First time advice URGENT D:

[hahajkilied]

Okay so ive never posted anything here before but i really need some advice on my first time.

so you prolly guessed it by now... im a virgin (i feel its by choice since ive had opportunities before but i wasn't really sure about my sexuality and so confused i kinda just pushed it aside and went on with my life) Anyways now that im older and know myself better im sure im in to guys and want to try something with this guy i met online. He has never been with a guy either but has been with girls (he says hes not sure if hes bi but has been wanting to experiment for a long time) and so im thinking this is a good opportunity for me to explore with someone that hasent done it with a guy either.

Im sopposed to meet him in about 20 hours, after i get off work and sleepover at his house. Right now im kinda freaking out, He said hed let me fuck him even tho he thinks hes not ready for it if i let him fuck me after. I have tried using my finger and it it hurt so im kinda scared of that.

hopeyou guys can give me some first time tips. ill check the thread when i wake up thanks!

 

[HunterM]

You two DO NOT have to do anything you are not comfortable with. Let him know up front when you meet. Always use condoms and lots of lube when fucking for safe sex. There are other sexual acts, besides fucking, you two can do with each other: tongue kissing, frottage, blow job, nipple playing, cuddling, etc.

The person doing the fucking, use lots of lube and enter slowly. The other person has to keep breathing and relax.

Make sure both of you take a shit and clean out your assholes with soap and water before fucking. In fact, this is a good opportunity to take a shower with each other as foreplay.

 

[medic1]

You two DO NOT have to do anything you are not comfortable with. Let him know up front when you meet. Always use condoms and lots of lube when fucking for safe sex. There are other sexual acts, besides fucking, you two can do with each other: tongue kissing, frottage, blow job, nipple playing, cuddling, etc.

The person doing the fucking, use lots of lube and enter slowly. The other person has to keep breathing and relax.

Make sure both of you take a shit and clean out your assholes with soap and water before fucking. In fact, this is a good opportunity to take a shower with each other as foreplay.

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This , as usual Hunter hits the nail right on the head , i have never seen him post bad advice when trying to help someone , though
he does have a wicked sense of humour .

As Hunter has said communication is the key to having a great time because you both know what you and him want .
As the hormones and scent kick in it is so easy to go hell for leather , especially if this is the 1st time for you both .

I always love loads of foreplay before getting down and dirty , also as Hunter has said do not feel pressured into anything
that you do not feel comfortable with .

I hope that you both have a great time , take care Adam , .

 

[hahajkilied]

Thanks for the advice you guys so he was blowing up my phone this morning wanting pics and then i guess he finally took a moment to think about this and said he wasnt ready and i was kinda relived so i told him that maybe we should take it slow try a few other things before sex and see whare that goes

 

[seven2go]

^ I wouldn't exactly close the door yet.
Do you two know what each other look like? Maybe one of you won't be able to stand the sight of the other.......or any number of other qualities you may or may not like.
Meet anyway.......go somewhere and get a little acquainted at least.......

 

[hahajkilied]

thats what ive been trying to get at with him but he always reverts to just a sexual relationship

 

[ElmosToe]

Good advice given in this thread, but I would agree with Seven.
If this is the first time even meeting, let alone doing anything together, then you need to just meet first over coffee or something, maybe see a movie together.

Take him to Starbucks, buy him a Frappuccino, as you're handing it to him, say "here dude, you need to chill" (really bad joke)

I would be leery of someone who is demanding a sexual "relationship" without even meeting first. Think about your health and safety.

 

[FPNY]

How about meet for a coffee and talk a bit....see where it goes. Forget Skype and all that nonsense. Meet him in person. If you took the sex off the table would you be so nervous?