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Swifty

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I don't know if I'm looking to far into this, but perhaps someone can help me.

Earlier in the year I came out to 2 of my friends and it has changed things between us, but for the better. Sometimes it seems like theirs something 'more' there, but I can't tell if my own feelings for them are clouding my judgement of what it is.
Also, something that might be worth noting is that the 2 guys weren't friends with each other when I came out to them but they bonded over it somehow.

The first guy is fairly smart and really religious, he considers himself homophobic but he's really accepting of me ( I don't think he's homophobic at all ). He doesn't seem to care when I show affection to him and he always seems to be able to read me like a book. He tells me a lot of his secrets and I tell him a lot of mine. When he's got problems, I normally end up helping him and he ends up helping me. We speak roughly everyday about an assortment of things and it's quite fun.

The big thing is that he has these...moments, every few months where he shows pieces of affection to me. For example, one time me and him didn't speak for 2 weeks ( we just didn't speak, not a fight or anything ) and he didn't feel right without me talking to him.

The other guy is...I guess the easiest way to describe him is protective. If someone says a bad comment to me, he speaks up, or if someone does something to me, he's the first to act. He does on occasion blush when talking to me in person. He is really accepting of me but he has a real dislike for affection. He's been my friend for years now, I used to spend a lot of my time alone till he came along.

To me he just seems a bit 'too' protective, which makes me wonder. As an example of what I mean by 'too protective', one time he brought up one of his friends in a conversation and I mentioned how the guy was quite annoying to me ( he just says stuff to constantly annoy me ). The next day they were arguing with each other. I asked him why and he told me he had reasons to but told me to drop it. But the first guy ( the guy I first spoke about ) told me he did it cause of what I told him.

About the 2 of them, since coming out I use nicknames for both of them and they never asked me to stop, even when I use their nicknames in public sometimes. The first guy occasionally uses a nickname for me, occasionally.

So perhaps someone can help me, I don't know if I'm reading to much into these two but I keep seeing these 'signs' that their is feelings on their end, but I may just be looking to much into it.
 
the question is do you want anything to happen if one of these guys or maybe both do have some feelings for you?
 
then I think you should try to find a good opportunity and talk to them. have a guys' night, watch movie, drink beer...just do whatever that you guys usually do when you hang out. THEN find a way to slip your question in?

or you can try to bait them and see if they will reveal anything.
an example:

you: oh _____, man. we have been friends for so long, I am glad I can tell you everything. Too bad you're not gay because you're just the type of guy that I've been looking for my whole life. You're funny, cute, and best of all, you're a great friend.

then you just watch his reaction :)
 
then I think you should try to find a good opportunity and talk to them. have a guys' night, watch movie, drink beer...just do whatever that you guys usually do when you hang out. THEN find a way to slip your question in?

or you can try to bait them and see if they will reveal anything.
an example:

you: oh _____, man. we have been friends for so long, I am glad I can tell you everything. Too bad you're not gay because you're just the type of guy that I've been looking for my whole life. You're funny, cute, and best of all, you're a great friend.

then you just watch his reaction :)
I'v had a few conversations with them before that were similar to this, the first guy just normally laughs it off, second guy normally changes the topic.

Going into some more detail here, both are fairly 'straight' apart from what I mentioned in my first post.
So it could just be wishful thinking here, but the first guy I think might have feelings but due to his religious ties isn't realising it. Then when he has his 'affectionate moments' it's coming out subconsciously. While I believe the second guy knows theirs something their but isn't sure or possibly even confused on it causing him to become protective.
 
I have friends like that also, who show a lot more affections towards me now that they know I'm gay and certainly more than towards any of their other male friends.

Men have feelings and emotions. Not just gay men. We're all made from the same basic model.

The difference, now that you've come out to them, is that they know that it's safe to express those feelings towards you and you won't reject them for it.

It's kind of ironic that you would think it makes them gay.
 
Very religious people tend to be trying to hide from something (themselves).

And people tend to have friends who are similar to themselves.

Put 2+2 together. :-)
 
it's a tough and weird situation that you have here. I mean obviously the typical and correct way is to be up front and just ask them....but I find that a bit too simple and not everyone is comfortable with being up front and honest about everything.

you can always have a drinking night, make a move on them and see if they will reciprocate?

In my honest opinion, I don't think they're gay. I believe they are just experiencing a good male bonding with you
 
I agree with hotb0d,
Some people just like having really close friends.
Becuase your "out" with them they probably feel you have a high regard for them and want to show they apreciate you. I have some male straight male friends who can be quite flirty, but its just a bit of fun and i think they like the attention.
I think you just have two great mates
 
Oh yeah dude. Definitely reading into it too much.
Just be grateful; good bros are hard to come by. Especially the ones who go beyond protecting you only in physical confrontations.
 
be glad you have friends like that. Not worth fucking up the friendship just to get some. There's plenty of men out there
 
Wishful thinking is just that, wishful thinking. Spare yourself the aggravation and put your cards on the table. Good luck!
 
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