friend is mad at me for no reason..help

[toywifme]

i went out with M a few days ago, just as friends. watched a movie and we went our saperate ways.

that was what happened on saturday night, then, this morning, J, who claims that he's bi, is mad at me. i think he's mad at me for going out with M. but does J have the right to get mad?

i mean, we're only friends (J and i), he was the one who said that he was not interested in me, he was the one who said he would not date a close friend. i respect that so i moved on. i had a crush on J for a while, and when i confessed top him, he said he wont date a close friend, so i moved on.

so i guess the problem now is, what can i tell J so that he wont be mad at me?

i'm the type of person who tries to please everybody. i try to make them happy, especially my friends. J is a close friend of mine, i wouldnt want to have another few months of complete awkwardness when i'm around him again.

got any advise on this situation? what can i tell J?

 

[dr_beat]

You say you "think" J is mad. Well, until you know for sure, there's not much you can do. I suggest you find out first, then come back and let us know so we can help you better.

Cheers.

 

[sibersan]

maybe he's made cuz he wasnt invited

 

[tonyboy]

It sounds like you are all acting like 15 year old girls in Junior High School...
None of you are asking the other to become engaged to be married, so you are all free to do what you wish.
And it doesn't hurt to have heart to heart talks with your buddies either my friend. Just sit down and share your feelings with each other. Believe me, that will all work out if you just talk about it.... and don't let feelings get in the way. If you are all true friends it will be worked out. If you aren't true friends then much better to know it now than to mess with emotions of people that aren't really your friends.

 

[RRRalph]

Don't make assumptions about this all. Sit down with your friend J, be honest about the situation and ask him what his problem is. Never forget to cumminicate.

 

[TheTrish]

Hi! J wants M, duh!

Seriously, concentrate on I.

T

 

[dr_beat]

Hi! J wants M, duh!

Seriously, concentrate on I.

T

Hey, that's clever! Good on ya!

 

[rareboy]

i'm the type of person who tries to please everybody.

My advice? Stop trying to please everybody.

 

[toywifme]

newsfalsh

J starts to act childish nowadays, calling me names behind my back while knowing that i can hear him. i tried the talking thing but he just snaps back. so what the heck, i'll just let it be.

ignorance is bliss! (this is true)

guess what u guys said is true, he does feel insecure. n i think he wants M too. sad, sad J.

u guys made me realise that he's not as 'true' as a friend can get.

thanks

 

[natedogg323]

All this J, M, N stuff I feel like I'm taking an algebra test. JK

Any way...Even though it might be hard, J doesn't sound like a good friend and you two should try and see less of one another. Avoiding him for awhile might help repair your friendship. If its even worth repairing?

Good luck bro!

 

[Danugh]

I understand, my straight friend got mad at me too after i grabbed his dick.