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First Steps!

What you're feeling is grief, which is a complicated emotional reaction to loss -- of which you've endured a great deal.

Caring support, especially from people who understand the experience, is probably the most effective tool for getting through grief, so it makes sense that once you opened up here and received positive support, it resulted in a roller coaster of feelings.

You're very brave. Your willingness to be open and honest, to take a chance and not let fear of pain shut you down, will be good for you in the end. Keep talking and keep reaching out. (*8*)
 
I took another step tonight. I went to a Gay Mens Coming Out Support Group at the LGBT health center. All day, I was somewhat apprehensive about going. But I knew that I just needed to push through my fears. I left work with more than enough time to get there only to find that there was an accident on the highway. I ended up taking all these back roads eventually taking me 1 1/2 hours. The cool thing is that I was so focused on getting there, I did have time to focus on any of my fears about going.

Although I arrived 10 mintues late, I felt very at ease with walking into the group meeting. Right off the bat I was asked to introduce myself and asked if I had anything to share. I felt so comfortable that I was tempted to open up and share with the group. I held off because I want to get a sense of the group and how things flowed. No one pressured me to say anything. Towards the end of the meeting, I was asked again if I had anything I wanted to share. By now I was not feeling as comfortable as I was when I first walked in. Regardless, I decided that if I was going to get anything out of joining the group, I need to open up.

I started off fumbling my words but grew steader the more I spoke. Everyone was very supportive and was quick to share similar experiences and tell me that I am not alone.

I am already planning on being there next Thursday night.

JUB posters - Thanks for the encouragement!
 
On The Sideline - way to go :=D:

I'm proud of you for having the courage to attend the meeting and to share

Please keep updating us on your progress

Brian
 
Way to go! You keep going! You're going to make friends and have great support!
 
I'm really proud of you. What a great first step.

I don't think you are on the sidelines any more! :)
 
I have always like looking and reading posts on jub. but I cant remember how i found this place.
 
On-The-Sideline said:
I took another step tonight. I went to a Gay Mens Coming Out Support Group at the LGBT health center. All day, I was somewhat apprehensive about going. But I knew that I just needed to push through my fears. I left work with more than enough time to get there only to find that there was an accident on the highway. I ended up taking all these back roads eventually taking me 1 1/2 hours. The cool thing is that I was so focused on getting there, I did have time to focus on any of my fears about going.

Although I arrived 10 mintues late, I felt very at ease with walking into the group meeting. Right off the bat I was asked to introduce myself and asked if I had anything to share. I felt so comfortable that I was tempted to open up and share with the group. I held off because I want to get a sense of the group and how things flowed. No one pressured me to say anything. Towards the end of the meeting, I was asked again if I had anything I wanted to share. By now I was not feeling as comfortable as I was when I first walked in. Regardless, I decided that if I was going to get anything out of joining the group, I need to open up.

I started off fumbling my words but grew steader the more I spoke. Everyone was very supportive and was quick to share similar experiences and tell me that I am not alone.

I am already planning on being there next Thursday night.

JUB posters - Thanks for the encouragement!
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Wow! Way to go!

And I'm envious -- Oregon doesn't even HAVE such a thing!
 
Kulindahr said:
Wow! Way to go!

And I'm envious -- Oregon doesn't even HAVE such a thing!
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Kulindahr,

I appreciate your support. The way I found the center I went to on Thursday night was through the GLBT National Help Center website - www.glnh.org. The site has a listing of local organizations. I did a quick search and found the Abdill-Elliss Lambada Community Center in Ashland Oregon (www.abdellis.org)(541-488-6990). I don't know where you live in Oregon. Maybe they can help you find resources near you.

I hope this helps. Let me know.
 
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