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First day at University

i felt the same way when i started college. by my 3rd day on campus i went to the gay group and had the best time ever! i made so many friends. great time.
 
As many have said, first days at university suck. I remember that awful first week like it was yesterday. I kept thinking OMG 4 years of this. I don't know anyone, no one knows me, I'm in a new strange city, with new digs, new roomie, new everything. It was really unnerving.

Getting familiar with surroundings and people, as well as getting busy with classes and homework helped.

Hang in there, and come here often. Here, you're among friends--and friends who understand what you're going through.

(*8*)
 
I thought that parties weren't my thing either, so when I went to a fencing party, I was pretty miserable. After about 1 and a half awkward hours, I decided to leave but as I left, my saber squad walked up (sabers always come late to parties ;) ) and they told me to stay and I really got to know a lot of them and they've been my buddies since. So now I love parties because even if I don't drink, I look forward to seeing my friends and hanging out with them and other fencers more.

So just grit your teeth and jump in and if you don't like it, what did you lose? Nothing. Now you know what you don't like. If you like it, you win, too. So just try it and have fun. Forget being closeted. You may be shy, but are you going to let your shyness make you lonely and miserable? I hope not.

Come on, guy! Just have fun!
 
Hey dude, i'm going through a similar situation as you, cept i'm rooming w/ my best friend. i'm closeted still and i don't like going to parties b/c i'm not into girls and that is all there is to do at parties. your best bet to make friends is just talk to people in your classes. also, just leave your door open and play some music you like and people will stop by and get to know you. also, remember that practically EVERYONE who is a Freshmen is going through the same thing you are, feeling alone w/ no friends. so be the person to initiate the conversation b/c they are feeling just like you, and would love someone to talk to. so go out there and get 'em!
 
luminum said:
I thought that parties weren't my thing either, so when I went to a fencing party, I was pretty miserable. After about 1 and a half awkward hours, I decided to leave but as I left, my saber squad walked up (sabers always come late to parties ;) ) and they told me to stay and I really got to know a lot of them and they've been my buddies since. So now I love parties because even if I don't drink, I look forward to seeing my friends and hanging out with them and other fencers more.
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I hung out at the party alone for an hour or so last night. I liked the music but I got miserable as well after an hour since I was alone. So I went back to my dorm and my internet wasn't working. Well it was working but it was like "I wish I had dialup" slow. So I went to bed around 1am.

Before the party, triple7 from JUB took me on a tour of Waterloo. I was really nervous and shy, but he was really talkative so that was cool. So I met my first gay person ever!

I'm looking forward to tonight since they're going to have this price is right game. The Price is Right is my favourite game show ever!
 
(UW or WLU? I'm UW Math 1990 and lived in Village 1 every term.)

If you're in math, engineering or science, do not be shy about meeting people. You'll need their help as soon as the weekly assignments start.

I'm not very outgoing. I'm rarely the first to start talking to strangers. I was in gay-denial until last year (at 39). So I endured some lonely times while at school. However, I also made some friendships that continue to this day.

Looking back, the guy on the floor that often had a male friend or two over then would close his door was probably gay. My point is -- you're not the only one on campus going thru what you're feeling. At least you know you're gay. You'll meet some others soon enough. Until then don't fret. Get out to the gym/pool. Join a club. Go to the Bombshelter or concerts at Fed Hall. Enjoy. Get drunk at Oktoberfest. (Don't try to steel a gingham tablecloth at Bingeman's. The bouncer will stop you.)

Last thought...None of my friends were into the sort of music I was at the time. I wanted to go to concerts at the campus pubs, but didn't want to go alone. So I got a job in security for campus concerts. I got paid to see the shows I would have seen anyway.

Good luck.
 
I'm in the WLU Business program and living in WCH.

I'm sure I'll talk to people in my classes since there's supposed to be a lot of group work involved in my business classes.

I'm not good friends with anyone yet but I'm talking to a few people. I'm not relating to anyone yet, but that shouldn't surprise me since I always have a hard time with that.

