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forced out the closet :( need help

Gooey45

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So im finally out which is a good thing but the way it went down was bad.

on thursday i went to visit a friend of mine we were drinking so i decided to stay over his house
friday came and we decided to go to a gay club in new york it was my first time so i decided to go.Had alot of fun loved the enviroment felt so at home like this is my place.Saturday came and we decided to go to the village first time there too wow i never knew there were so many gay people . :D feels so good to see em. well then after that sunday i was drinking again and i stayed over for the last night. meanwhile back at home my older brothers one is 30 the other is 23 im 22 btw .they went into my room and took my computer to the police station filed a missing persons report and they had the cops run thru my computer.Now this is where it gets funky the cops told them all i have done gave them all the numbers i called and everything so when i got home i was already out i told my 23 y old brother he and his girlfriend who i live with are ok with it they dont care is the same enviroment as always which i kinda knew was going to happen cuz hes my best friend .But my older brother wont give me back my sim card does not approve and wants to send me out of this country he has my computer too i am not able to talk to anyone and i feel so sad i need to talk to someone to clear my head so god took me out of the closet wow.just goes to show u computers are a pandoras box.
 
Wow---you were gone only one day and the police went through your personal information and released it to your family??? Since the police gave your computer to your brother than you can always have them call and make him return your property to you. You are 22 years old? How would your brother have any power to send you anywhere?


Sorry, it happened this way for you. Hopefully in the coming future when things calm down your brother will be more accepting.
 
A missing person's report? There seems to be some info missing somewhere.

You apparently like in the US. In which case, your brothers have no legal say over you. You may have to hit them over the head to get your stuff back, but do what you gotta do.

Lex
 
I see three separate issues.

Your brother has no legal right to keep your property and certainly you have a right to demand it back even though you may have to involve the police and that may make a difficult family situation worse.

You are an adult and your brother has no authority to send you anywhere. Of course, if you are somehow receiving financial assistance from him, then he can use that as leverage and giving up his help may be the price you have to pay.

It showed very poor judgment, and a serious lack of consideration and respect for the family, to stay away from home for four nights (Thursday through Sunday) without contacting anyone. Filing a missing person report was the right thing to do. I had a foster son many years ago and the relationship ended over this very same thing. He stayed away the weekend without letting me know he was doing that, and I was worried sick. I was not willing to put up with it after he did a second time.
 
I completely understand why they filed the missing persons report , but why they have to take my personal computer and my cell phone and look into my business couldnt they have waited at least a couple more days i mean i let them know i was ok and where i was i sent them both emails before they filed it and they still filed the report and went ahead with exposing me , As for my oldest brother i still have not spoken to him and im having my closer brother the 23 y old get my stuff for me because the oldest is not budging on what he is saying the one who lives with me does not relay anything back to me and frankly i know im not leaving the country and i know no one can force me out of where i am but i know he will harass me he is like a crazy father cuz my real father was never there for me. Well all is to say im sittin alone in my house i have no one to talk to im mad confused about myself again i dont know when was the last time i didnt use the self defense mechanisim as to my sexuality usualy i always had an alibi a story and excuse ready now i cant excuse myself.

I wish someday they both accept me and can be proud of me is been 22 years living a lie and finally is over.But right now i just keep thinking back as in how stupid i was not to let it out sooner when i was like 16 maybe by now i wouldve been had a nice relationship maybe a boyfriend or two instead of sneaking off .(thats what i always did sneak off leave for a couple days) the funny thing is my brothers girlfriend and i never really got along but something came good out of it cuz we very cool now lol :D im happy bout that cuz i hated the skank ;p im going to just lay low get me things and then move far away from them and never talk to them again wether they accept me or not i got to many dam issues that i keep to myself im a private person and i only let those i feel comfortable around know who i really am everyone else gets a different mask.

on another note this is the relationship part of the thread . Ok so the dude i was staying with is very attached to me i have made it clear over and over that we are just friends and thats it. When we went to the club on friday night one of his friends was flirtin with me and i was flirtin with him. The guy i went to see had the only hissy fit and messed up my chances with his friend he kept holding me and wanting to kiss me as to show that im his property when i clearly told him im not.how can i get him to forget me in that sense because hes a great person but i dont want to date him cuz hes very dramatic i need someone laid back like me who can chill at home watch movies talk to without hearing mad drama over me flirting i dont think firting = cheating.
 
To file a missing persons report takes at least 24 hours for an adult in New York. And why would they haul your computer in to the police? At the 24 hour mark is when they will first allow a report to be filed, much less do anything.

So are you really not over 18? Were you gone longer than overnight? Sorry, but something just doesn't add up..
 
Why are you so worried? Reaffirm yourself that it's the truth, yes you are gay. Even if you've been forced out of the closet, aren't you tired of hiding your true feelings? Don't fear, you can live your life out and open. You're strong enough to overcome the situation, which was unfortunate, but it's happened. Move on and just love your freedom! :)
 
for those of you who di not understand my story, i left thursday night came back monday morning .I live with a 23 year old brother and his girlfriendd and have a 30 year old brother who llives alone.They filed a missing persons report on me on sunday stating that the emails i sent them thru the weekend (were not from me ) the police told them to take my computer to the precinct for their investigation and as a result the police outed me . told them all the numbers i had people i was in contact and pictures i had of other people x rated and all they decided to show them to see if they recognized them.SO is day 3 of being out and im still on lockdown. I know im 22 but i feel like i always had an obligation to my family.That is why i stay home because it makes them happy.i Have done these little dissapearances since i was 18 years old , Im what you would call the prodigal son I was always the perfect one with the great grades great job good head on my shoulders. So instead of embaressing my family i lived a double life.On one side i had my straight friends on the other side i had my gay friends.

Im just gonna be happy that i dont have to worry about lying no more and i can invite whoever the hell i want to my house for a change :D fuck it im ot and im proud :D thanks everyone
 
Congratulations! Is it not a great feeling? Just be yourself now, after all you are still the same person.
 
Things happen for a reason. Gooey, it may suck right now, but I'm sure it will get easier each and every day. And at the end of the day you are 22 years old. You can move out on your own, so it is your choice to endure what they dish out, or not.

Thanks for explaining the missing persons report. Personally, I think the police should bill them for wasting their time. Maybe a $3,000 bill might make them think twice before doing it again, and / or bugging you anymore about it. :)
 
You know, an occasional phone call letting them know you're OK might prevent such actions in the future. :)

And look into getting a new place to live.

Lex
 
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