Found gay porn in my cousin's vcr!

[hanzosword]

This happened about a year ago when I was visiting my younger cousin at his college. He was about 21 and I was 23. He had a dorm room to himself because he was a resident assistant and when he went to work I was there alone and got bored so I just hit play on the VCR and this gay porno started playing. I was shocked but not too shocked. I had always thought he was a little curious. I accidentally found some gay pictures on his computer once too.

I'm very curious myself and watch a lot of gay porn but I never did anything voluntarily with a guy. I have been felt up a few times but that's about it. So should I have said something to him about it because we hang out a lot but we never really talk about anything sexual. I kinda want to bring it up because we could become a lot closer, but at the same time I don't wanna get in his business. Should I just keep acting like I didn't see anything?

 

[Puzuzzu]

Bring it up softly, and see where it leads. Good luck

 

[954dude]

That's strange. I wouldn't know what to say or do, but as a cousin, I'd let him know how I feel if he's uncomfortable or unsure about his sexuality.

 

[studmike2006]

Interesting Posting.

I guess that anyone could innocently hit the play button on a vcr in someone elses's room and then see that the video was gay porn.

But tell me, how do you "discover" gay pics on someone's computer unless you are intentionally SNOOPING or PRYING??

 

[Telstra]

This happened about a year ago when I was visiting my younger cousin at his college. He was about 21 and I was 23. He had a dorm room to himself because he was a resident assistant and when he went to work I was there alone and got bored so I just hit play on the VCR and this gay porno started playing. I was shocked but not too shocked. I had always thought he was a little curious. I accidentally found some gay pictures on his computer once too.

I'm very curious myself and watch a lot of gay porn but I never did anything voluntarily with a guy. I have been felt up a few times but that's about it. So should I have said something to him about it because we hang out a lot but we never really talk about anything sexual. I kinda want to bring it up because we could become a lot closer, but at the same time I don't wanna get in his business. Should I just keep acting like I didn't see anything?

because you know he watched gay porn, why not tell him you like watching porn.

 

[balool]

does he know that you are gay?

 

[hanzosword]

Interesting Posting.

I guess that anyone could innocently hit the play button on a vcr in someone elses's room and then see that the video was gay porn.

But tell me, how do you "discover" gay pics on someone's computer unless you are intentionally SNOOPING or PRYING??

Okay, maybe I was snooping a bit, but I just had to know.

 

[hanzosword]

Mention some porn that you have seen and see if he tells you that he has also watched some. If he mentions that it was gay then take it from there. If he tells you that he starred in a gay porn vid then maybe he will be your kissing cousin.

I may give this a try. I don't really want anything to happen between us though. Thanks for all your responses.

 

[Syn]

Would he get upset if you were snooping around his room?

 

[tdot3304]

What's a VCR?

Sorry, had to ask

 

[Catsdick]

My Bi girlfriend I who is also Bi think that you should open yourself up and say something to you cousin but to actually do something with him should not be (being a family member) but sharing some of his friends is ok. We think that you cousin could introduce you to some of his gay friends

 

[petereater]

Did you rewind it back to where it started when you hit play? If not, he already knows that you saw it and is probably thinking that you were upset about it because you haven't said anything. Just talk to him. What is the worst that could happen?

 

[hanzosword]

What's a VCR?

Sorry, had to ask

You really don't know? It's a video cassette player that played movies before dvd's were made.

 

[hanzosword]

Did you rewind it back to where it started when you hit play? If not, he already knows that you saw it and is probably thinking that you were upset about it because you haven't said anything. Just talk to him. What is the worst that could happen?

I didn't think about that! I did watch a little of the movie so he probably knows I know, hmm.

 

[UndieFreak]

WHAT? People Still Use VCR's?

 

[Dashriprock3172]

Was the gay video a Beta tape and he played it on his console TV. Did you look for any 8mm movies either?

"My cousin had a film projector and a screen set up in his dorm room. I turned on the projector to see what was on...bla bla bla

 

[PhoenixRandall]

what is it that you are really after here? do you want to out your cousin? are you curious as to his sexuality? do you harbor some sort of a crush or other attraction for him? are you just being nosey? are you just looking for some sort of drama?

what is your motivation for trying to figure out why he is watching gay porn? aside from finding the tape in his vcr, why were you snooping on his computer to begin with?

how is his sexuality any of your business to begin with? what he does in his bedroom or what porn he watches is none of your concern - why be so disrespectful?

If after answering all of these questions with truly honest thoughts and you are still dying to know, why not just ask him? As I have said in many other posts, what is wrong with an honest conversation on the topic? I mean really, if you are so deserate to know, why not just ask him. He'll either tell you is straight or gay / bi / curious....what will you have gained by knowing?

 

[PetCuddlePuppy]

you must've had that "tape" for a long time. i didn't even know that they still sold movies on those.

seriously, you should be like "why did you take my tape without my permission"... and completely ignore the fact that it was gay porn. See what he says.