For bisexual guys

[hothole724]

sorry i disagree..i think an emotional attraction to a female or male is more important than the physical attraction..i can almost guarantee you that he is somewhat attracted to women also just more attracted to men..i am very much similar to the man you were describing above haha

 

[bilbo5000]

I think I disagree also. To make a relationship there needs to be both physical and emotional attachment. A straight man has complete physical and emotional attachment to women while a gay man feels the same towards men. A bisexual person is split and unsure in one or both areas. I can see where you are coming from, but I think it takes a bisexual to understand what it's like. I don't know maybe I have some inhibitions about getting emotionally attached to a man but I am the same as the bisexual man you talked about. I feel romantically attracted to women but sexually attracted to guys. I don't know how else to explain it.

 

[bilbo5000]

I guess I can see that. It's all about how you define "gay" though.

 

[dutchjoe]

interesting. I am attracted physically to men and romantically more to women. Although I can also find women very beautiful but only 1 out of 10 times will i masturbate thinking about women. Does this make me more gay? Maybe. Although like the others that posted here an emotional attraction is more important than a physical attraction but both are important of course. I have not met a guy yet where i felt real emotional attractiveness but plenty of guys where there was a strong physical longing.
I guess it really depends on the person, one can't classify a person as being more gay or less heterosexual if they are attracted more to a man than a woman. I mean they also think of women and men (that makes them bi right?). Like Bilbo5000 it is hard to explain but i do see where you are coming from. If I met a man where I was emotionally attached to and sexually attracted to then I would be a very lucky man, guess us Bi-guys have a hard time ;-)

 

[Rex]

This is my struggle.

One of the few guys I'm interested in hooking up with is bi, but he seems in denial. He used to still say he's straight but over time told me "yeah... I guess I'm bi." He claims he likes the sex better with men but is against doing anything like kissing and doesn't like any emotional attachment. I used to feel the same way towards guys so I'm not sure if this is a phase he'll eventually pass or he will always be like that. What makes this situation worse is he is the ONLY guy who I've had an emotional attachment with and it drives him away.

What's even more confusing is when I asked him what kind of guys he likes he tells me "I don't really find guys attractive." meaning he likes the sex with guys but doesn't care for their physical appearance which I don't believe at all because that would mean he could settle for any guy since it's just about sex, which I doubt is true.

I'm bi, but I'll admit that I lean more towards guys. I am though EXTREMELY picky about guys because I only like other bi guys and only ones who come off as completely straight. I know that sounds a bit odd but it's how I am.

As for the question, I don't think it necessarily makes someone gay if they lean more towards men than women but I think some guys are in denial and even though they may like men more they can't allow themselves to have any emotional attachment to a man because they don't want to turn gay.

On another note, I think many guys identify as bi simply because they think identifying as gay sounds worse and they don't want to be gay.

 

[PhoenixInferno]

I am like the exact description you just posted. It's not that I won't be emotionally attached to men, but I always feel more sexual toward other men than women. On the other side, I prefer to have a romatic relationship with women, but I don't have the same sexual "feeling" than I do for men.

And I don't identify as bi simply because gay sounds worse (as arabbb have stated) because if someone were to call me gay, I wouldn't deny it, but if someone asks me if I'm straight I'll say no

 

[blackbeltninja]

This is exactly where I find myself.

I have met many women I think I could love, and three which I have loved to a lesser or greater degree, and that I think I could easily settle down with forever.

However, I have yet to meet such a man. I have many close male friends and I know plenty of guys, but none that I think I could feel emotional enough to set up shop and say "that's it - I have found my soul mate." Perhaps it is just a mental block on my part, but I don't think so.

Sexually, though, is an entirely different story. I am turned on very much by the physical aspect of sex with a woman, but it is still more prominent and thus far has been more thrilling with a guy. Perhaps I am just interested in sex, regardless of gender. I suspect a psychologist would have a field day with me.

I don't know what the official definition of gay is, but I couldn't see myself loving a man. I have only ever loved women. However since I have a sexual attraction to both, I have opted - at least, in the meantime - for labelling myself as bisexual.

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PS: For what it's worth, I'm impressed with the OP for this. All my previous experience with your posts has been largely in pissing contests and bunfights out in HT and this is an interesting departure. I realise as I write this that it sounds horribly patronising, which is not my intention, but I'm going to hit the post button before I change my mind.

 

[954dude]

I have a stronger sexual attraction to men then women, and emotional attraction to both men and women.

I've dated more men and get rejected a lot by women. It's probably the bisexuality that puts them off. Oh well, I'm still gonna be me.

I understand where you all come from. We're all different in preferences.

 

[dwc1]

I could not see myself in a relationship with a man.I look at women all day long and that is what I essentially want to be with, but I guess I like sex enough to be with a man.

 

[KURT10677]

I could not see myself in a relationship with a man.I look at women all day long and that is what I essentially want to be with, but I guess I like sex enough to be with a man.

I agree with you I have a girlfriend , and I dont see myself having a relationship with a man maybe just fuck around. Ive been with probably 3 guys my whole life and I'm a top no shit going in my ass no rimming none of that shit.

