Friends after Sex

[hilltop08]

I've been talking to our Building manager, nothing has happened though. I've been trying to spend as much time away from him that I can, I eat dinner with other friends and most days go back to their rooms after we finish dinner until it's time for me to sleep. Problems happen when I don't leave or when it's time to go to sleep and he's not ready too.

^ This is not going to end well. You need to take the lid off the pressure cooker it's going to boil over into a meltdown. You need to consider other options. Go to your campus administration and request a change, not just asking students if they can switch with you. Let the administration know that you are having irreversible differences that results in constant fighting and you do not feel safe for both of you to be in such a domestic situation. You have to be up front and honest to get this solved. Don't just accept you have to live together when clearly neither of you want to continue seeing each other. It's not healthy.

 

[MindBlast]

You need to lay things out in the open.

Tell him EXACTLY why you can't have sex with him. The reason that you need to tell him is because you need someone to love you for you, and someone who is going to be there for you. You don't want to be his experiment anymore.

 

[hilltop08]

We talked about it one day. I told him I can't do this anymore, I want somebody that wants to be with me and not someone that claims that they have no interest in guys but continues to want to mess around with one. He got pretty defensive about it saying that the only reason he does it is because he can't stop himself but that doesn't mean he likes it.

You need to lay things out in the open.

Tell him EXACTLY why you can't have sex with him. The reason that you need to tell him is because you need someone to love you for you, and someone who is going to be there for you. You don't want to be his experiment anymore.

 

[altlover85]

We talked about it one day. I told him I can't do this anymore, I want somebody that wants to be with me and not someone that claims that they have no interest in guys but continues to want to mess around with one. He got pretty defensive about it saying that he only reason he does it is because he can't stop himself but that doesn't mean he likes it.

As was mentioned before, I would keep harping on the building manager. Or try and go above him or her.

You don't need this stressing you out, especially when midterms or finals come around.

 

[rjmrjm21]

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I was just wondering if you think it is possible to be friends after everything that we've went through and his basically shooting down our feelings for each other for his religion. Would our room still be a friendly atmosphere while one of is potentially dates another person?

***Sorry it's so long. Thanks for all your feedback!!!****

Not possible. Someone is going to be hurt. What if he brings someone over and fucks her or him, right in front of you?

You should run the opposite direction.