Former BF Still Has Feelings for Me... Maybe

[erobert]

So I was speaking with my former BF (we've been hanging out actually every weekend since he left the possibility of getting back together if we both wanted to) about meeting a friend this weekend, who he has met a couple of times when we were together, I mentioned off hand that I was going out with him to dinner.

He suddenly said in a unexpected, defensive, jealous kind of way: “I don't know, he seems a bit flaky I wouldn't really hang out with him anymore... I mean he's (x,y,z negative things about him)....” I didn't now how to respond since I didn't see that coming and thought about why he suddenly acted this way when I mentioned him. Hmm... I thought about it and this friend of mine is very good looking and someone I get along easily with since I hung out with him a lot in the past. He didn't like him when we were together either... Could it be he see's him as a threat somehow? Maybe he thinks this friend want's to be more than friends now and he has lingering feelings still?

I wanted to ask him why he feels this way toward him but wasn't sure how to ask it so I let it go. I feel I need to communicate this to him friends or whatever we are now because one of us is may be saying something that needs to be said but isn't before I start dating again.

I'm probably over thinking this on all fronts but what would you guys recommend? Leave it or ask him about it.

 

[TX-Beau]

Unless it persists, I'd probably blow off the odd comment if it wasn't making problems.

 

[sixthson]

When tempted to think he still has feelings, remind yourself why you broke up. If he left you once before he will probably do it again.

 

[altlover85]

Unless it persists, I'd probably blow off the odd comment if it wasn't making problems.

I agree with TX. It's not worth it to analyze an exes behavior. If he's interested in getting back with you, there will be time for that in the future. For now focus on this new guy.

If you and your ex do get back together at some point make sure things have changed for the better.

Good luck!

 

[QueenxElsa]

If the issues was very serious on breaking up the first time, just know it might happen again now!

 

[Seasoned]

Relationships aren't over until they are really over. It sounds like yours had some control issues. I know a lot of exes remain friends but that always puzzles me. I also don't understand why you're not able to rein him in. Is it worth having him as a friend or are you hoping to get back together?

 

[eastofeden]

It depends...if it continues then it could be a number of things but just this once...I would let it ride.

 

[mark73]

My Bf broke up with me last April, I still had feelings for him but he broke it off with me, Since then He's had two BF all which I have met Done things with them both ( nothing sexual, but hung out, gone to the cinema etc etc) and not had a problem I was just glad he was happy, but last november he broke up with the second guy because the new bf was cheating on him, and we started hanging out again, He asked me back out this January and things are going great ( actually better then they did for the first 10 years we were together ) They say being apart makes you realize what you had and miss, Well with us its true, You just have to go with how you feel, Thats all anyone can really say.

 

[genthree]

It seems the relationship hasn't ended , you are both just having a bit of time out .
Go out to dinner with your friend , examine the situation with your friend he may be going to move on you.
After you have sorted that out , ask the ex where you both stand.
Then tell us .......