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Friend does not remember of me...

So time to let it go... well I guess I'll wait some days--- then write him an email to explain well and then... really I guess it's the final countdown. I am still a bit angry... but really sad. I felt it coming in these months but always excused him for his lack of time or uninteresest. Now end in close and it is not good. I don't have lots of friends and he used to be one very important. When he was. :((
 
I am experiencing a similar situation to the OP except the friend I knew I have known the guy for seven years. It is easy for people on this board to say "well just move on" but when you invest a lot emotionally into another person it is hard to just "move on".
I just decided almost two weeks ago to STOP contacting this guy that I have known for seven years because I just felt he wasn't treating me the way I deserve.

It is much easier if you just don't like the person anymore I guess to just move on.


I do agree with the other posters though if this guy can't even call, text, or e-mail you that says something loud and clear. If you want to have a heart to heart with this guy do it if not move on.

In my situation I did not want to see him on his birthday almost two weeks ago BUT I decided to. I kind of wish I ignored him on his birthday I am GLAD I just bought him a card. He said he had a good time on his birthday with me and I haven't heard from him since. I understand what the OP is going through it is hard isn't it to feel that someone you were once close to does not care about you anymore. After I saw the "friend" on his birthday two weeks ago I just decided NOT to contact him it hurts of course but I feel I have to do this. I have also joined a support group and I am trying to meet new people. I suggest the OP try to meet new friends. I know it sucks when you feel someone you care for does not recipocate the sam affection.
 
So time to let it go... well I guess I'll wait some days--- then write him an email to explain well
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No. Don't. Don't send him an email. Stop. Right now.

Are you always this hysterical? So he doesn't want to be friends anymore. So what? Big deal. Move on. Find some new friends and don't be so needy or judgmental.

You're old enough to start acting like a mature adult male instead of an immature schoolgirl.
 
The only thing I would add is, even if you do decide to let the friendship fade away, consider trying to do so without leaving negative feelings behind. Don't lob any parting shots his way or try to hurt him the way you perceive he's hurt you. Better to be the bigger man, and bow out gracefully and quietly. Who knows what the future will bring? Maybe sometime down the line the guy will have a "eureka!" moment, realize he really did like you and that he ought to have extended himself a bit more to preserve your friendship. Leaving him with nasty sentiments will make this less likely to happen, I predict.

Rareboy might seem as if he is speaking sharply to you, but it's the truth, what he says. Sometimes we all need someone to smack us like Cher did Nick Cage in Moonstruck.

*CRACK* "Snap out of it!"

:-)
 
Basically you had sports in common, but for whatever reason you don't have that anymore. You no longer have the glue that held your friendship together. It doesn't mean that he doesn't like you or that he doesn't want to be your friend. He's just busy with life and your paths no longer cross as they once did.

This is a normal thing with friendships. They change over time as people and situations change. I have had a number of friends like this over the years. They are still my friends, but not close friends. Believe me, you will have lots of situations like this in your lifetime.

Definitely don't write him a letter ending the friendship. That's just needless drama and very immature. All you need to do is stop making an effort to get together with him if you want to end the friendship. I honestly don't see why you would want to totally end the friendship. There is no reason why you can't be casual friends.
 
It is not just because we don't do sports together anymore. It is his behavior towards me that is different. Before he used to text saying "goin' out wanna join`?" then it all ended; he was caring when talking about personal problems or so on... now it seems he has no interest at all.. so is this to be "friends"
 
OK, so he doesn't want to hang out anymore. So be it. I've had it happen. People do drift apart, and sometimes the other one doesn't see it coming. But when it does, there's no need for a big dramatic "it's over" letter or scene. Just consider it over, and get on with your life.

Lex
 
Shystud86 said:
It is not just because we don't do sports together anymore. It is his behavior towards me that is different. Before he used to text saying "goin' out wanna join`?" then it all ended; he was caring when talking about personal problems or so on... now it seems he has no interest at all.. so is this to be "friends"
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You guys have drifted apart. The change in his behavior is a normal part of drifting apart. The less you see of someone, the less you think of them. The less you see of someone, the less you are connected to the emotional events in their lives. I don't think it's intentional on his part, it's just the natural evolution of things.

As you go through life, you will come to realize that there are very few people that will remain your life long friends. Many other friends will come and go from your life. For the "come and goers" there is usually some activity that connects both of you. When the joint activity stops, the friendship usually drifts apart. This is true of co-worker friendships, school friends and teammates.
 
Today I saw him at the railway station. I didn't talk or looked at him but I'm sure he saw me... he didn't call or shouted hi from the other side of the tracks and he did not texted me (so it is a more sign that he did not forgot to answer to my last text but didn't want).

Should i write to him or not? I mean it is embarassing to meet in real life when he did not answered to me...
 
He's your friend and you saw him, so why didn't you shout a greeting? Look at your own behaviour before you wonder about his.
 
he practically left my question unanswered... didn't hear from him since 10 days... it is not me who has to re-open the discussion... or is it?
 
He may not have noticed you. If he did notice you, he may have been waiting for you to turn toward him so he could wave and yell hi. He may have also noticed you avoiding to look at him and thought that you are mad at him. My point being, you really don't know why he didn't acknowledge you. You should have acknowledged him when you noticed him. You avoided him, but are upset that you think he avoided you. That's pretty immature behavior.

The more I read this thread, the more I'm starting to think you could be right about him avoiding you. He may think you are a good guy, but just too clingy and needy to keep as a good friend. You should take some time to think about the situation and figure out what you could have done differently.

You are probably better off to forget about him and move on. Don't make any declaration to him that the friendship is over. Just move on and don't worry about staying in contact with him. If you see him in public, say hi and ask him how he is doing. Don't expect anything other than a little friendly conversation.
 
Should i write to him or not? I mean it is embarassing to meet in real life when he did not answered to me...
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Why so obsessive and needy?


Don't email him. Let it go.
 
Ok maybe you're right i should have said hi. That said, I am not too clingy and needy.. I think that it is not normal to see or hear a good friend who lives nearly at 1 km far from you just 2/3 in more that 6 months as we lived far far far away... that's all.

My question about writing to him is because I don't wanna meet him IRL with that question still opened... hope you get what I mean...
 
You don't have to do anything. Don't send an email ending the friendship. Just leave the door open. You never know what the future may bring.

You have drifted apart for now, you may drift back together in the future, you may not. There isn't an instant resolution to everything in our lives. Relationships come and go. Being dramatic and overly clingy will kill any chance of any future friendship. Going with the flow leaves all options open.

Everything will alright in the end. If it is not alright, it is not the end.
 
Ok.

Write him an email. Tell him everything that is on your mind.

Do it.

Soon.
 
hi Fabio. Just take it easy. Friends come and go, but if they're your friends, they'll always be your friends forever. I have some friends that I hardly meet, about just 2-3 times a year. But we always feel good everytime we hang out.
It's sound like you like him somehow, and wanna hang out with him so much. He may be really busy and have a stressful life recently. If you take it too seriously you may add more stress to him. So calmly email him, tell him what's on your mind, and ask him about his life or so on.
Good luck
 
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