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Frustions of dating a bi guy- from other people

Ninja108

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I'm gay, always have been, always will be. My fiancee of two years and half come May is bi. We recently set a wedding date but instead of people being happy for me, all I've gotten is the "when he wants kids he'll dump you for a woman","he'll leave for a woman before you know it", "and he's using you just for sex"yadda yadda yadda. I'm hearing this from my mostly gay friends, some straight too. You'd think I was dating an ax murderer or something. I'm sorry some people have had bad experiences with bi guys but what does that have to do with me. Can't people see that we love each other and congratulate us instead of giving us no chance? ](*,)
 
Ninja, I think thats beautuiful! I just posted a topic about something like this. If you both love each other IT WILL WORK! People aren;t supporting you because they are not use to the idea. Its all new to them and people fear what they don't know. It would be nice if you had the support of your friends and family, but maybe the two of you will be the ones to change their minds. Once they see how happy you two are and that your both making it work, then they will see things differently. Be patient with them but be clear that their comments have hurt you both. Congrats!!!!
 
We have the support of both families, more so friends. I have made it clear so I'm hoping in time my friends will get used to the idea or shut their traps.
 
Congratulations to you! :=D: ..| (!)

I've moved your thread from the Bisexual forum to the Coming Out/Relationships forum because it's a no-flame zone. Also because the Bisexual forum is in the naughty bits section and is designed for bi porn postings.

Don't listen to your well-intentioned friends and acquaintances. People love to butt in with all sorts of "advice" as if they know everything and you're a stupid fool. Follow your heart and your dreams and believe in your partner.
 
If you both were dating in a non-exclusive relationship, he might be dating both men & women. You could date anyone you cared to also.
By virtue of him making this commitment to you, it's obvious he's made a choice.
A cheat is a cheat - no matter gay, bi or straight.
People who make a serious commitment usually indicate a desire for fidelity on both sides.
 
Congratulations!!! Go forth with an open heart and eyes that are open even wider and you will be filled by what you feel and what you see.

If you have felt love. security, unconditional acceptance, comfort, assurance and above all PEACE (and given these things to your partner in return), then it matters not what others say about your relationship. These things will continue to manifest themselves in your relationship even after you are wed. If on the other hand, you have not been honest with yourself about your OWN feelings, then what you will see in the future is those feelings coming forth in unwanted drama. Some feelings are TOO powerful to be supressed forever. For instance why is that a completely gay man would want to be in a relationship with an avowed bi-sexual? Why is he willing to accept and invite this into his life? What does the wedding mean, and I think this is where those of us who expect a marriage to be a contract of sexual exclusivlity, are a bit confused as to the need for a "marriage." Will this person want to marry a woman also? Or, will he be married to you and just have sex with random women, one woman, a few select women? In most marriages, couples make MAJOR decision together---will you have input into the women he sticks his penis into, after all it is the same penis that will be in some parts of your body also. How does that part of the "marriage" work?

If you can handle this, may peace and blessings of all things good be with you and yours.
 
Dude,

Tell all your well-meaning friends that you have noted their concerns.

Tell them too, that this happens to be your life and that you are calling the shots.

So, you do, as you find fit.

SC
 
So if a bi guy weds a straight girl, wouldn't it work? Isn't it similar?

Congrats bro!
 
if he is ready to marry you then thats all you need to care about...

those bi guys that use guys till they want girls again will never fully commit... I doubt any of them would propose to a guy...

those people saying that shit are on crack... CRACK
 
This is a situation where you find out who your ture friends are. And some of your friends might be "envious" because your bi mate and you are experiencing love, and they might not have any concept of what that really is!

Situations change, etc., but that does not mean that you can't get married and enjoy each other, etc.

I am happy your doing what your doing, and I wish you all the happines in the world. The world could use more love and less war!
 
Congratulations. Trust in him and say "Fuck you" to the detractors. :)
 
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