friend with benefits...

[shy-bi-guy]

Lastly, regarding that douchy colleague of yours what about emailing him back? You said you didn't reply since last November (I think) but you could easily argument that you had doubts about it and now you're regretting you didn't get to know him better. Does hi has any picture of you (so he might already know it is you)? If not, why not just trying to get more info from him, so you can get to know if it is him (maybe asking for his working time, as that would be "innocent" and revealing enough).

The colleague isn't actually douchey, but we exchanged like two emails in November, when he sent me a face pic and I didn't send him mine because I *thought* he looked douchey. After today I feel even more certain that he is the guy I was talking to, and I think he may have figured it out because we were in a meeting today and he blushed really bad when he was "introduced" to me formally (we've spoken once or twice, but I just started working there). Then again, we met informally when he introduced himself to me in the bathroom and he made a joke about that, so maybe that's the only reason he blushed. I lost the email address I was talking to him through, and so I can't absolutely verify it's the same guy.

 

[shy-bi-guy]

You shouldn't be relying on the forum to keep you faithful. What happens if the forum shuts down then what ? You have already cheated and you kind of blame your wife for your dishonesty. I think that you should work on getting some type of therapy.

Oh trust me, when I can afford to get therapy it's very high up on my priority list!