Friend wants piece of me?

[nightmarez]

yea! just name it, sure it started to be a good topic of a book!..

 

[Spiff]

two guys spooning innocently together in bed, and still no action to report. I don't think this elevator is capable of reaching the top floor.

 

[closetkeis]

I agree Broke back might not be the most appropriate movie. I think "All Over the Guy" would be. A good comedy that you can talk about during and after. I think something to bring up the subject is the perfect idea to "test" the waters.

 

[UWSMike]

Wow. This thread brings back some memories. I've been in very similar situations.

Here's the deal: He's as gay as you are. He wants you. But he's petrified of being gay, of taking it to the next level.
So long as he can kinda sort touch you, kinds sorta lay next to you with your shirts off, it's all cool.
He's still straight because nothing's happeend and you're still just two buddies who are hanging out.
But once you have sex, then he's gay. Or bi. Or something that isn't straight. Because the two of you have a very strong emotional connection. So once you start having sex, you're his boyfriend. Or, in his mind, his good buddy that he has sex with. But either way, it's not a one-time drunken thing or an anonymous internet hook-up.
It's real.

At this point there's no turning back. He might bolt after you sleep together or he might fall head over heels in love. But he's scared about how he feels about you and what that makes him and that's why he's taking his time, teasing you, hoping that you'll be the one who makes that first move.

Good luck.

Mike

 

[addicted2xtina]

good luck keep us posted

 

[innocentbychoice]

I just hope this thread doesn't end up being a very loooong episode of Queer as Folk.

 

[nufanm]

Wow. This thread brings back some memories. I've been in very similar situations.

Here's the deal: He's as gay as you are. He wants you. But he's petrified of being gay, of taking it to the next level.
So long as he can kinda sort touch you, kinds sorta lay next to you with your shirts off, it's all cool.
He's still straight because nothing's happeend and you're still just two buddies who are hanging out.
But once you have sex, then he's gay. Or bi. Or something that isn't straight. Because the two of you have a very strong emotional connection. So once you start having sex, you're his boyfriend. Or, in his mind, his good buddy that he has sex with. But either way, it's not a one-time drunken thing or an anonymous internet hook-up.
It's real.

At this point there's no turning back. He might bolt after you sleep together or he might fall head over heels in love. But he's scared about how he feels about you and what that makes him and that's why he's taking his time, teasing you, hoping that you'll be the one who makes that first move.

Good luck.

Mike

oh God!!! so true...

thank u for just putting it in simple terms. i couldn't agree more.

people used to call me gay all the time, but i hadn't done shit with a guy so i would get pissed. the day i first made out with a guy i was like: "fuck it! i did it, i liked it call me whatever u want i don't give a fuck and i'm not gonna deny what i did"

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I'd recommend trying a combination of the things suggested above....

1. When he comes over, share a few drinks to get him relaxed, and make it known to him that you like to spend time at home in your underwear only. The fact that you haven't told him this before is easily explained as you are getting to know him better. After removing your other clothes, suggest that he get as comfortable as you are.

2. Once you are in underwear only, then suggest watching a porn movie together on your bed. This shouldn't come as a surprise to him, since you've apparently watched some porn together already. Besides just watching the movie, make some comments about the guy in the movie..."I wish I looked that sexy"..."I wish my dick was that hot"...etc., and see what his reaction is...If you think he's feeling particularly receptive to the situation, you can always start stroking yourself through your boxers to see his reaction, or simply tell him that this movie has you so hard and horny that you need to jerk off. You may be surprised at his reaction...

3. As the drinks continue to flow and the porn continues to play, invite hime to sleep over...After all, he shouldn't drink and drive...As "bedtime" approaches, inform him that you normally sleep in the nude. You didn't feel comfortable telling him this before, but now that you know him better, you think it is important for him to know. If he is as turned on as it seems like he will be, I don't think he'll object...He will probably join you...

4. If you are able to sleep nude, whether he does or not, make subtle attempts to brush against him, leave yourself exposed from underneath the sheets, make comments about how horny the porn made you, etc...

You'll either be sleeping with him or you'll know that he's not interested in no time....

 

[UWSMike]

See, I don't think you need any of these tricks.

The second you lean over and go for it, he's going to respond- whether you kiss him, rub his nipple, this thigh whatever.

What you need to prepare for is what happens afterwards.

Could be immediately after-- he cums, freaks out and bolts. Or a few days later he decides he doesn't want to be your friend anymore.

Or he admits what he's feeling and becomes your boyfriend.

Or anywhere in between.

Bottom line: prepare yourself mentally for the fact that he may bolt from your life if you have sex. But know that even if things don't go any farther, you've already crossed the line. So go for it. Just beware.

PS: THanks nufanm

 

[Singularity]

people used to call me gay all the time, but i hadn't done shit with a guy so i would get pissed. the day i first made out with a guy i was like: "fuck it! i did it, i liked it call me whatever u want i don't give a fuck and i'm not gonna deny what i did"

Now that's what I'm talking about!

