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For who ever cares, How i came out.

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My coming out to my mother was one of the most stressful times ive been through and it was all my faulty. My mom was hurt the most in the process. As I had just recently discovered my best guy friend was gay. Well we started dating. As time progress we got more and more intimate. My dad had just bought me a car as I was 16 at the time. I went as far as to sneek out in the middle of the night to go spend time with him. This turned out as one of the best and worst things to happen to me.

I took advantage at the fact that my mom was taking sleeping pills and would sneek out constantly. As we all know this can only go on for a while. I remember one time I went out as I was leaving I saw a car behind me and I thought it was weird since there arent many cars out at 2 in the morning. I was a little bugged by it but still continued my usual path. I went and came back home later on like usual. I thought I had gotten away with it. The folling day my mom asked me where I was going yesterday at night. My heart sank I saw my moms eyes fearing the worst. I was like I went to my friends house to pic up a game. She was like don’t lie to me.

Then that’s when all the questions began. She feared I was on drugs, drinking, and even worst that I might be sleeping wit my friends mom. I decided that it was time to put every doubt to rest. I began to cry and I told her that there was something that I needed to reveal to her. I just couldn’t figure out how to say it so then she asked me are u a homosexual. With tears and fear filling my eyes I answered yes. I could tel this tore my mom apart.
 
I'm really sorry to hear that it didn't happen under better circumstances. But things are out in the open now, so at least you don't have to lie about who you are anymore. I'm happy for you in that sense. Head up man. I'm hoping for your return to stability.
 
The good part about your life being reduced to shamble sis that you have nothing left to do than rebuild. So pick up the pieces as you go along and build toward the future.
 
thanx for the encouragement, like i said it was good only because i feel free but i need help on helping my mom to deal with her disapointment
 
The best thing i can think of is to direct her to the resources at Parents and Friends of Lesbins and Gays (PFLAG). They exist specifically to help parents deal with and come to terms with their child's sexuality or gender identity. They exist in several locations, so there may be one near you.

http://www.pflag.org The website helps you locate PFLAG orgs near you.

But, as the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Likewise, you can offer your mother resources, but it's ultimately up to her to make those strides toward changing her attitude. Believe me, I know.

But it's important to be there with her along the way. This a process she needs to go through with you there, as an open means of communication. Only then will she have the opportunity to understand you and you her.
 
yeah i feel shes coping really well and she tells me that she loves me the same or perhaps more because she sais she doen't give a crap wut others think she sais it just hurts her the pain that i have endured dealing with my feelings, i just want her to be happy and i feel being latino its kindoff hard to have an understanding parent because of the culture and everything
 
Then it sounds like your mother is in a better place than most. If all she's concerned about is that you suffered in silence about your feelings, then she's accepting you. The task now is to work together so that you don't have to deal with your feelings alone or with any kind of hurt or shame.

Your mom sounds sweet. You're very lucky to have her.
 
i guess ur right my mom is awsome and i have to realize how hard it must be for her thanxs
 
well atelast everything is good now even though you might make your mom sad but atleast you being truthful to yoruself, you dont have to suffer like those day having to know you are gay alone, and well all parents love their children and i think your mom is oen of them and she is very udnerstanding from the little info you gave us so i think no matter what she will still lvoe you and soon she will accept it, it just all happen at once and she might not be ready so it shock her. But i hope you feel better soon and so will your mom. Good Luck and happy life
 
You should have said you were on coke. You OBVIOUSLY were not ready to come out, so why force your way out in that way. In this day and time it seems as if even being on drugs is more acceptable then being gay. And my choice of drug would have been tons of weed and or coke/speed. Yea
 
Don't worry so much what your mom thinks... how do YOU feel about coming out so suddenly? Do you feel like the bricks have just fallen on you or do you feel like they've been lifted off?
 
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