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So I'm going on my first date with another guy, we're gonna have starbucks and see a movie. I was wondering what kind of advice you guys have for this situation, I'm very nervous
 
Just don't let the date end with the movie. Movies can be awkward first-date activities, as you're basically sitting alone in the dark, not interacting with the other guy for 2 hours. It's sort of a sour note to part ways on.

So afterward go to a quiet, low-key bar or lounge and share some drinks. It'll loosen up the two of you and it's more intimate and relaxed than the movie / Starbucks. And that way, even if the date doesn't go so well, you can just get snookered and the night won't end up a total loss.

Or, if you don't drink, you should just invite him back to your place after the movie. Only do that if the date's been going well though.
 
Treborf said:
Just don't let the date end with the movie. Movies can be awkward first-date activities, as you're basically sitting alone in the dark, not interacting with the other guy for 2 hours. It's sort of a sour note to part ways on.

So afterward go to a quiet, low-key bar or lounge and share some drinks. It'll loosen up the two of you and it's more intimate and relaxed than the movie / Starbucks. And that way, even if the date doesn't go so well, you can just get snookered and the night won't end up a total loss.

Or, if you don't drink, you should just invite him back to your place after the movie. Only do that if the date's been going well though.
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I think this is some great advice. Even if you don't drink you could still go to a lounge and have a non-alcoholic beverage.
 
Most of all - be yourself, don't try to be what you think the other guy is looking for if it is not you - best to move on and meet someone else. However, both of you may just get too into each other and have some fun - and that my be all there is as well but you have had hopefully and interesting and enjoyable experience.
Good luck and let us know how it went. Cheers and blessings, G oo
 
sportsguy22 said:
So I'm going on my first date with another guy, we're gonna have starbucks and see a movie. I was wondering what kind of advice you guys have for this situation, I'm very nervous
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Just relax. Be yourself. Don't forget to ask questions. Listen. Smile.

At at the end of the night, if you want to see him again, say so and make an agreement about when you'll call or text to make plans for a followup date.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.
 
Two of the worst things to do on a first date is coffee and a movie.

Never have either gone anywhere for me.

At the movie there's no interaction. It's total dead time.

At coffee, it's all too serious and judgmental...
 
NineOfClubs said:
Two of the worst things to do on a first date is coffee and a movie.

Never have either gone anywhere for me.

At the movie there's no interaction. It's total dead time.

At coffee, it's all too serious and judgmental...
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I wish I had asked before we made the plans lol. Its a little late for us to change plans (it took us forever to decide what to do this time). I hope that we can work through the inconvience of the movie/coffee kiss of death lol. I'll be sure to let you guys know how this goes :) thanks
 
NineOfClubs said:
Two of the worst things to do on a first date is coffee and a movie.

Never have either gone anywhere for me.

At the movie there's no interaction. It's total dead time.

At coffee, it's all too serious and judgmental...
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I totally agree. Need to reverse the order of activities. Sex first to break the ice...then movie for some downtime...then coffee to discuss the movie :lol: Just kidding.

The first few dates should be FUN! If you're old enough to drink, bar hopping is always fun. You get to watch and talk about people around you. Don't be serious all the time. Find topics to lighten the mood to talk about. Avoid the discussion of religion and politics at all costs.

Let us know how it goes.
 
Well we went and got coffee and talked (well at least tried to I cpuldnt tell if he was nervous or just not interested) we then went to the see the dillema (less of a comedy and more of a drama) the night ended with a short conversation about the movie, a hug and agreeing to talk again soon. I'm not sure if he had a good time or not I was too nervous to enjoy myself too much (I was so nervous I burned my mouth with my coffee). I don't know if he wants to see me again or not if so next time I'll plan more to talk about
 
sportsguy22 said:
Well we went and got coffee and talked (well at least tried to I cpuldnt tell if he was nervous or just not interested) we then went to the see the dillema (less of a comedy and more of a drama) the night ended with a short conversation about the movie, a hug and agreeing to talk again soon. I'm not sure if he had a good time or not I was too nervous to enjoy myself too much (I was so nervous I burned my mouth with my coffee). I don't know if he wants to see me again or not if so next time I'll plan more to talk about
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Well, maybe you'll hear from him soon.

If that's what you want, I really hope so. ..|

Sorry to dis' your movie date idea. I have memories of all that quiet with no talking and the date I was with grabbed my hand and shoved it down his pants. I almost panicked.

Here in town we have a fun bar that's all old 80's and 90's video games, a place like that where you can talk and laugh, and focus on a bit of competition and fun--that's a good place. Or darts, pinball, pool. Maybe even bowling or roller skating. It's relaxed, you work off energy and have plenty of time to talk.
 
Do you want to see him again?

If so, let him know that you would like to get to know him better and ask him out again. The worst that could happen is for him to say no. At least you'll find out if he's interested in you or not...instead of waiting and wondering.

Take control of the situation and call him or text him in the next couple of days.

Good luck!
 
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