Friend makes out with his bf makes me feel uncomfortable

[chace1617]

my gay friend got a boyfriend a few months ago. it's the first time i meet his bf and we hang out together and the thing is that i hate it when they make out in front of me. i mean i know it sounds a little weird but it's true. i hate it when while we're talking suddenly they stop look at each other and start making out, talking in a low voice and sexually to each other. that's the moment where i feel uncomfortable like i shouldn't be there and it's not my fault. they make me feel uncomfortable. it's not just them.even when my str8 couple friends make out in front of me i feel kinda uncomfortable it's like they don't even care i'm there and they need to have sex and i should leave. why are they doing that? a kiss or two is fine but not every now and then, it's ridiculous. kissing on the mouth is for sex not for a coffee with your friend! do you think i should tell my friend? he's my oldest friend we know each other since first grade but i think he might be a little mad at me if i tell him. he'll think i'm jealous or something. and i'm not! i'm fine if when i'm there they behave and respect the fact that i'm there!

 

[Mr-Brooding]

I totally get it!...It's even worse when you're not in a relationship yourself. When you and your friend are alone, try to talk to him about it. DO NOT bring it up when both of them are present. I honestly don't understand why couples do that. It's really weird and rude to be honest.

 

[mikey3000]

I think certain things are left in private. But that being said, I admit I'm guilty of making out in a night club too. I'll try to behave from now on.

 

[Mr-Brooding]

I think certain things are left in private. But that being said, I admit I'm guilty of making out in a night club too. I'll try to behave from now on.

No, that's fine! The issue is when someone is left feeling like a third wheel. In a club, there are other people to mingle with and its a sex-filled environment. I was at a coffee shop in a booth with my friend and her boyfriend when they started going at it. There was no where to run...

 

[sixthson]

To me, it doesn't matter if you were present when this happened or not. Making out and being sexual with each other in public is inappropriate. A kiss or holding hands is not making out.

Talk to your friend. If it becomes an issue between you, at least you talked about it and the issue is not all yours.

 

[Spiff]

No, that's fine! The issue is when someone is left feeling like a third wheel.

I agree. It's a simple case of being the third wheel which we have all experienced. Especially in high school when everyone's hormones were in full throttle.

 

[mikey3000]

No, that's fine! The issue is when someone is left feeling like a third wheel. In a club, there are other people to mingle with and its a sex-filled environment. I was at a coffee shop in a booth with my friend and her boyfriend when they started going at it. There was no where to run...

Well then, that is quite rude on their part. I'd never do that to a friend. Talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. Besides I'm sure others don't find that behaviour proper either. Gay or straight, we don't need to see tonsil hockey in our coffee shops.

 

[fetaby]

Next time just leave. They won't get the hint of course, but you won't have to watch 'em.

 

[refujiunderground]

i feel where you're coming from op. do you feel like they're doing it on purpose to you to make you feel jealous or for the attention? sometimes, that's what they do. it's basically them rubbing what they have in your face.

 

[ibill1]

Next time just leave. They won't get the hint of course, but you won't have to watch 'em.

I believe this is the best course of action. If you do this a few times, they have to get the hint eventually and will realize you are uncomfortable. They will either stop, or your friend will bring it up.

 

[freefall]

Next time, bring a camcorder, record them, and watch them together with all your friends, including his and his bf

 

[racer2438]

being together for 27 + yrs now I can see what you mean, we hug and kiss and small stuff like that but we do all our heavy make sessions in private, not cus we are ashamed cuz it's the polite thing to do.

It falls under time/place for everything. But maybe that is just us. In a bar with music /drinks we will make out a bit more but we feel the club is a bit more releaxed place for it.

 

[HunterM]

Take a lesson from Vannie. When they start making out in front of you, play the banjo music.

 

[Castix]

Try sitting on a wall with 2 of your friends on either side. Then they start making out with their girlfriends.
Now that is an awkward situation!

 

[fetaby]

Try sitting on a wall with 2 of your friends on either side. Then they start making out with their girlfriends.
Now that is an awkward situation!

Next time give them the humpty dumpty treatment.

 

[Castix]

Next time give them the humpty dumpty treatment.

I tried that to someone before and he grabbed onto my back so I swung him off onto the Tarmac.
I'd feel bad but he was a dick anyway

 

[USEDCAR]

I don't really like hanging out with couples, Unless there are other people around like if theirs a group of us. I don't like the 3rd wheel awkward feeling when its just 3 of us. In your situation i would just get up and leave when they do it. I would also cut back with hanging out with them until they get the hint. I think its very disrespectful to do that in front of other people especially when one is the 3rd wheel.

I had a former friend that used to do that i would visit her at her job and her boyfriend would magically appear. And they would make out hug touch stare at each other and it was annoying. As soon as i start talking to her she would ignore me and start touching him. So i would walk out and when i told her about it she would talk about how people were jealous and dint want to see her happy. Eventually i limit hanging out with her and we stopped being friends.

 

[subsonic]

I definitely think that you should tell your friend as well.. It's really inappropriate. When I was in a relationship, I didn't do this and I was quite young at that time even. Fine, a bit flirtation, hand holding and small pecks are all right, especially if it's all new and stuff. But you should not go full-throttle and snog in front of your friend - it's really tacky. I agree however that if you're in a club or something, it's more acceptable.
If it doesn't stop, simply don't hang out with them when they're together. Or bring a friend maybe. That would be my advice. I know when people are in love, they can't always see clearly, even if you do tell them, so maybe this is the best way to handle things.

 

[HunterM]

Try sitting on a wall with 2 of your friends on either side. Then they start making out with their girlfriends.
Now that is an awkward situation!

Fine, a bit flirtation, hand holding and small pecks are all right, especially if it's all new and stuff. But you should not go full-throttle and snog in front of your friend - it's really tacky.

Easy solution for you two, really: stop going to swinger clubs!

 

[subsonic]

Easy solution for you two, really: stop going to swinger clubs!

I think you know a lot more about swinger clubs than I do, my friend

I actually don't believe I have ever been in presence of friends who have done the snogging in public tbh. But I have been the witness to other, random people doing it, unfortunately.