From Bi to Gay?

[hermanding]

it would seem to me that a person could label themselves bisexual if their preferences were 50-50 - or NO preference, if you like. And, it would also seem that if the percentages tilt, then the tilt is one's preference and maybe the determinant of the label. As to labels, i agree that they are over-simplifications, but can be useful.
If anyone says that finally they can admit to being gay - i would say be proud to be gay. One doesn't have to take out an ad in the newspaper to proclaim it - but one certainly can live their life with pride in their sexuality, knowing they are wonderful human beings just as good and deserving as any other sexual preferences.
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[RenaissanceMan]

The ability to love someone doesnt define you I think. I love women - they are soft , beautiful compassonate people with a capacity to care that blows me away. being attracted to that is easy.

But as to who I want to hold, be physical with, spend my life with and who I wanted to be loved by...its a guy.

Get the 2 things mixed up and its easy to think you;re something that you're not...

I think that sums up my view very well.

And to answer the next question: I left my last (straight) relationship STILL thinking I was bi (I left for other reasons: distance). A couple of months later, I came across JUB...and faced THE Soilwork and the rest of the crowd...so maybe I've been bullied, maybe not...I think not. Just "enlightened" about what I REALLY want and have always wanted and dreamed about.

 

[justsimon]

Well, I fell in love with a wonderful,beautiful, soulful and attractive women...and I knew that I had to come out. I knew that while I loved her I was going to hurt her. We had known each other for quite a while and I found that I couldnt think a bad thought of her if I tried. My love for her was the reason I had to stop lying to myself.

And I think thats whats quite a few of suffer from...not being able to seprate "Love" from "Love". I spent my whole life waitng for a woman that I could love with my whole heart, knowing that she could change me.... Well I found her and knew that I was gay.

The ability to love someone doesnt define you I think. I love women - they are soft , beautiful compassonate people with a capacity to care that blows me away. being attracted to that is easy.

But as to who I want to hold, be physical with, spend my life with and who I wanted to be loved by...its a guy.

Get the 2 things mixed up and its easy to think you;re something that you're not...

Great post. Thank you.