First male experience... I really need advice

[rjason2425]

I come from a very religious up bringing too. And actually brought my family into cchurch. I am a worship leader and youth leader as well. So imagine the struggle i had. I used to cry for weeks after trying sex with a dude. But i kept going back when the urge really took over. Im still in the closet except to friends. It took me a long time for me to realize the love God has for me. A verse that really helped me is Colossians 1:16 For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him:
God created everything, that means he created me this way, he created homosexuality. Another thing is, what did Jesus say about it? Absolutely nothing!
Anyway im really glad you found a great person to experiment with. Its so much better connecting than a one night stand.

 

[dudester]

rjason2425 Thank you for that post...was very insightful. Glad u could work through the struggle you faced.

Wanted to update quickly though so much time has gone by, I never heard from this guy again. He responded to 1 text after I dropped him off post-meet up and has never communicated with me again or responded to any texts I sent him. :/ Definitely discouraging. And kind of confusing. Whatever he wanted to get out of our meetup he must have wanted really really bad and didn't care to look back afterwards! I think its a little strange myself, but what do I know?

 

[bottomjosh]

Dudester. The gay hook up scene can be tough. Your friend probably wanted to have fun with someone who knew what he wanted. I have hooked up with guys that were struggling with their sexuality, it is really draining - both for him and his partner. I learned the gay scene in some woods with guys having anonymous sex. It was fun. You might want to try that first.

 

[palbert]

With regard to the religious aspect you should remember that Jesus said "zero, zip, nada" about homosexuality. Any talk in the Bible about homosexuality has been grafted on or the subject of mistranslation.

 

[troncosoxl]

With regard to the religious aspect you should remember that Jesus said "zero, zip, nada" about homosexuality. Any talk in the Bible about homosexuality has been grafted on or the subject of mistranslation.

everybody has their believes, i´m catholic so of course im less liberal than the average (well thats what people may think), but i have no problem with homosexuals, but i do believe in a decent life, not only sexualy speaking, i believe people should practice monogamy and have sex when they are mature enough to know the consequences, and keep ur life in private, nobody cares or shouldnt care what are u doing inside ur house. I hate scandals not only from homosexuals, i hate when people in general are loud and try to be the center of the universe.

 

[bottomjosh]

everybody has their believes, i´m catholic so of course im less liberal than the average (well thats what people may think), but i have no problem with homosexuals, .

I am glad you have no problems with homosexuals considering you are spending your time reading and writing on a homosexual website!

 

[journo25]

I know it's been a while and there's not much interest. Quick update.

We met again today. Over the past weekiI've more or less convinced myself that if I don't try it now I will either never do it and just feel miserable or potentially act on it at the wrong time out of repressed feelings. So I felt I. Owed it to myself to just go for it.

Like I Probably mentioned, I'm a bundleof nerves all the time, and was definitely nervous today but not as much as last time. I have to say I really lucked out with this guy, he's super laid back, really friendly and patient... We've pretty much texted each other every day since we met. He's not pushy either so I wasn't pressured into going too far.

We watched some porn on the couch and next thing I knew his hand was on my dick... And off came the pants. After warming up to it abit I got really hard and we jerked each other for a while before he leant over to blow me.

HOLY SHIT. BLOWJOB, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE?!

That was a spectacular surprise and after a minute we swapped and I sucked his dick. Totally different than I'd expected. I kind of liked it, he was really hard so it was not the "texture" (lol) I was expecting. I guess I could take it or leave it but I think I got off on how much he liked it by hearing him moan. We alternated back and forth between hand and blow jobs before going to the bedroom.

We continued in that fashion in bed until he felt ready to cum. Then he got on top of me, pretty much chest to chest while I jacked him off and he came all over my stomach. I really liked him being on me and laying on me and I never thought I would say this but I thought it was really hot when he came all over me. He was definitely enjoying himself. He asked me to finger him so I could top and I did for a while but he said he wasn't ready to bottom at that time. He jacked me off and I came WAY More than I had ever cum before, like definitely twice as much. We didn't even have sex & it was the best nut I've ever busted! Lol.

I was kind of hoping I would get it out of my system but I want more... I'm not really worried about identifying or labeling myself as anything right now, I'm just going with the flow of it I guess.

Thanks again for the input and advice! I really like JUB.

Thanks for the update. Glad you had a good time exploring things at your own pace. You are very lucky to have found someone so randomly who is a good guy and isn't pressuring you to do more than you are comfortable doing.

But I'm amused by your comment, "We didn't even have sex and it was the best nut I've ever busted!" Dude, you had great oral sex, gave each other blowjobs and blew your loads! There is more to sex than fucking. Lots of flavors on the sex buffet. And plenty of guys--singles and couples--who will tell you they have a totally satisfying sex life and it doesn't happen to include anal penetration. Maybe once you realize that you've already HAD sex, you won't be quite so nervous about "taking the big step."

At the very least, you are bi curious and you've satisfied your curiosity in a very pleasurable way. Enjoy the moment. And enjoy trying other things when you are both ready. Again, you are so lucky to have met someone you can communicate with about what feels right for each of you.

 

[hjsimp_992]

get on craigslist, suck a dick, and see if you like it. then fuck some pussy. see what you like more

 

[Shelby29]

With regard to the religious aspect you should remember that Jesus said "zero, zip, nada" about homosexuality. Any talk in the Bible about homosexuality has been grafted on or the subject of mistranslation.

