For Fuck's sake. Clean up your room.

[Taralen]

Since you guys brought this up.

This was WAY back in the day, in the amateur forum.

It was this white passing guy average height and weight kinda hairy and cubbish/otterish I guess with neckbeard, and he had to be in his mid to late 20s

He posted a few pictures of himself in his bedroom, and don't get me wrong he was attractive and good looking, however I remember (the posts later got removed and deleted of course), the background and behind him, all you can see was clutter for days.

There was like take away and candy wrappers, pizza boxes, chip bags and empty tubs of like Ben and Jerry's ice cream, styrofoam food containers, beer bottles and cans and soda plastic bottles. Dirty underwear on the floor, there were paper towels or toilet tissue in big pieces all over the floor, among other stuff of a similiar consistency.

But the absolute worse, is that there were two vlassic pickle jars that looked like they had urine in them and he was just too lazy to go to the bathroom. Smh.

I remember some guys in this thread and some guys who are sadly no longer on JUB, we were all in agreement that for his own safety and because we love him not because we want to make fun of him or shame him on the internet, we need to call the fucking hazmat team immediately.

Omg.

I understand it's hard to clean, especially being a guy. But if you don't have time to clean or want people to see your cluttered mess in your house, maybe get one of those black background things photographers use and just put that behind you. lol.

 

[suckpoppet]

I understand it's hard to clean

Especially when people keep buying all that TRASH that they don't really need. Buy-buy-buy, and then too lazy to give it a proper place.
There is no excuse for untidiness.

 

[mikemizanin729]

Especially when people keep buying all that TRASH that they don't really need. Buy-buy-buy, and then too lazy to give it a proper place.
There is no excuse for untidiness.

There is no excuse for it.

 

[Alistair]

But it's easy to clean a mirror before you take a picture, and put the toilet seat down. I don't care if there's towels on the floor, but if you don't put any effort into a picture you're trying to impress people with, what does that say about your personality?

 

[peeonme]

I believe that some people get used to dirt and clutter, it grows around them gradually and they hardly notice it, although if it gets to bad they don't let people into their homes.
At that point I think that they feel overwhelmed by it and hopeless. Not all who live in homes filled with junk are hoarders, some are depressed and others are just lazy.

 

[G-Lexington]

My place is pretty cluttered, but even I have the presence of mind to clean up before taking a photo...or having company over. To be honest, I sometimes invite people over just to force myself to clean house!

Lex

 

[Alistair]

My place is pretty cluttered, but even I have the presence of mind to clean up before taking a photo...or having company over. To be honest, I sometimes invite people over just to force myself to clean house!

Lex

Yes your couch was very tidy in your last post a current pic

 

[jbrown329]

I believe that some people get used to dirt and clutter, it grows around them gradually and they hardly notice it, although if it gets to bad they don't let people into their homes.
At that point I think that they feel overwhelmed by it and hopeless. Not all who live in homes filled with junk are hoarders, some are depressed and others are just lazy.

Clutter? I know what/who hoarders are. My grandmother was a hoarder. Not only did she have a house full, she had buildings full. That woman wouldn't throw a bent straight pin away!

She could've had yard sales until the year 2300 and would still have stuff.

 

[Kyanimal]

My parents were/are traditionalists when it comes to male/female roles. Males do NOT do "Housework"! (As silly as that is.) My Dad wouldn't know how to fry water to save his life! (And, no, "fry" is not a typo.)

At any given moment, to this day, and Mom is now 90, Architectural Digest, or any other publication, could show up at her house, unannounced, and start shooting pics.

We were never really conscious of her keeping things presentable because she was constantly doing it, little bit by little bit.

As kids, we were taught to be neat, but we never had to Clean anything. It happened "Magically", right before our eyes, unnoticeably.

The result for me? I'm neat. I don't like "clutter". Everything has it's place.

However, when it comes to Cleaning? I have a deep, ingrained, aversion to "Housework"!

Thanks to Mom's training, and unlike Dad, I do know how to do it, boiling water, etc. It's not a mystery to me, and I know it's not all that difficult.

What I find myself fighting is Dad's influence that it's not something that I, as a Guy, should be doing! (Which, I admit, is sheer Idiocy!)

Though I'm fully aware of that, and how ridiculous it is, I still find myself, after all these years, still finding it difficult to follow Mom's example!

