Friend gets a girlfriend and stops hanging out with you?

[WaitingIntheWings]

To expand on my earlier post, I always tell my friends right up front that there will most likely come a time when we drift a part. It happens to all relationships where the people are in it by choice like friendships and couples as opposed to families (usually)

We make friends based on needs and common interests and we tend to stick with people who are at the same place in life as we are. If this relationship is no longer fulfilling a need then there is no point in keeping it.

If you've moved on to a different stage of your life then you will leave some friends behind who are not quite there yet, or may never be.

Its life. Relationships are like contracts and when one one end can no longer put up his end of the deal then the relationship is null.

So maybe you're friend has moved on to another part of his life and you've yet to catch up? If he's not putting up his part of you're relationship (what you expect of it) then either address the issue with him or find someone else who can be a better friend.

 

[Bong24]

Totally understand where you're coming from. My best friend completely stop hanging out with me once he got his gf. Now I only hear from him when he needs something *shrugs*

 

[barnbuddy]

there are only 24 hrs in a day, and if you're starting a relationship,

much of your non- work sched is going to be with you're new love

if it wasn't like that it wouldn't be much of a relationship - right?

and if they have kids, well, forget it - his time is no longer his to command.

that's what happened to some of my str8 guys friends in our late 20 - 30's

they had the wife and kiddies, and I didn't - the simpatico evaporated -

I saw an old friend at a reunion recently, it was nice, but really only nostalgia

but after some time, it was clear our lives took completely different paths

 

[Rex]

But you wanting to hang out with him "just about every day" is where I bolded above. Or is that code for something else?

Here is the post you quoted and bolded.

We also became dorm mates for a while and hung out just about every day.

Ever since then I barely ever hear from him. We hang out very rarely now. When she went out of the state for three weeks, we began hanging out a lot more often but once she came back, it went back to us barely hanging out.

Please point out where I'm saying I want or need to hang out with him "every day". Either you can't read, or you can't comprehend words as you're reading them.

I said we WENT from hanging out every day to not at all, and the reason for that was because we were roomates for a while so we saw each other every day.

I am defenitely not expecting us to be hanging out every day, and I don't have anything against his girlfriend so stop with your stupid assumptions. It's funny how you quoted my post, bolded it, and still got it wrong.

 

[justdra]

I always tell my friends I understand you want to spend time with your bf/gf, and that's fine but don't act like I don't exist. If I hear from you once a week and it goes to once a month, I will hurt your feelings next time I talk to you, lol. After I put them on notice and they still continue to put me on the back burner, I will just cut them loose. Again, I'm not asking to be put first, I'm just asking not to be ignored.

 

[bollywoodboy14]

it sucks but be happy for them!