 

[Blewboi101]

The weekend was wonderfull! No sex though (yet)

It was a great bonding experience though, we had a lot of fun. Im probably gonna invite him over at the end of the week, (i have allot of work to do). And see what happens from there. Im sure it should go further with the next sleep over. I know for a fact some straight guys like to take very small steps before the the good stuff. so as to, not look obvious. I had a friend like that, when i was 16. first he tickled me, then tried to tickle my stomach (acidentally touchin my dick) This happened over the course of a few weeks. when he saw i was okay with it he proceeded to the next level. Maybe this guy is also trying this manouvre, Im showing him incrementally that it is okay to touch me. If only he will stick his hand down my pants.

I seriously dont want to screw up this friendship, but I cant control my feelings for him!

Just one question: If im alone with him at his place, how should i approach him? we rarely sit on the same couch.

 

[synch]

What? You rarely sit on the same couch yet you sleep in the same bed almost every night? Well, start by sitting on the same couch. Become more touchy feely with him. Like grab his shoulder in a "buddy" type of way. Pat him on the back or something. Repeat what he does. I would. Ex. My ex roommate, straight guy, would give the guy pats on back, etc. So I started to do the same. He even offered hugs and shit (in a sarcastic tone) if I was pissed off about something. Majority of the time either of us would say fuck off, but a few times we hugged eachother. Once he was in his boxers and I had pajama bottoms and a tank. It was hot, and yes, I was into him but I never proceeded beyond what he offered. Besides he had a girl.

What I am saying is, he is showing you what he likes, do the same when the time presents itself. It lets him know that you are picking up what he is dishing out.

 

[OptimalOptimus]

i would say, dont' play coy with him. he's not stupid. playfully suggest that you cuddle during your next movie. See what his responce is.

 

[JABEEE]

the Suspense Is Killing Me!!

 

[MrBoBo]

I am totaly hooked on this topic, I would like to offer you a movie deal.

Taking it slow is wise but total insane to so many of us JUB members here, but I am cheering for your sucess. GOOD LUCK

 

[Underdog]

Hey guys. Thanks for the replies!

I have a good update for now. Last night we went to watch a movie right, he then wanted to go back to my place. as always we watched some tv. and yes I did run some porn past him (some soft core crap) and he didnt seem to mind really.

It became really late like 12:20 and its in the week so I offered to take him home or if he doesnt mind he can sleep over and ill take him back early. He agreed and we went to sleep on my bed. After about half an hour I Noticed he sorta moved closer to me, I was on the far side of the bed so it seemed odd because he had allot of space (its queen size bed). then i turned around and faced the other way, I then after about 5 min felt his chest tightly pressed against my back he then after 6sec turned around and lied with his back very very close to me. THEN! after 40 min he turned around on his back so that part of my arm was behind his shoulder and my knee behind his upper leg, we laid like that for like an hour or so. VERY HOT! this ordeal went on for hours, at about 4:30am I jus went to sleep.

I could sense that he was quite awake when he moved about, because he had shallow breaths. I probably had like a hundred hardons!!

Please tell me what you guys think! what should I do? do you think his too scared to make the first move?

Thanks for the help.

I think this whole thread is b.s. Your descriptions are one tease after another.

But, if it isn't b.s. why haven't you at least made out by now....you're both watching tv IN YOUR BED, all the time, starting early in the evening, he's constantly showing off his body to you, you to him, you've slept together in the same bed with you both cuddling, well, sex is communication and you guys are already communicating.

 

[ridge01]

Oh, for god's shake! Come on! It's more than obvious that he's in the exact same situation as you! You both are just waiting for the other to make the first move! Do you think he would be spending so many nights with a guy that he know for less than 2 months if he only saw you as a friend? I think it takes much more time for such a friendship to evolve. The erotic attraction is what makes this "friendship" move so quick!!

 

[consult28]

Hey Kid,
Here is some advice from an old man ( 79 my next birthday ). You two have been fooling around for a little over a month now according to the entries in the thread. How you are able to walk normally is beyond me.
The next time your friend is staying over go to bed with only your briefs on. During the night jump out of bed and tell him you just had a wet dream and you will have to sleep nude for you have no other clean underwear. When you get back in bed move over close to him and tell him all about the dream making sure you include him in it.
If he doesn't want you this should make him decide to go home.
Good Luck
consult 28

 

[Tarzanboy732]

I'd say to start a conversation about gay sex and see where it goes from there. He may be thinking it but if you bring ou tin the open he may act on it. try it

 

[closetkeis]

You and he need to break the ice on sexual matters. You could rent a bisexual porn movie that starts out straight and later the two guys start playing with each other. Tell him you found this hot movie, would he like to see it? See what his physcial reaction is while watching the movie. When the two guys start playing with each other, you could say something like "I didn't know that was there. I could turn it off if you want?" If he says to turn it off, no harm to your relationship is done. If he says to leave it on, after a bit you might let your hand periodically move back and forth over your cock and see if he becomes more interested in what you are doing instead of the movie. If he does and starts doing the same, stick your hand inside your pants to stroke yourself and see his reaction. If he is not objecting, say something like "I'm too hot. I gotta give it some air". Then, take your cock out and stroke it. See what his reaction is. From there you are on your own. Good Luck! Let us know what happens.

OK forget the movie idea. He is obviously interested just either a little shy about the idea or just moves into things like this slowly. Give it some time. It will happen.