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Isn't there a park or some other public place where gay guys hang out? Or an adult book store and porno theater that's cruisy? That way you can see who you're getting.
 
in the future feel free to leave any situation where the guy doesnt match his description or pictures. you have every right to do that. if you bought a computer and it didnt work, wouldnt you return it?
 
mexicanpuertorican said:
hi, im new here, 20 yr old latino, i just wanted to share my experience 2 days ago, i decided to finally have sex w a guy and since a didnt wanted to go to a club i checked gay.com, went online and talked to people for like 2 months b4 i picked, latino, str8 acting, uncut (i told him i kindna like uncut guys over cut in porn), 8" (wich doesnt matter to me since i dont plan in being a bttm), 30 yrs old (experinece a plus), hot (pics), a lil over weight, so i went to meet him (his place) he open the door he didnt look anything like his pics, he was like 45 atleast, not over weight but plain fat, i said to myself you wanted this so here it is try to make the best of it, then he got naked just like that not even a "want a drink" "what u wanna do", his 8" uc, was a maybe 6 "cut" (maybe even smaller than 6 since i am 7 and his was quiet smaller, he only said uncut b/c i said i liked them), he got on his knees to suck me (great actually better than any gf b4 but not the point) then he kissed me (onion smell), so i kindly said i wasnt ready for sex w guy yet, and got the hell out of there.

Now, I still want sex but i dont know how, since i dont wanna go to a club.
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I can't say I have much experience, but I'd advise against random hookups. If you want to check online for someone to just hookup with, then I think you are more likely to run into a creep, or someone who in general just pretends to be someone they aren't.

I'll be up front. I'm a virgin. I view sex as part of a relationship at its most basic. So that's my advice.
 
You've got balls going to a strangers house for sex! What if this guy was dangerous? Nothing wrong with looking for guys online, but next time meet him first, and not at either of your houses. Next time you find an interesting guy online, ask him to meet you at a restaurant for brunch/lunch (dinner is too intimate), or meet at some other public place. At least then you'll know what he looks like, and if you get a good feeling about him, or you run for the hills.
If the guy is worth sleeping with (or just getting off with) he'll agree to meet you first wit your clothes on. If he won't meet you, he was'nt either what he claimed to be, or is not worth your time.
 
Dude,

You met your first fake dude on the net. So, what's the big deal?

People will lie and cheat, whenever an opportunity presents itself. See, even honest people will walk into your flat and take absolutely everything away, if you did not lock up the place in the first place. That's how this goes.

So, what do you do?

#1 Keep on trying. That's obvious.

#2 Make sure that the dude shows up at the nearby Starbucks or something of the kind, to make sure, he is what he promises to be, or at least meets your minimal criteria.

#3 Make sure he knows that you have told your best friend(s) about meeting him and possibly going to his place for a night of hot sex. Make sure that he understands that you respected his privacy but that all will become known and public, if he chooses to get funny on you.

#4 Lose the 'I don wanna go to club or somethin'' attitude. Dude, it is your cock and you want to have it serviced by a preferably hot dude. To get there, you just as well may have to compromise some of your attitude, if you don't mind my saying so.

Yeah, web works, but it is slow and more often than not inefficient. You have learnt that, haven't you? How about some little adjustment to show that you are not ready to repeat your mistakes all over again.

SC

PS.
Think of this: "What happens once will never happen again. But what happens twice will certainly happen for the the thrid time."

Paul Coehlo - The Alchemist
 
Next time say "dude wheres the guy from the pic?" Just kidding. Always meet in public first! I don't like clubs either, but theres always Barnes & Noble or something. DO NOT feel obligated to have sex with a liar. My first online said he was 6'4 he showed up looking like Danny Devito! Gee wheres the rest of ya, another car? Now it's public first, then we'll see.
 
Hey Mex,

Mate the key most critical important thing here is your safety. And your rights to say no.

Always try to meet for the first time publicly... a coffee shop, the mall...somewhere where you can wall away with out worry. Its a little melodramatic to suggest the world is fully of axe murderers but if nothing else you get to see the guy in the flesh... and to see whether or not hes a liar.

And thats the other thing mate. You always have the right to say no. To walk away... just because you met someone for a coffee doesn't mean you have any obligations. If the other guy isn't what he said he was then the game is off if you want it to be. A lack of honesty is not a good sign.

As to what to do... keep trying. Stay honest, stay hopeful. Not everyones a liar, nor are they 45 and overweight.

If you do the right thing and are honest and truthfull it stands to reason others are the same. Dont despair... take your time and when its right be careful and be safe. Most of all...have a great time!
 
Now, I still want sex but i dont know how, since i dont wanna go to a club.
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Oh yeah, the way you did it was so much better.
 
PSCGuy said:
I can't say I have much experience, but I'd advise against random hookups. If you want to check online for someone to just hookup with, then I think you are more likely to run into a creep, or someone who in general just pretends to be someone they aren't.

I'll be up front. I'm a virgin. I view sex as part of a relationship at its most basic. So that's my advice.
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Online hookups are a mixed bag. There are definitely a lot of liars but I have met some really great guys too. One even became a serious boyfriend for a year.

Meeting in a public space is highly advised. I've had to flat out tell guys that I wasn't interested (after finding out they've been less than honest) and just basically walk away.
 
most lie in online hookups especially craigslist. it might have a 1 in 50 chance of being satisfactory. even the good looking ones can be a waste of time. and pictures definitely lie, for better or for worse.

best to meet people in person!
 
I agree with HaX0788, I would never meet a guy unless I saw him on webcam first to make sure he was who he said he was.
 
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