First timer advise

[rareboy]

I do admit i have played out my gay desires in the dominant role on female partners. so this means? ? ?

I assume it means you fucked your woman in the ass and pretended it was some dude.

And that your desire for guy sex may be more about having some man subservient to you as a bottom or blowing you than about exploring mutual pleasure and equality in a homosexual relationship. What a rush eh? To know that you are the ultimate alpha male in a contest between two guys.

You flashing your penis in front of other guys and bragging about your sexual conquests of women isn't likely going to be the conversation opener that gets you the attention of most homos. Although if you're specific enough in your ad, it may get you some.

For every voyeur there is an exhibitionist, for every sadist a masochist and I'm sure that in your case there's someone out there who will pop a chub thinking about how you'll use them like you stole them.

Good luck with this.

 

[goodtime36]

Sorry guys for coming of a little strong.

I do feel that I would like a sexual experience that I was not the dominate partner.

I think the "submit" term for me means giving in to my desires even thought I have been denying "part" of my sexuality most of my life.

I still will want to have sex with a women.

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Nothing wrong with that. The term "bisexual" exists for a reason.

But like rareboy above, the only vibe I got from you is was a "looking to conquer" sort. Which, again, is totally fine - it's a common enough fantasy, and there are plenty of gay guys who enjoy being dominated. But it's a common misconception among straight and bi-curious guys that every gay man basically craves one thing and one thing only - to have their ass-plowed, and the bigger the better. And t'ain't so. Yeah, there are plenty of gay men who love bottoming, and plenty of size queens. But it obviously isn't true of all of us - otherwise, we'd all be lying around with our butts in the air, waiting for (I guess) bi-curious guys to finally give us a go.

And I may be misreading your posts yet again, but when you speak of "not being the dominate partner", I'm not sure if you mean "I'd like to try being submissive". If so, again, not really a problem. But although much of gay sex certainly can be defined by "roles", that doesn't mean everybody likes the same stuff every time...or even within the same encounter. Some nights, I crawl into bed with a guy not knowing who (or what) is gonna end up where. We just start kissing, start putting hands places, and see what we end up doing. It's called "fucking for fun", and as the name suggests, it's a good time.

Lex

 

[Lube]

Sorry guys for coming of a little strong.

I do feel that I would like a sexual experience that I was not the dominate partner.

I think the "submit" term for me means giving in to my desires even thought I have been denying "part" of my sexuality most of my life.

I still will want to have sex with a women.

Just forget the women for now, ok? That's not what you're worried about. Your concern is first-time sex with a man.

So forget Craigslist, forget the hookup sites.

Look for gay social groups in your area, and befriend some nice gay guys. You'll find a world of advice and maybe find a nice guy to blow.

There are thousands of guys like you and me.