First time bottoming

[godson112]

Hey
On next saturday (8 days), I'm gonna be having sex, and I'm a top, but I want to try bottoming as in the shower, I've tried a few things and I found I enjoyed the feeling of having a finger in there. There have been a few occassions where I've managed to to fit two fingers in there.
I'm just worried because I don't want my first time bottoming to to hurt too much. I'm expecting some pain, but I want to be able to eventually enjoy it in that same session.
I have lube, I bought some KY stuff, and we've got condoms obviously.
I've been reading around some threads and seen how some people felt a lot of pain with just one finger, but I didn't feel any pain at all, so I'm hoping I won't have that much of a problem.
Is there anyway I can loosen up a bit beforehand?
Is there any advice I should follow or suggestions? Thanks

 

[panda29]

Use a lots of lube, buy several sizes of dildos & or butt plugs & just have fun with them!!

 

[topinboots]

If you have a good top, they'll work you over till youre ready for it..they'll rim you a little and play with it so that you should be begging for them to shove it in! If he knows what he's doing though, he shouldn't just shove it in- he should recognize that you're tight when he's rimming your hole (and tell him too). In the meantime, get yourself a toy and practice a bit with yourself...then maybe after your top rims and plays with your hole a little, can use the toy to relax you before going in...

 

[godson112]

Use a lots of lube, buy several sizes of dildos & or butt plugs & just have fun with them!!

I don't have the money for those things

I have thought it through pretty far, because it's with a friend I've had a crush on for a while, and we've just basically agreed to become fuck buddies, and our first time will be on saturday.
I just had a shower and sort of played around again and I easily managed to get two fingers in without any pain at all with a bit of lube.
Does it sound like I'm going to be OK?

And neither of us are into rimming at all so thats a no-go lol

 

[KaraBulut]

I don't have the money for those things

I have thought it through pretty far, because it's with a friend I've had a crush on for a while, and we've just basically agreed to become fuck buddies, and our first time will be on saturday.
I just had a shower and sort of played around again and I easily managed to get two fingers in without any pain at all with a bit of lube.
Does it sound like I'm going to be OK?

And neither of us are into rimming at all so thats a no-go lol

If this is your first time and you can't afford to buy sex toys to practice with, then you just need to have reasonable expectations about your first time.

Your partner should spend time preparing you. He can use lube and his fingers- starting with one finger, then two fingers, then three finger until you've relaxed. Learning to relax your anal sphincter is the key (which is why we recommend dildos and butt plugs at first). The sphincter is a muscle- it has to be trained like any other muscle.

When you are relaxed and lubed up, you're ready to try it with your partner's penis. Some guys like to start by sitting on it- this gives you control of stopping and starting while you're getting used to it. Once you are able to take all of his penis, then you can change to another position that allows him more control.

An important thing- don't get upset or disappointed if you are not able to bottom for a long time the first go 'round. It's more important that you enjoy the experience. If it hurts, then stop, do something else and try again after it stops hurting. If it continues to hurt, then get each other off and try again another day.

Some people are natural-born bottoms. Everyone else has to learn.

 

[gotdimples77]

It's ok if you arent into rimming...i only lke to do it in the immediate context of a shower myself...although I love receiving it anytime lol. Anyway, have him suck you off and finger you with lots of lube with one finger then two, or three. but keep in mind that his dick will likely go farther than fingers... There are two sets of muscles in your ass. the first set will hurt some when he puts his dick in you as these are the ones that will want to keep his dick out, basically but also the ones that will be wrapped around his dick. but these will realx and feel good after a little while. the ones farther inside are the ones that can cramp up and hurt for awhile afterwards, especially if he is a hammer-er. You can keep him from banging into these by adjusting you r position either by being on top or spooning, and doggy style. If you are on your back with him on top of you he can shrink the length of your tunnel and bash into the second set of muscles. This will feel good to him but can be really uncomfortable to you if you arent used to it. Power bottoms like it cause it makes them feel "full of cock" lol
oh! eat fiber the day before and take a good crap before hand hehe. And dont eat alot of greasy food for a day before.... no one likes to hear this stuff but it is good advice.

 

[godson112]

Thanks for the advice.
I'm hoping I'll be ok as I've got plenty of lube, and I can fit 2 fingers in myself, move them around, slide them about without feeling any pain whatsoever.