Friend... gay?!

[unknown dude]

Hi all,

Not sure if this is the right place to post but recently i've been spending alot of time with a mate of mine who is a straight and has a gf but i'm confused into what he 'is'?...Please give your advice and help!

I'm a closeted bi-sexual but this mate has been coming round to mine and we've been messing around online - lying on my bed and going on webcam chatrooms like man roulette and chat roulette. It all started off last summer as a bit of fun and i'd pretend to put things down my trousers to make it look like i was well gifted and we'd go through people being silly and teasing (as bad as it sounds it was only harmless fun) However, I'd find it difficult with a big erection in my pants as the whole thing was really arousing but i kept it well hidden.

As time progressed, he'd never turn down going online (it's now a regular thing) and i slowly got more and more confident and started to just sit in my boxers and claim i was just confident and up for a laugh. He'd pretend to poke my package whilst we were on webcam and we'd mess around for hours.

Now there's no awkwardness when i whip off my trousers and sit in my pants and now i don't even use anything to pretend i'm well gifted, just sit with my natural bulge/package.

A couple of times i've "accidentally" fell out of my underwear and he's caught a glimpse of my cock and just says 'ah man put that thing away' but never really offended.

I'm finding this unbareable, i'm so sexually attracted to him and the more we meet up and mess around the more sexually frustrating it is. I usually have to 'offload' in the bathroom as i'm a bit wet

The time we spend together all we chat about it sex and our penis's and part of me thinks he's perhaps atleast bisexual? I'm condoning my behaviour as he has a girlfriend but when we're online he even lefts me stroke his package through his trousers (barely touching of course)...i make it all to be playful fun when inside i just want to fuck him so badly lol

Thoughts?

 

[bw92116]

At first it sounded OK. But that fact that he said, "ah man put that thing away" is kind of a bad sign. I think he's just playing games with you and I don't think it will amount to anything real. He's probably doing it just for jollies or for his own ego. I would just quit doing that and find an actual gay guy to have real fun and love with. I think you're wasting your time with him.

 

[RayMatara]

Honestly there comes a time where things like this happen to most of us, if you read my post on the thread in this section called "how to get over a straight friend, I'm heartbroken".

I replied to that with my story of what recently happend that kind of relates to this. Basically you might have to just get to that point where you have to tell him how you feel, as hard as it may be and if he doesn't feel the same way, most likely you will have to end your friendship with him.

I had to do this with my friend of a few years that I loved for the entirety of our friendship, it was tough and it still is tough, he didn't feel the same way, but I felt better knowing I told him than having to hide it the whole time.

If you want to talk more about a good way of telling him to make it the least impactful and ease it on to him best so he doesn't freak out and yell at you, I can help.

If you wanna talk more about this send me a PM I would love to help you with this situation as I want the best possible result for you as I just experienced this same type of thing

 

[Seasoned]

Regardless of his sexual orientation, your mental health comes first. How ling are you willing to torture yourself. I've known of situations like yours where the other guy eventually came out but wasn't into the guy who spent time being frustrated. I'd say it's time to stop teasing yourself and look for someone willing to play.

 

[unknown dude]

Cheers guys i'm not too frustrated at this stage but just think it's not your average 'straight guy' behaviour? As i said we're always talking about our cocks or he'll poke mine if he walks past. He just strikes me as someone who'd be curious but i don't want to out myself either

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ As long as you don't want to out yourself, then you should expect nothing to ever happen. If you're not willing to put yourself out there to say who and what you truly like, then he isn't going to either. Honesty is not a one-way street. If you want to know how he truly feels, then you need to express how you feel.

You don't have to profess your feelings for the guy, but he should know you like guys and aren't afraid to admit it. If you're comfortable with yourself, then he'll be comfortable with himself.

 

[unknown dude]

Just to update on this. Tonight we were at his and we were joking but saying suggestive things. We both grope each other as walk past. Im always grabbing his butt, he has a lush bum! Tomorrow he's coming over and we'll probably go online to mess around. How far is going too far when im in my pants/"accidentally" exposing my cock? I just want a glimpse of his!! Any ideas on how i can take it to a new level and get him to join in messing about (getting him in his pants) etc?!

 

[bw92116]

I dunno, how about "Hey let's see who's bigger soft and then again hard!" or "Hey let's jack off!"

Is he spending more time playing these erotic games with you than he spends with his girlfriend?

When you and him look at porn, is it men, women, straight, gay porn, what?

 

[Enduster]

Cheers guys i'm not too frustrated at this stage but just think it's not your average 'straight guy' behaviour? As i said we're always talking about our cocks or he'll poke mine if he walks past. He just strikes me as someone who'd be curious but i don't want to out myself either

Is this the same guy that you mentioned in one of your other threads, who has a child with said girlfriend?

If indeed he is one in the same, you need to leave this boy alone. He's a father with a girlfriend he's obviously sexually active with. You are only torturing yourself over him. Maybe he finds your attention flattering and even eggs you on. The problem is, he will always end up going home to his child and "girlfriend" to have sex with. You'll be left with scraps.

Sorry my friend, but it's time you realized that trying to find a boyfriend while you cower in the closet just isn't going to happen. Be brave, come out, stand tall, find a boyfriend who can love you back.

 

[unknown dude]

No different guy but he does have a gf who he shows very little interest in. Its not like id want him as a bf i just want to fuck him and see his cock lol.

 

[Coldcase]

In my opinion, he is straight. If I were you I wouldn't put him in uncomfortable positions, or make sexual advances if you value your friendship.

I'm interested to see what happens, so keep us updated.

 

[unknown dude]

So today we went online to mess about on webcam and i went as far as sitting with a pair of boxers draped over my manhood. He didnt seem fazed. I just dont think this is straight guy behaviour especially as we do this everytime?

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ If you are going to do these silly teasing games, you should just get on webcam, put on a MMF porn video on your screen and visibly get an erection. When he sees the erection and the sounds of what's going on, he'll probably ask what you're doing. Say you're watching a video and ask him if you want to send the link to him. You send the link to him, start watching it together, then move your hand over your dick and start stroking. If he follows suit, you've got yourself a jerk off webcam adventure.

If he focuses more on watching your dick than the video, then that should give you your answer.

 

[jayamsterdam]

It sounds to me like he's bi/curious just like you.
IF you're hanging out with him in person and you're on manroulette, just gently touch his crotch area while he's wearing underwear and say something along the lines of, "Whoops!" just play stupid. He will come around eventually.

 

[unknown dude]

Just an update. His gf made a comment to him last week - you only go up his (mine) to go on gay chat rooms. He text me a bit concerned asking if i'd told her what we do when he's up mine and i was like no? She knows we went on chat roulette once messing about so meant that (only meant it light heartedly)

Since then we've spoke like we're hiding something and that its our little secret?

I still think he's atleast bi-curious!