My house is neat, but there is dust, and even cobwebs. The bathrooms have to get to the point of almost beyond disgust before I'll force myself to clean them! (And, it doesn't take that much effort, or that long, to do it!)

SO, there is NO way ANYONE is going to be let into my house! Unless it's right after I've kicked my sorry old ass into doing what should have been done all along!

Pathetic, I know!

But, that's what I'm confronting in battling myself.

 

[jbrown329]

Grandpa didn't have to clean house. My brother and I had to help grandma clean house. And do laundry (with an old wringer washer). And help hang it on the clothesline. Don't you DARE to let that clean laundry touch the ground!

I learned how to use a 'real' washing machine when I was 11. When I was 8, I was taught how to clean an outhouse.

I know how to cook. I can sew, by hand or sewing machine. I know how to iron. I do windows, but it'll cost you a small fortune.

I'd never had a dishwasher until I was 41.

 

[G-Lexington]

Yes your couch was very tidy in your last post a current pic

It still had a cat on it. That's one bit of "clutter" I can't do much about.

Lex

 

[peeonme]

@Kyanimal, I came from a family where men didn't cook or clean, that was women's work
My dad ran a tight ship, the home was spotless, food on the table and we did as we were told.
After his death in '61 when I was nine things changes, we ate out a lot and little by little the house became messy.

I was sent away from home for 18 months when I was 13. When I came back it was beyond belief, piles of books and newspapers.
Dirty clothes and dishes, there was a path though most rooms, you had to move things to find a place to sit.

We eventually left town, rented a house in the Detroit area and my brother joined the service, the entire time that he was gone I paid the rent and utilities (I was 16 then), oddly, my mother cooked and cleaned house.
Then 3 years later we heard a knock at the door, it was my brother, he had been sent home because of drug abuse.

Then it started again, I noticed books piling up, dishes left unattended to, laundry was done on an "as needed" basis, if you ran out of clothes you either bought new or did the laundry.

I finally moved out and got married, my wife has handled most of the housework until the last few years. I have found myself having to take over more and more of it. Now I do it all, cooking, cleaning, the yard, shopping, the bills, if I don't do it, it don't get done.

I take some pride and satisfaction in having a clean home and live with a fear that if I slow down that it will turn into a dump.
My problem isn't an aversion to housework, I just find myself worn out and to be honest, somewhat confused, I have a mental list of what I need to do and I can walk from one room to another and forget why I am there.

So, don't give up, we all have our battles.

 

[kev]

When I was in college, if the phone rang, my roommate or I had to go to the cord coming out of the wall and then follow it to the phone.

 

[jbrown329]

When I was in college, if the phone rang, my roommate or I had to go to the cord coming out of the wall and then follow it to the phone.

 

[G-Lexington]

When I was in college, if the phone rang, my roommate or I had to go to the cord coming out of the wall and then follow it to the phone.

My Freshmen year of college, I was rooming with a neat freak. I tended to be somewhat cluttered, and it drove him nuts. He was forever telling me to straighten up the room.

My sophomore year, I ended up rooming with a guy who had been exceptionally neat and tidy his Freshmen year as well. But that year, he sort of deconstructed himself. Stopped being very anal-retentive about of a lot of things, including keeping the room neat. And in fact, he became extremely slobby. But everybody who saw the room thought *I* was the cause of it, since I'd been getting grief for it the previous year. People would peek into the room, and say "I don't know how you can put up with Lex being so messy." And I'd yell, "NONE OF THIS STUFF IS MINE! IT'S ALL TODD'S!" Nobody believed me.

Lex

 

[Kyanimal]

As I've said, I've always been neat. My problem is the "clean" bit!

Yes, I'm very aware of it, and understand the basis for it (Thanks, Dad!).

As ridiculous, and stupid, as it is, I have a deep, ingrained, learned, aversion to "housework"! It's simply something Guys don't do, until we're forced into it!

 

[rareboy]

^ You might try this.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

^
"A woman's just too tired to think about the dirty old dishes and the kitchen sink".

 

[GreyUnderscore]

Hi my name is Anthony and I'm guilty of having a messy room.

Ok ok, it's not as messy as some of the pics I saw here but I do have a tiny pile of clothes that I've been meaning to put away/throw away. At least they're clean and that's better than them being dirty, right?

 

[rareboy]

Hi Anthony.

You're among friends.

This is a safe space where you can share without fear of judgement or recrimination.

Now clean up your laundry before you take any selfie dick pics.