Time to head to the price is right! Oh, and I'm sick of all the cheering.
 
me12121 said:
I'm in the WLU Business program and living in WCH.

I'm sure I'll talk to people in my classes since there's supposed to be a lot of group work involved in my business classes.

I'm not good friends with anyone yet but I'm talking to a few people. I'm not relating to anyone yet, but that shouldn't surprise me since I always have a hard time with that.

Time to head to the price is right! Oh, and I'm sick of all the cheering.
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Like I said in the PM i sent you early this morning. Your in business class....there will be tons and I MEAN TONS of group work assignments! urgh.....start kissing your weekends goodbye! :) ..|
 
dude, you don't make good friends in a week. It is something that comes with time. Getting to know people and starting over sucks at the beginning. But it is worth it in the end always. And yes, the cheering gets old. Keep going to parties. I know I've been to some and felt worse for it for sure b/c I was lonely etc. But I've also been to parties where I thought it wouldn't be fun and ended up having a great time.
 
Yeah, I didn't make any good friends in the first week, either. Besides those I already had from high school, I didn't make great friends (besides my roommate) until the first month or two and event hen they're not so great as my best friends from high school.

Just give it time.

Isn't triple7 a cutie? He's so nice. It was sweet of him to take you out and around. If you seem him again, tell him I said hi.
 
luminum said:
Isn't triple7 a cutie? He's so nice. It was sweet of him to take you out and around. If you seem him again, tell him I said hi.
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Yeah, triple7 was really cute, though I didn't tell him that lol. And the nicest person I've met so far over here. His tour was fun and now I somewhat know where things are even though I'd need a map to get myself there again. This place is still pretty confusing but I'm starting to figure out where everything is on campus.
 
It takes time to really get a good feel for college. I usually find that I can accept and respect freshmen once thye have their first reality check/trauma. Mine was probably realizing I was actually hard core failing a class and had to pull out with a 'Withrdraw' on my transcript.

You'll be fine, kiddo.
 
I didn't expect today to be that great, but it was pretty good. In the morning we were supposed to go to the waterpark. I really didn't feel like going despite the fact that there would be hot shirtless guys there so I didn't go. Instead, I ate breakfast at 12pm, then was on my computer for a while watching Rosie on The View and then I had lunch at 4pm. I was feeling lonely after that, but around 7pm a bunch of the guys came back from the waterpark and was wondering where I was.

We all went downstairs to play pool. I was just watching but it was really funny. The guys would distract each other to not get the ball in the right hole by making sexual advances towards each other. They were better at being gay then I am, and I'm actually gay. But a few minutes after the sexual advances towards each other, they were talking about girls again lol. I still don't think they're gay but you never know.

Then we went to the field to watch movies. They had a huge screen set up at the field and everyone was laying down and watching Old School and X-Men 2. I thought Old School was really funny but didn't really like X-Men. One of our icebreakers (people who wake us up in the morning and take us everywhere as a group) came up to me and asked where I was all day. She seems to really care and make sure that every single person is having a good time. Once the movies were over, we all headed back because everyone was tired. I'm starting to get tired but I don't feel like sleeping yet.

So anyway, most of the people here are starting to seem very nice. Whenever someone is gone from our group, everyone is always asking, where did he go? Some of the gay jokes my floor buddies make can be annoying, but I'm not ready to out myself or anything. But I'm having a much better time than earlier this week.
 
There you go! You got over the first hump! The next one will be a little easier, then the next one will be easier then the second one until you reach a point where everything is going great! :)
 
Yep, and again, I would say force yourself to participate. Even if you don't want to. Because it could end up being fun... and if not... it can't be worse than sitting there watching the view.
 
jockboy01 said:
Yep, and again, I would say force yourself to participate. Even if you don't want to. Because it could end up being fun... and if not... it can't be worse than sitting there watching the view.
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Take this piece of advice! Its way better than having yourself locked up in your room alone :p and oh, just remember, you never know if you never go!
 
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