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First person you told you're gay/bisexual?

How could I forget...Feb 2007, I was in my lowest period due to clinical depression. I told a gay friend I was bisexual. Had a crush on him for a year (told him that) and he liked me too. Didn't work out, I'm not attracted to him anymore, but we're good friends.
 
her name was jenny and she was my supervisor at work. we were talking about kids and getting married and i told her that i would never do either. she asked me if i was gay and i said yes.

i had to repeat myself almost 10,000 times to her that day because i had the tendency to play pranks/jokes on her and she tought i was doing it again.

from then on; i jokingly regretted it because she liked to use it as cannon fodder to get back at me whenever i pulled a prank on her.
 
It was my wife of 25 years, and she was quite unhappy about it.
The divorce was swift and final.

That is about as out as I could get. She had my kids on the phone within the hour, and a few other of our friends. My coming out was a bit of a rough journey for a brief time.

Shep+
 
The first person I told was my niece. Actually, I started to tell her at a family gathering, but got interrupted. The next time we got together (at a concert), she says "I don't think we finished our conversation". She was/ and is the most understanding wonderful woman I know.

Next, I told my best friend. He says "I thought you already told me that". I guess most pretty much had made up their own minds. I have to say, telling them outright was like lifting the weight of a car off of me!
 
My sister,some years back.She wasn't surprised but was very supportive.My other sister and brother know and are very supportive though no one else knows.
 
I told one of my closest friends first. He and I had/have always been able to talk to each other about certain parts of our lives pretty openly, with both of us offering the other advice and an opinion.

I told him because a situation at a party had developed that allowed me to come out to him as a nearly seamless part of conversation. Also, I was really eager to start the coming out process because at that time I was a semester into sophomore year in college and not out to anyone.
 
I told one of my close girl friends...I've known her for years but after I told her...we became best friends. I actually told her on aim messenger LOL. We were joking around

she: so will you ever gonna get married?
me: I can't....
she: why not? do your parents set up a rule or something?
me: no...I just can't
she: o.O wtf
me:.....because the law won't let me
she: oh?
she: OH..........
me: yea :/
 
I was thirteen lonely and confused wanted someone to talk to, I told my mother after much soul searching---She told me " No you are not", and belittled me for the next few weeks--I never brought it up again and it made me hide that much more, since the one person who I thought cared about me made me feel so bad about it. I have not talked to her in over ten years and don't miss her at all---
 
JASON0980 said:
it was a very odd morning. i just started talking and the next i couldn't believe what i heard myself saying.
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Yeah, sometimes it happens like that.

It's just a feeling of...I dunno, a feeling that you've been holding this huge secret inside yourself for so long and it's gotten so heavy that once you start to let it out it's like a dam breaking, or something... Things just start pouring out...

And the relief feels so good you don't want to stop, but at the same time it's like listening to someone else talking even though it's your own voice.

Giving voice to the thoughts that have been running around in your head for so long is a feeling as glorious as it is strange.
 
The first person I told was my best friend, a girl I had gone out with several years prior. I knew I could trust her with it. It was six years after that before I told another person.
 
I think the first person I said all three words to was my sister. Or it might have been Caroline. I know I was fifteen when I finally came to terms with it and understood what it meant and felt that it was the right lable for me... which was long enough ago that I don't remember things very clearly. I certainly don't remember what we were talking about that prompted me to say those three words, but it came up naturally in the conversation, I didn't plan to tell them or worry about it. I was just talking, there was no confiding involved.

The last person I told was an elder at Grandmother's church. And between that day and this, no one has been even remotely surprised by the information.
 
My best friend. I've known him since first grade and he was so cool about. If I had received a different reaction I don't think I'd be so open about it today.
 
My ex-friend. We were sitting outside watching our other friends play basketball. This guy walked by (his name was James Brown) and I said under my breath he's hot. Just to get a rise out of him.

He was like "WHAAT?!?!" I was like nothing. He then asked me if I was gay, and I said no. He was like "ok Kevin, i'll wait for you to tell the truth" so I was like "ok, the truth is...i am gay" and he just said "oh" and that was that.

I told him in the hopes he was also gay. We kind of had this silent...affection for each other and I was certain he was. Anyway, he said he wasn't and I was ok with that. Didn't stop me from having the biggest crush I have ever had on him. He later told me twice he was "confused" then eventually it all fell apart.

I can't blame him though. He wants to be a pro baseball player and you can't really be gay in the proleague. I just wish we had ended on a good note. He was an awesome friend to me.
 
Piggy said:
You should try and get in touch with him. No reason to end a friendship like this.
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lol naaa it's well and over.

You know, when he said oh, I was like "thats all!?" like there is nothing else you want to say, just oh. but i didn't say that outloud
 
As a kid, I was taught to never discriminate against anyone; no matter who that person was. Everyone was created equal. I figured I could tell my family and it would be okay. Less than a week later, I was no longer welcomed at home and I was thrown out.

Many years later, most still don't accept me but it's made me a stronger person.
 
As a kid, I was taught to never discriminate against anyone; no matter who that person was. Everyone was created equal. I figured I could tell my family and it would be okay. Less than a week later, I was no longer welcomed at home and I was thrown out.

Many years later, most still don't accept me but it's made me a stronger person.
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Wow, that is harsh. Sorry you had to go through that.
 
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