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First Post, need some advice. This is driving me insane

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First off, sounds like he's being a cock tease.

Second advice. Tell him how you feel. Tell him...that way he'll either do one of three things....

1) I feel the same way about you!
2) Never speak to you again cause well your gay
3) thank you for the offer but he's not interested/gay

It's that simple. I know, I know...It's hard to put yourself out there sometimes but take it from a guy who's been there. Stop causing yourself all this pain and just tell him. Course if your really smart (no insult intended here!!) you'll won't get involved with a friend. Been there myself and he used me until he got a girlfriend. We don't talk to each other anymore.

So there you go! Oh hey...welcome to JUB!!:wave:
 
Welcome to the site. Here's a (*8*)

I agree with screwnutty but I've never been in the situation.
 
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i'd say he's a tease. at least thats what it sounds like. he just enjoys attention and doesn't care who he's getting it from. thats not bad per say unless it's you who starts to like him too much and his lack of attention to you causes you a bit of pain like it's doing.

i personally wouldn't read into it. some guys are just playful like this and it doesn't mean anything. some folks are not bothered by changes in plans at the last minute. some of us are. so if it bothers you and it doesn't him, you'll just have to get used to the idea that he can and does cancel on you at a moments notice. don't assume he's going to follow through with whatever plans you made....at least not serious plans.

- mikey
 
I think your problem needs more input that you will get here in newcomers..so I am moving it to the relationships and coming out forum where I think you will get some excellent advice! GOOD LUCK:wave:
 
Well it could be he has a crush on you, but it could be alot of things. There is only one way to find out.

The real question is what do you want to do about it? (Since there is no way we can answer the question you asked.) You have a couple options as screwnutty pointed out. In previous stages of my life I will definately do X, but now that I am in my current state there is no doubt I will do Y.

Welcome :wave:
 
Sounds like he is curious and probably into you.

If you don't want to ask him, then set up a situation for you guys to be alone. Then offer to fix that back of his. If he seems open to more, then start talking some about how you feel. Use your radar and communication to guide you the rest of the way. Be careful about too much sexual invovement at first, though. He may later feel guilty.

Good luck and Welcome! :)
 
I agree that he sounds at least a little interested. But would he pursue that interest if given the opportunity is another issue and one that nobody can answer... maybe even including him.

Wish I had more obvious advice but that already given looks like decent options. I might say it would be easier if you could find a way to just be friends with him, but I know how hard that is in these situations.

Lastly, I agree with mike_n_herrin about the broken plans. I have been horribly guilty of that a lot and don't realize how much it bothers some people. Things just come up and plans change... to me it's no big deal, but I've had friends very upset about it. So maybe he is like that too.
 
sounds like a serious man-crush from both sides - and you both know how to push each other's buttons

if he really drives you that crazy thinking about him, make some subtle moves ... be touchy-feely with him - put yourself out there a little but not in a way that's just like a str8 bud - see how reacts

of course, i'm a big fan of forcing issues and can't stand ambiguity
 
Whatever he is doing, it's more likely that it's all about him and not all about you.

His cyclical ignoring you could be him trying (and failing) to wrestle his "wrong" feelings for you under control.
 
Mike Herrin's advice sounds sensible to me. Since he may just be the flirty type (with many people) you may be projecting more into his behavior than he could imagine. I guess you must decide whether to risk the friendship for the sake of a possible romance, or just go very slow & see where things lead (where he leads). You already know where you want to go.
 
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