Friendship Advice...nothing more.

[screwnutty]

Don't know if you knew this, but you can use that texting device to actually use your voice to communicate with him verbally.

Lex

Yes. I know that! BUT, the point I'm trying to make and the point that KaraBulut has hit on the head is that he doesn't or won't talk to me face to face. I've known the guy since he was born. His dad works with my uncle. When ever I tried to bring this topic up into conversation he would say not now or we are not talking about this. If I pushed further to get him to talk face to face, he would just get up and leave.

But I was thinking about the earlier discussion about these guys that screwnutty seems to have issues with and many of them are his gaming friends. SN's a little unusual in that he's a very social guy who likes online games.

Yup, thats me. Very unusual! I guess I tend to view texting, email and online talking the same as a face to face conversation. I use plenty of smilies to push my point across.

It seems the guys that he's having issues with are often unable to communicate as well- they're more introverted and there are many of these young, male gamers that are introverts who are more awkward in social situations. And these problems are very closely related to the whole gamut of problems in these friendships.

I agree. Everybody regardless of age becomes another person when there online. Just look at online gaming where somedays you think we were back in the early 20th century with all the racist and bigot comments. Because people dont have the fear of being caught.

 

[maxpowr9]

First off, online is much different than in person. I remember when I came out to my friend crystal that she said "online is the new face". Reckon I disagreed greatly, but thats her opinion. The whole hiding behind a screen thing is why people think they can get away with anything online, especially in a competitive environment (a la Halo compared to something like WoW which is cooperative).

Although I side with you and your emotions, your friend does bring up a valid point. If you offer someone an ultimatum, it is a sign that the 'relationship' is over. It's basically saying 'I give up. You decide the outcome.' The outcome never is pretty.
Having dealt with a similar situation, I can just say that even though you were childhood friends, people grow up and grow apart. It happens even when you don't want it to. It may take a while to accept it but if you try to force something that isn't there, it will only make it worse.

 

[screwnutty]

Thanks for the advice maxpowr9. I guess you didnt read my one post where he told me that it was over because he didnt want to be friends with a fag.