn't say everything about the date as there weren't enough space but I might post some more minor details

 

[Coffee]

I think that you don't know what happened with his 6 ex boyfriends, so you shouldn't judge because of it. And actually you don't have to know anything about it. Why? Because he may getting better day by day, what happened doesn't affect your "relationship" right now, what you should just concern is the person he is now. Don't let the doubt kill what is just planted.
But why don't you believe he could be ok with being bottom?

 

[Horschallen]

Do not waste your time or energy worrying or talking about his past boyfriends... you may have know him the longest of all the boyfriends he had. Enjoy every minute you have with him and let him know that. It is great you are getting to experience this wonderful time with your friend. Good luck.

 

[CaliBoy601]

Yeah. I agree with the top posters. DO NOT worry about the fact that he has had 6 boyfriends already. It could just be that none of them were the types of guys he wanted to spend the rest of his life with...and you never know, YOU could be that guy that he realizes he wants to be with forever

Just continue to be yourself, and don't try to change ANYTHING about yourself. You want him to like you for you, so you can always be yourself around him, not someone else!

Good luck!

 

[CaliBoy601]

And also! Congratulations on having such a successful first date!! Keep us updated on how you two are doing

 

[gameaddict]

Being nervous is completely natural but you need to be careful that you don't let your anxiety about his past BFs destroy what could be a beautiful relationship before it even begins properly.

Even if you end up being number 7 (and that could take months or longer) how long are you going to wait to meet the perfect guy (who doesn't exist) and who is still a virgin in every way possible?

IMO it's better to have a guy with some experience. Obviously you both need to use protection when you finally decide to have sex which I think you'll really enjoy if this guy is as nice as you've described him.

yeah I made a joke about being 'lucky' no.7 I'm not going to let his past BFs destroy what we have lol he openly said how he split up with each one of them and why and from what he was saying his reasons are justified. I'd just like both us losing our virginity at the same time but what can I do?

 

[manofsummer]

Reading books on a first date? How nerdy.

 

[gameaddict]

Reading books on a first date? How nerdy.

lol yeah well It's not like I could say "hey, why the hell are you reading a book, let's go or I'm leaving." I wouldn't have posted this if that had happened lol

 

[gameaddict]

I got another date today and I'm going his house then we're going to a party so yeah I'll keep all ya'll posted

 

[Ninja108]

the fact he told you about his prior bfs indicates to me somebody who at the least is honest. Keep us posted!

 

[looseliam]

When's the right time to kiss? Whenever you feel like it.

On the street, on the tube, or sitting on a bench. If you get the urge, kiss him!!

 

[gameaddict]

yeah we started the day off at his house with his friend and we watched a horror today which we cuddled to with me behind him and everytime his friend would leave we'd start kissing (passionately) and it was nice. After the film we left and went out and went buckingham palace, relaxed and then went mcdonalds (there were soooo many gays it was funny, they kept looking at me and my bf) then we went to his friends house, watched a film, he was lieing on my belly fot the most of it and then we both went sleep...we woke up kissed abit then went me and him went back to his house and started kissing, snuggling, playing games, talking bout our 'sensitive spots' and feeling them (he names his neck and I started kissing his neck) he then got into a riding position which i loved (i had an erection aswell...lol) but i had to leave for church after so yeah thats how the date ended and his family apparently like me more than all his other BF's which is nice and I'm getting more comfortable with him everytime I see him

 

[gameaddict]

ok so we've been dating for 2 weeks now and he's teasing me alot more ; touching (and only touching, not stroking or nothing) my dick, riding me alot more, rubbing his ass against my dick, letting me feel his ass...he even gave me a wristband that signifies who ever breaks it has full choice of what they want to do...is he suggesting something?