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Fooled again!! Is this a joke??

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Ok...so I met this guy (natedogg323) around the end of 2001, we talked for a while and when things started to get serious with us he backed off......well he broke my heart and we lost touch....well then March 9th I logged onto my Yahoo! messenger and he was lit up, so I talked to him, I was way over all the crap that happened...well we ended up talking that night on the phone and quite a bit on the phone after that to the point that I switched cell phone companies so that we didnt get charged up the ass...I was very leary to go back into a relationship with him, but was assured that he was going to prove to me this and that and whatever else, well we got back together (I think) and anyhow...a few weeks into it, he starts acting like he did from before...and we break it off with eachother because he says that he is not ready and this and that...I guess that this is all my fault for taking him back, I tried to be everything that he wanted...I am so hurt and confused AGAIN!!! I just cant believe it...guys, tell me...is there something wrong with me, or is he just not serious and is playing around with guys?? I just dont know...
 
Umm, both are possible, right?

Only kidding. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with either of you, you're just having trouble making it work.

I'd tell him, Look, I've given you two chances, and you've screwed me around both times. Now the ball is in your court. If and when you can prove to me that you're ready for a stable relationship, I'll consider being your friend again. Otherwise, I've got better things to do with my time.
 
Thanks for the advice...however...I dont want to make it to three strikes just to get my heart damaged again...but I hear ya...take care slobone. HUGZ

Dustin
 
Dustin,

You appear to be a caring person. Take things slow and do not allow the other person to set the pace. Aim for being a friend and if more happens, great.

Don't try to get involved with this person on anything but an acquaintance basis. If more develops over time, great.

I get the feeling that he felt either pressured or that things were moving too fast. From what I read, you felt it was getting together to reignite the relationship. Was he on the same page? Either there was a communication breakdown or a complete misunderstanding. Either way, don't aim for a relationship with this guy. Move on.
 
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

No more chances to fool you.
 
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Dude,

You did your part. You tried. He tried. Twice.

Sadly, it did not work between the two of you.

Take it as a learning experience and move on. There is life out there and plenty of great dudes to make friends with...

SC
 
NatezMan said:
I guess that this is all my fault for taking him back, I tried to be everything that he wanted...I am so hurt and confused AGAIN!!! I just cant believe it...guys, tell me...is there something wrong with me, or is he just not serious and is playing around with guys?? I just dont know...
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Bud, while the mistake you're focusing on is taking him back, I might point out that a more telling mistake might be what you said above--that you tried to "be everything that he wanted."

If he was worth having, you wouldn't have had to try to be anything other than yourself. A man might enjoy or get off with someone who is willing to change themselves for him, but rarely will he really respect that person.

Be yourself, and find a man who will value that. When you change for someone, not only do you end up alone when he leaves, but you end up not knowing who you are after he's gone.
 
Um, don't you live in Florida and while he lives in Ypsi-tucky? Isn't that kind of long distance? There are plenty of homos in the greater Ann Arbor area, maybe he's seeing one. Like really seeing one. As in right before his eyes.
 
You don't give any indication in your post that you've ever actually met this man - have you? You're naive if you're prepared to make assumptions about a relationship 'getting serious' based only on phone calls and electronic communication. Five years have passed since you placed yourself in a vulnerable position before. The result was that you were hurt. Now you're repeating the scenario. It appears that he has not changed in the last five years. Have you?
 
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