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First time dating, what's the problem here?

slowandsteady

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I'll try to keep this short and readable. This was my first time with another guy, without their 10 friends or brothers coming along. We started hanging out two weeks ago by going to a museum 3D movie. Talked in the car and 30min before the movie started. He took me to get some pizza and the park afterwards. I asked and he said he was interested in me. I believed in honesty is the best policy. I didn't have anything to hide from him. We both believe in 1 to 1 relationships only, no public display of affliction, etc.

Last week, I was hesitant but asked him to spend Valentine's Day with me. I drove and paid for our dinner. Went to see Slumdog Millionaire movie and he said it was a good pick. He tried to kiss me goodnight but nervous me asked for a hug instead. He seemed to enjoy the hug with his "mmmm" sound. Next day I called and eventually asked if we can 'play' together, he seemed interested.

He said he should be free this weekend so I called him at 2pm today...no response. Called 2nd time at 5pm and his voice answered instantly on the first ring. I couldn't make out his voice but it sounded like "wasup" or "stop". He didn't say anything else or hang up on me. Two minutes later I called again...no response. He knows my cell # and has caller ID on his phone...just not talking to me??? No email either.
 
We can never know why people act the way they do or why they change their minds. Best thing to do is stop contacting him and move on. As much as you may want an explanation, you'll never get one so cut your loses.
 
If he doesn't return your call I'd say move on. As hard as it will be don't call him again. If he calls you in a few days there could be a good explanation for his absence but I doubt it
 
People are strange. now it's his turn to contact you, if he doesnt within a few days he's just not interested suddenly. happens.

btw might have come on too strong with the calling more than once. even if I was pretty into a guy, i'd get ticked if he called me more than once in a span of one day much less 3hours.
 
Okay this is sounding really weird. First of all, asking if this guy is interested in you is a major turn-off, for me anyway.... I mean, can you be anyyyy moreeee of a Desperate Debbie? Just let things rollll...


& I know he said he should be free on the weekend, but maybe he changed his mind about you two, & the relationship. I hate it when people are like "What does this mean??? I just don't understand?? Yada yada yada".

If he's interested in you, he'll

a) call you.
b) answer your calls when you call him...

He's not doing either of those things, so wait a few days, & see what happens. What ever you do, don't call him again. Raiding his phone all fucking weekend isn't gonna make him want to talk to you!
 
Call, leave a message. Say "Haven't heard from you in a bit, just want to make sure everything is OK, give me a call when you have a sec." If you don't hear from him in the next couple of days, consider him a lost cause, and move on.

Lex
 
Guess I should tell how this ends, I don't like it when stories are not finished. There was a miscommunication. He went skiing because he thought I was busy that weekend. Guess he didn't want to pick up and say "i'm having fun skiing w/ my buds!" He popped up at my house 10 days later, offering to take me to lunch. ...It was 2pm, my face was covered with acne cream and I haven't showered in 30 hrs. He stayed the afternoon. Spent 4 hrs in the car with him last Friday >.>
 
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