I usually shy away from proselytizing, allowing each individual to determine his own relationship to any, or no, religious group. I was raised Catholic but drifted away years ago especially as I questioned my sexual orientation. But I never lost my own personal desire for a relationship with God as a baptized Christian. In light of the quote above I thought it might be helpful to others who are like me. There is a great book, The Children Are Free (Re-examining Biblical Evidence On Same-sex Relationships), by Rev. John Miner and Rev. John Tyler Connoley. They clearly show in chapter and verse how Scripture has been mistranslated causing consternation, pain, and guilt. After reading and re-reading it I have felt as though a heavy weight, a burden, has been lifted from my shoulders. I'm Bi and feel perfectly confident in my relationship with Jesus Christ for the first time in years backed up by the correct Biblical translation.

 

[Curiousguyonthedl]

I usually shy away from proselytizing, allowing each individual to determine his own relationship to any, or no, religious group. I was raised Catholic but drifted away years ago especially as I questioned my sexual orientation. But I never lost my own personal desire for a relationship with God as a baptized Christian. In light of the quote above I thought it might be helpful to others who are like me. There is a great book, The Children Are Free (Re-examining Biblical Evidence On Same-sex Relationships), by Rev. John Miner and Rev. John Tyler Connoley. They clearly show in chapter and verse how Scripture has been mistranslated causing consternation, pain, and guilt. After reading and re-reading it I have felt as though a heavy weight, a burden, has been lifted from my shoulders. I'm Bi and feel perfectly confident in my relationship with Jesus Christ for the first time in years backed up by the correct Biblical translation.

Interesting information. I too am a Christian and attend church but deep down inside I’ve had this curiosity of being with a guy for a long long time. What has kept me from advancing on it is the teaching I have received from my church. I will definitely check out the book you recommended. Based on what you have read does it actually line up scriptural? I’m asking because sometimes the nature of this content tends to get put out of context. If it does indeed line up with the scriptures then it definitely is encouraging for me to possibly act upon my feelings.

 

[ballcaphair]

Interesting information. I too am a Christian and attend church but deep down inside I’ve had this curiosity of being with a guy for a long long time. What has kept me from advancing on it is the teaching I have received from my church. I will definitely check out the book you recommended. Based on what you have read does it actually line up scriptural? I’m asking because sometimes the nature of this content tends to get put out of context. If it does indeed line up with the scriptures then it definitely is encouraging for me to possibly act upon my feelings.

Do not be confused by the old testiment. Jesus teaches that God is Love. Don't judge yourself or be judged by others. Love the Lord and love yourself. Know that Jesus forgives you even before you forgive yourself. Jesus knows exactly who you are.

 

[Curiousguyonthedl]

Do not be confused by the old testiment. Jesus teaches that God is Love. Don't judge yourself or be judged by others. Love the Lord and love yourself. Know that Jesus forgives you even before you forgive yourself. Jesus knows exactly who you are.

Thanks for that. As each day goes by my interest in taking it up my ass for my first time keeps growing. In fact if I already knew someone I could trust I would love for them to explore my ass and pound it.

 

[dd788snipe]

Dudster I was raised in a strict religious home. My Dad was a Southern Baptist preacher. I fought the battle for most of my young life. As I got older I realized I was happier when I didn't argue with myself. When I finally gave in to being with a man. I couldn't believe I waited so long and was mad at myself for missed opportunities in my life. We only live once. There's no second chances. Take it from an old guy and go for it. Regrets Suck believe me.

 

[str8guy]

Oh my.......straight, bi, trans, curious.....who cares. I just love sex, that's what I tell people.

Chewchilla couldn't of said it better, no need for labels and the confusion just rage

 

[hjsimp_992]

Ok, so this is my first post, hope you don't mind a longer one. I'm 22 and I have alwaysconside myself straight, but when I was in high school I was not really allowed to date and go out with girls. I don't know the reasoning behind this, but that seemed to be what my parents wanted. I also was kind of an outcast and always wanted to be one of the popular guys. So, I think through those reasons I started to develop some fantasies about guys.
I was also brought up very religiously and still am very religious and spiritual, so at first I was terrified and did everything I could to avoid thinking about that, but I would ultimately buckle and watch porn or just jack off while thinking about fucking another dude. It got so I would do this on and off, and then switch to jacking off to straight porn and back again, until now when I live far away from home and alone.
I've lived alone for like 7 months. I've looked at craigslist and responded to m4m ads kind of for the thrill of it, but always freaked out and would try and go "straight" cold turkey (I know, I know) but this last time was different.
I got exchanging emails with a guy and then it came time to exchange pictures. And shockingly enough, he kept responding afterseeing my face and even said some things about me he found hot. This was something I had NEVER ever experienced before. It felt really good to be considered attractive.
So, we got texting and the texting got really sexually charged, which led to me going to meet him. I felt confident we would at least give each other handjobs or blowjobs. We met, he seemed cool, and then we parked in the car and he told me we would go slow. He reached and touched my dick over my pantsand then I got too freaked out to go on,but I felt I covered it fairly well. He was really understanding, and we went back to our respective homes and continued to text each other, but I just kept feeling sick about the whole incident, even though I still feel like I really want to fuck him. I tried to quit again and then by keep again, and here I am. I want to break this cycle once and for all. I thank you for reading for those that did and apologize for any typos, I wrote this on my phone. So, what should I do? Partly it's a new thing so it's nerve-racking, but also I feel a moral concern too (FYI I have all the respect in the world for gay dudes and girls and only feel this way about myself, I would never force my values on another and I'm not saying you're morally wrong). do I hook up and try all the sex stuff I want or go in theoopposite direction and seek some kind of help?

Find a woman ok with you being bi. live a good life.