Flirted at? Help me understand!

[Erasto]

Hey guys, i rarely come here, i'll try and fix that. Basically im an games artist at this new job that i'm working at, I was a storm model not too long ago, i was fired because i refused to fly abroad for a photoshoot because it clashed with my new job (which is my desired career, only just graduated, just turned 23), for that reason and i gained a couple of pounds (new job all i do is sit and draw) and got me super depressed. Because of this i lost my confident and am currently working on that.

Enter the hot coffee guy working at the place i get my breakfast. the manager is really nice to me. He asks me alot of questions which he really doesnt have to. he constantly smiles and what a beautiful smile he has and alwyays makes conversations, i know he likes me, i sense something and this morning while serving me he said "i'll make you my special hot chocolate", i smiled and asked "how special we talking about"? he smiled and said "very, just hope it isnt too salty" (sex joke??) and he gave me the chocolate, he drew a super cute smiley face on the foam, i blushed and made a quick exit.

Now i know he doesn't do this to everyone, my friends say he just serves them and says nothing, and they told me that joke was a sex joke ...if you get it. how do i show im interested?

Believe it or not, despite being an ex model, im still a virgin (my family is super religious and crazily homophobic -> my dream was to get a job that pays well and move the hell away.) let me know what you think! give me some tips!

 

[Tobeey]

Whaaat?! Next time you pay for your coffee, slip him a note with your number on it. Or if there is a customer feedback form, fill it in with your details and tell him it's for his eyes only. He's the manager so you could always call him aside with the pretext that you want to make a complaint or something. Many ways you could do it.

 

[elGeniuoso1721]

honestly, straight up, ask him out. for coffee, lunch, dinner, something! he's working, so it's generally not in good taste for the employee to be asking out customers (unless secretly he slips you his number).

Make the first move! if it seems that he's obviously interested, then go for it! plus it's a great confidence booster! and put the fact that your a virgin in the back of your mind. take it step-by-step, go out first

good luck and give updates!

 

[Erasto]

So he definitely was flirting? Are you guys sure its not something customer service managers do? He even gave me a discount i never asked for (i was entitled but he brought it up)

Its so crazy....but i cant stop thinking about it.....i mean, i was hit on alot of times but damn, why do i feel so different?

 

[Seasoned]

You probably feel different because the situation is different or you feel more excited because of him. He's testing those feelings as he doesn't want to totally cross the line by being direct. Ask him when he's through with work and see what he says. Give him your number.

 

[Erasto]

How do i know he's not being super friendly? I wouldn't know what to say, this is a first for me, i honestly looked normal being hit on like that, its not like im modelling anymore...what if he's really just being a tease?

I wish i had ya'll confidence!

 

[djunkie]

He is definitely interested. I would just ask him when he gets done with work...and see what he says. I would pull him aside first though. You do have the confidence...it's there...you just gotta find it.

 

[Georgiadude]

He's very interested. Next time you go in ask him to make you another cup of his special chocolate but instead of heading for the door, sit down in the coffee shop. Plan a little extra time. Give him a chance to come over and make some small talk. Have a couple of topics or questions ready in your mind. I promise he'll make the effort to stop by the table if he gets a chance. If it's busy he may not get a chance. Don't take that as a negative. By leaving right away he doesn't get the chance to get to offer his number or ask you out. He may feel like he's chasing you off or making you uncomfortable.

Having said that, he may only be looking for a hook up so keep that in mind. It's too early to tell and don't get all worked up about it. He's def. interested in taking things further. You just need to give him the chance to let you know what he's looking for.


Steven.

 

[ZmercTheDuke]

yeah hes flirting mate, but most importantly how was the hot coco?

 

[Erasto]

Eeeek! I just found out their 'special hot chocolate' isn't so special, its their way of saying thanks, someone else got the same one. Is this a game changer? Alright, i'll man up and see what's up!

 

[ZmercTheDuke]

just ask him out, if he says no, just enjoy their awesome smiley face hot coco. Wish a coffee place around here did that.

 

[chance1]

def worth a shot - odds are good he likes you

and if not ............ nothing lost right?

 

[Erasto]

Alright! I'll go for it, im totally suave when it comes to ppl so even if it does go horribly awry i'll just talk my way into fixing it!

Just for your information guys - I'm totally not like this usually, i never take myself seriously, most of the time im very cool-headed and confident, also im quite the joker might i add