I'm involved in this situation that is really starting to confuse me.
Back in January or February or so, I met this friend. Really gorgeous. Similar interests. We get along pretty well. But there has always been on a big case of bad timing between us. When we met, I was in a serious relationship. It was an open relationship so I slept with this friend. The sex was more affectionate than it was supposed to be. We kept in contact afterwards and it was clear that we kind of liked each other but I was already taken.
A few months later (June) I was single. Heartbroken and definitely not in the position to be dating, me and my friend started seeing each other again anyways. Just hanging out and having sex. After a few weeks we stop because it obviously wasn't the right time.
Flash forward another few months. We started hanging out again in September or so. This time, we really were just friends. Better then we'd ever been, because at this point I was convinced he really wasn't interested in anything else, so I didn't let my thoughts go beyond friendship. There was still some tension like when he'd lay in my bed with me after a night out before going home. But I didn't expect anything to happen, even though we did express to each other that we're still very attracted to each other.
Two weekends ago, we were going out together and we both got a little drunk. At my apartment, he told me to kiss him. So then we had this really hot and heavy makeout session that ended with him blowing me on the floor in the hallway inside my apartment. Afterwards he's all "that didn't happen."
The thing is, he met someone about a week or so before that that he likes and has been seeing. I guess you could say they've been dating. So we talked about it and he basically told me that, we're like friends with more affection because of our history, and while we both know that there is something more between us, we can't explore that right now because he wants to give this other guy a chance. I tell him how I don't really think that's fair because I never had a proper "chance" and he says I have... but I told him that being occasional fuck friends while I was taken and then heart broken is not an adequate way to measure what it could be like with me. But he says that he's made his choice and that maybe if it doesn't work out we can explore things later on, but that for now we're just friends.
What bothers me is how it makes me feel that he can so easily switch from us having a thing to us just being friends, like the emotions for him are very regulated, and then on top of that the fact that he doesn't seem to mind that, if in a month or two it doesn't work out with this guy and then he misses his chance with me (if I'm dating someone by then) that it doesn't seem to bother him. We both know we have the worst timing with each other, we've admitted this, but I wish there was a way to convince him to give me a "real" chance too. I'm starting to get jealous and I'm wondering what the best thing to do in this situation is. I know I should probably just play it cool and wait it out and see what happens with them, right? Like most new things, there's a good chance it won't last very long.
Back in January or February or so, I met this friend. Really gorgeous. Similar interests. We get along pretty well. But there has always been on a big case of bad timing between us. When we met, I was in a serious relationship. It was an open relationship so I slept with this friend. The sex was more affectionate than it was supposed to be. We kept in contact afterwards and it was clear that we kind of liked each other but I was already taken.
A few months later (June) I was single. Heartbroken and definitely not in the position to be dating, me and my friend started seeing each other again anyways. Just hanging out and having sex. After a few weeks we stop because it obviously wasn't the right time.
Flash forward another few months. We started hanging out again in September or so. This time, we really were just friends. Better then we'd ever been, because at this point I was convinced he really wasn't interested in anything else, so I didn't let my thoughts go beyond friendship. There was still some tension like when he'd lay in my bed with me after a night out before going home. But I didn't expect anything to happen, even though we did express to each other that we're still very attracted to each other.
Two weekends ago, we were going out together and we both got a little drunk. At my apartment, he told me to kiss him. So then we had this really hot and heavy makeout session that ended with him blowing me on the floor in the hallway inside my apartment. Afterwards he's all "that didn't happen."
The thing is, he met someone about a week or so before that that he likes and has been seeing. I guess you could say they've been dating. So we talked about it and he basically told me that, we're like friends with more affection because of our history, and while we both know that there is something more between us, we can't explore that right now because he wants to give this other guy a chance. I tell him how I don't really think that's fair because I never had a proper "chance" and he says I have... but I told him that being occasional fuck friends while I was taken and then heart broken is not an adequate way to measure what it could be like with me. But he says that he's made his choice and that maybe if it doesn't work out we can explore things later on, but that for now we're just friends.
What bothers me is how it makes me feel that he can so easily switch from us having a thing to us just being friends, like the emotions for him are very regulated, and then on top of that the fact that he doesn't seem to mind that, if in a month or two it doesn't work out with this guy and then he misses his chance with me (if I'm dating someone by then) that it doesn't seem to bother him. We both know we have the worst timing with each other, we've admitted this, but I wish there was a way to convince him to give me a "real" chance too. I'm starting to get jealous and I'm wondering what the best thing to do in this situation is. I know I should probably just play it cool and wait it out and see what happens with them, right? Like most new things, there's a good chance it won't last very long.
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