First gay bar experience

[digitaldude5]

Hey guys,

I'm going to be making my first gay bar outing ever soon, and I was wondering what to expect, really. I'm kind of nervous, but really excited at the same time.

 

[MaxMouse]

Aw well...I am a PRUDE, so for me it was really rough...my first time, I just went with friends and didn't like being hit on or anything... my advice now would be to just embrace it...stay with your friends, and even if you like someone don't approach them unless you go again and see them again, then you have an opener (hey I saw you here last week)...if people come up to you let them buy you a drink and have a casual conversation...that was my mistake and I have now gotten better at accepting drinks No matter what be yourself and don't get discouraged if you're not impressed by people...you kind of need to be a regular at a gay bar to enjoy it... (I personally have never gotten that far I prefer straight bars )

 

[chance1]

Hey guys,

I'm going to be making my first gay bar outing ever soon, and I was wondering what to expect, really. I'm kind of nervous, but really excited at the same time.

nervous and excited sounds about right

go with that

i would say this ........

don't expect too much - don't put pressure on urself

likely there will be others just like urself there - newbies so to speak

things r not always as they appear

wouldn't drink too much - keep ur wits

not sure if ur going with buds or a buddy - for me it made it easier or actually doable

not sure if ur outgoing or not - if u can summon the nerve to chat with others, terrific - if not, don't kill urself about it

have a terrific time

and let us know how it goes

 

[josher]

Just don't assume something is going to happen. Just play it as a fun night out. If something does happen, fine.

Don't be afraid to smile at people or to just say "hi" to people. No one's going to bite your head off. And if they act aloof, they aren't people you'd want to know anyway.

This is just a suggestion. Don't get drunk. It's very easy for people to make fools of themselves or make poor choices after too many drinks.

 

[mpdan]

I'm going to retrieve an old thread that may help calm your nerves....if not it should at least give you some conversation starters! Relax and enjoy yourself!

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73310

 

[Time]

I find it funny in a way that I've been to a straight strip club (my idea too) and never been to a gay bar and in Sydney its not like I don't have alot of choices for gay bars lol

 

[Lalada]

I went to my first gay bar just friday night... of course I didn't know that til I was already inside but hey, that's how it goes.

 

[Comrad]

Really depends on what city you live in. Hopefully you down live in the middle of no where. And really, over all, it all depends on your attitude, you can go into any bar with a good tude and have an awesome time. Works both ways.

 

[Love_chair]

Hey digitaldude5

I have never been to a gay bar either. And am sure I would be feeling the same emotions you are nervous excited my mind going back and forward on how it could be. But what I would do is go with some of your good friends and go in get a table with your friends and sit down and just be a watcher and start to look around and observe your surroundings. Because sometimes it takes alittle time and patience to get used to a strange place. And you should start to feel more comfetable as things go along. But most of all just be yourself don't drink alot if at all and if you are asked to dance and don't feel like it then just politely so no. I hope your first experience is a good one. You shoud write back and tell us how it goes good luck.

 

[digitaldude5]

So, I did it. I actually went to a gay bar for the first time ever.

I got in and pretty much took it all in most of the night. A friend of a friend works at the bar, so I got to jump the line and get in for free and I got a few drinks out of it too, to celebrate my first time.

I hit the dance floor pretty quick and had a blast. I didn't really dance with anyone, until some guy started grinding with me, and then all hell broke loose, in a good way. I danced with him for a long while and it wasn't long before we were feeling eachother up. Nothing happened though, because I must'be been a little too timid and he took off, but smiled at me for the rest of the night. I sent him a message on manhunt today, haha.

Another guy came and danced with me like 3 times, but would start to dance away and I wouldn't follow. It was weird, but he was really good looking.

Overall, it was an awesome experience. I got to dance with guys and feel completely normal about it. It was really cool, and I can't wait to get back again.

 

[Kadratis]

Heh, I'm jealous. Glad ya had a good time. The first time I went I just was completely overwhelmed, so I didn't get to do much except for just standing around and watching the guys dance. I guess my next visit will have to make up for it...

 

[goodtimes12128]

I didn't really drink my first time, and I definitely wasn't ready to be hit on by random guys, or eye-fucked from across the room. When I went, I was still trying to figure out my sexuality (I still am) and I met a lot of people, and every single one of them asked me what my sexuality was. I found that very interesting. I had a good time tho and want to go back again.

 

[ncboy85]

I'm glad you posted this thread because I have never been to a gay bar either and was interested to see how your first time was...I am closeted still and really don't have any gay friends so I would find it really tough going by myself and not knowing a soul in there...(but hey I might be surprised and see someone I didn't know was gay/bi)

 

[M4P]

My first time in a gay bar was a place called Le Club in Hull, Quebec, which is across the river from Ottawa, Ontario

I went with friends and since I was from out of town I figured I was safe. It was actually kind of scary because I was getting hit on and groped. I actually asked a friend of a friend to accompany me to the washroom

Luckily I gained more confidence later on and was no longer afraid

Funny story: I was at a business conference in Edmonton, Alberta. We were at this straight country bar. I was standing there with a co-worker who was also gay and started eyeing this hot man climbing the stairs. I guess I was a little too obvious because my gay co-worker tapped me on the shoulder and said "wrong bar, Brian"

 

[digitaldude5]

One thing I was advised about was not drinking too much, so I definitely controlled myself.

I probably had 7 or 8 beers through the night, 6 of which were consumed in a two hour period of pre-drinking before hitting the bar. I had an ok buzz (I remember everything said and done, and the worse thing was hitting on a straight guy, who was really nice about the whole thing) for most of the night and topped it up a couple times when I wanted a break to just sit back and watch.

Definitely am not going to go to get hamshowed anytime soon, but I can't wait to go back again. Probably in a couple weeks I'll be pulling two nights in the city and going out with friends both times. It's gonna be awesome.

 

[pinest]

My first gay bar was way back in 1984.The bar was huge.It was 3 levels!!!
The basement was for lesbians.They had thier own dancefloor.The main level was for the guys with a bar and dancefloor and the upstairs was a restaurant/stage for drag shows and such.It was a lot of fun.I never had a big problem coming out,so going to a gay bar for the first time was no shocking experience for me.The people were very friendly and all I remember was having a really good time.Being with others that felt like I did and not having to hide it was an amazing feeling.I hope your experience is a good one and that you just have fun

 

[007traveler]

I wasn't out the first time I went to a gay bar. A friend of mine had a gay friend and I wanted to see her because I was visiting another friend in the same city. They invited me and my friend who i was staying with to a drag show and she also wanted to go, so we went. I was scared shitless. The gay friend showed me the bathroom that had a porn room branched off of it just to tell me to be careful when using the bathroom! I basically stuck with my 2 friends and danced with them. They kept trying to unbutton my shirt and getting guys to hit on me just for laughs. I was approached one time with a hand shake and told I was very good looking. I responded with thank you and walked awkwardly away! I had a good time though. It is a little unnerving the first time to be eye fucked by random guys, but it gets more comfortable going out to gay bars.

Glad you had a good time at your first gay bar!