 

[conrad]

"Some of our members swing both ways." That certainly does not describe me. However, I was fortunate in being the kind of person open to new revelations about myself and my world. At the age of 15 I had made a new friend and that new friend and I had the privacy to do those things which I had onlyever heard about. Very soon we were deeply bonded as more than friends and we found ways to express and confirm that bonding. We learned by doing and we did IT all in a relationship that spanned the last two years of high school. The sex was fantastic and only became more so with time. This was a part of our sexuality which we had never even considered before.

The summer between our junior and senior years we were apart; he was working on a ranch in Montana and I was not happy with his absence. But, it was during that summer that a dear lady, five years older than I and a lifelong friend, provided me with a very comprehensive introduction to sex with a woman. I was gloriously comfortable in enjoying the wonders of sex with a lady as well. And, I was very happy to be back with my teen friend in the fall. Strangely, neither he nor I ever thought of ourselves as anything but regular guys.

To make the long story short. I had other long term relationships with both men and women before I met the person I was willing to bet spending the rest of my life with. Faithfulness in relationship is important to me. But, though I have had no sexual relations with any man for many years I do know that I can be comfortable and fulfilled in such a relationship. There are definitely two sides to my sexuality and that does not frighten me; it never has. All of my former partners are still my very dear friends whom I continue to love.




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[fireside]

I find a lot of times people will say that any male who finds even the slightest inkling of attraction--sexual or otherwise--is gay, largely because that person may have a heterosexual "demeanor". It doesn't seem to work in reverse, where a person who is "widely perceived" to be homosexual who has even the slightest inkling of attraction to a female. That person gets 'bisexual', but never 'straight'.

There are arrangements of these words that probably make more sense, but that's an idea I had in my head that could theoretically be presented in this conversation.

 

[ejbonk]

I have to disaggree with your ideas,on the subject.
I personnally find I'm attracted to both sexs ,on all levels.

 

[ejbonk]

I can only speak for myself. I want a man that is a man. Not a man acting and dressing as a woman. That's what I have a wife for.

 

[954dude]

So guys, I really wanna ask bisexuals, I'm not stereo-typing, but you're attracted to both men and women. How come some bisexuals say they are not attracted to men who look like women, or women who look like men, given they have the same level of hot with the straight men and women? I think that's being drag-o-phobic, not to mention a slight level of discrimination.

Its preference, but at times it can be discrimination. Being bisexual has a level of open mindedness, but not for everyone. I won't turn down a transvestite or transsexual if I'm attracted to them and like their personality. I've met a few that are smarter, more interesting, and sexier than these hot guys with nothing going for them but their looks.

 

[Rex]

I could see myself having sex with a transsexual but I'd be creeped out if I saw her cock and I wouldn't want to kiss her/him. It would be a weird experience but I wouldn't be apposed to it. More or so I'd prefer to just play with her tits and have her blow me but I know I'd have a feeling of shame and "wow, I just did that?" afterwards.

 

[xtc99992003]

I'm pretty much was has been described many times. I'm physically attracted to guys but physically and emotionally attracted to women. I don't want an emotional relationship with a guy. The only thing like that with a guy would be a friendship... a brotherly bond type of thing. However I don't consider myself bi or gay. Mostly just sexual. Sex interests me. I wouldn't limit myself to the pleasure I could experience... so long as it falls within my preferences of attraction.

Even more interesting... while I may think I'm interested in having sex with many guys, I have only met one I truly feel comfortable enough with to even get that far.

As far as being attracted to transsexuals or transvestites/drag queens... I'm not. I feel if I'm going to have sex with a man I want the whole thing and non-feminine traits with it. Same with a girl... I want all the parts to be at least partially authentic and not made by a doctor with a knife. It's not that I'm discriminating... I understand they are a person and why they decide to choose that... just not my type of person to be attracted to. It would be similar to saying I'm not into a girl who has the emo/punk/goth clothing style going on.

 

[Narcissism is fun]

While true that I am attracted to both men and women, I dont like ALL men and ALL women. I look for different things in them. I'm not attracted to men being women or the other way around because they just aren't my type.

It's just the same as why stright guys find some women attractive and not others, and same for gay guys.

For example, what I look for most in a guy, physically, is a fantastic ass, while a woman's is her face.

 

[SwitchHit50]

I personally am VERY attracted to men who look like woman (shemales if you will) never been with one let alone seeing one in real life, but the more gorgeous they are, the hotter I get just looking at that cock between their legs. Someday I'll explore a bit, I hope.

So guys, I really wanna ask bisexuals, I'm not stereo-typing, but you're attracted to both men and women. How come some bisexuals say they are not attracted to men who look like women,

 

[KURT10677]

Its preference, but at times it can be discrimination. Being bisexual has a level of open mindedness, but not for everyone. I won't turn down a transvestite or transsexual if I'm attracted to them and like their personality. I've met a few that are smarter, more interesting, and sexier than these hot guys with nothing going for them but their looks.

A tranie yuk, that is waht a woman is for, who wants a manly woman with a dick