Brer Fox
Slut
That is bullshit if he actually refused sex with you because you are unapologetically average. I know you weren't looking for that sort of answer, but he really is a miserable little size queen. First off, you aren't small... really. You are, in fact, on the low end of average, however average means what it means, and a huge majority of males are hovering within a half-inch either way of your given measurement.
His reaction is especially nonsensical, as this seemed to be just a quick hook-up. It is one thing if he has a problem with it and is facing a lifetime tied to this dick, but for one night to turn down a partner, especially someone he has obviously wanted to jump on all night, just because you aren't leveling buildings when you turn the corner is stupid.
My advice comes in two parts: First, stop with the mentality that you are lacking. If you cannot convince yourself, and we all know we can't truly, put up the ruse when you are with your guy. When you are actually doing your thing you really should not give a fuck how big you are. That leads to self consciousness, and self consciousness kills sex. Cut the 'Oh, by the way my dick is nothing spectacular,' and the jokes. Confidence really is the ultimate aphrodisiac, and it is really not that hard to build. I have extremely low self confidence, but when I am having sex that is go time.
That leads into my second point: Just fuck him. If he doesn't want to top, that is cool, because he is getting your dick in his ass whether he wanted to or not. The time spent joking about your size, and all that awkward silence should be time spent putting the moves on. You are looking for the wrong panacea, some magic phrase to 'convince him everything will go well.' What you need to ask yourself is 'is anything actually going wrong?' Probably not. Just bed the guy and forget about it... more than likely any turn-downs are going to come from people feeling awkward with your lack of confidence. Nervousness and insecurity, like I said, kills sexual energy. I was with a guy who was so nervous I literally could not have sex with him, it just creeped me out. I just went soft and ended up going home. He had this quiver in his voice, it was just ridiculous.
One of the truest things about this sort of human interaction is that people don't care about your reasonable shortcomings if you don't care, or appear to not care, about them yourself. I have pectus excavatum, which is that deformity where your sternum and ribs bend in. Mine isn't too bad, but it is decidedly moderate and very noticeable especially to the touch. I used to be crippled about it, but after having wonderful sex with beautiful guys I realized it wasn't holding me back at all. I even started asking a few afterward in conversation 'I guess you maybe noticed that dent in my chest...' and they are like 'Yeah, I did, but you are hot anyway.' If I had been so worried about my chest, how am I going to worry about him? Just think about it: If you are convinced you cannot perform for him, it is reasonable for him to assume you won't. It has nothing to do with the physical size.
Now, there are limits. If you were actually small, like three inches, then I can understand, but your 'friggin' small penis' really friggin' isn't.
His reaction is especially nonsensical, as this seemed to be just a quick hook-up. It is one thing if he has a problem with it and is facing a lifetime tied to this dick, but for one night to turn down a partner, especially someone he has obviously wanted to jump on all night, just because you aren't leveling buildings when you turn the corner is stupid.
My advice comes in two parts: First, stop with the mentality that you are lacking. If you cannot convince yourself, and we all know we can't truly, put up the ruse when you are with your guy. When you are actually doing your thing you really should not give a fuck how big you are. That leads to self consciousness, and self consciousness kills sex. Cut the 'Oh, by the way my dick is nothing spectacular,' and the jokes. Confidence really is the ultimate aphrodisiac, and it is really not that hard to build. I have extremely low self confidence, but when I am having sex that is go time.
That leads into my second point: Just fuck him. If he doesn't want to top, that is cool, because he is getting your dick in his ass whether he wanted to or not. The time spent joking about your size, and all that awkward silence should be time spent putting the moves on. You are looking for the wrong panacea, some magic phrase to 'convince him everything will go well.' What you need to ask yourself is 'is anything actually going wrong?' Probably not. Just bed the guy and forget about it... more than likely any turn-downs are going to come from people feeling awkward with your lack of confidence. Nervousness and insecurity, like I said, kills sexual energy. I was with a guy who was so nervous I literally could not have sex with him, it just creeped me out. I just went soft and ended up going home. He had this quiver in his voice, it was just ridiculous.
One of the truest things about this sort of human interaction is that people don't care about your reasonable shortcomings if you don't care, or appear to not care, about them yourself. I have pectus excavatum, which is that deformity where your sternum and ribs bend in. Mine isn't too bad, but it is decidedly moderate and very noticeable especially to the touch. I used to be crippled about it, but after having wonderful sex with beautiful guys I realized it wasn't holding me back at all. I even started asking a few afterward in conversation 'I guess you maybe noticed that dent in my chest...' and they are like 'Yeah, I did, but you are hot anyway.' If I had been so worried about my chest, how am I going to worry about him? Just think about it: If you are convinced you cannot perform for him, it is reasonable for him to assume you won't. It has nothing to do with the physical size.
Now, there are limits. If you were actually small, like three inches, then I can understand, but your 'friggin' small penis' really friggin' isn't.
