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Pros & Cons of having a fuck buddy.

There's this guy who's totally into me and said that he want us to be fuckbuddy's. I'm not so sure I'm down with it, however, the idea of it completely turns me on. I'm single and not dating anyone, and informed him that once I start dating someone that our fuckbuddy status will be cut off.

Anyway, not so sure how I really feel about a fuckbuddy type of relationship.

HELP.

Thoughts!!??
 
Are you friends or just acquaintances? If you're friends, then I'd advise against it as he's already admitted being 'into you' and since you're not, it'll be one-sided. Add to that once you start seeing someone else and 'cut him off', that'll either cause him to become a bunny boiler ala Glenn Close in Basic Instinct, or you'll never speak to him again.

Give us a few more details about the dynamic of your current relationship with him, please.
 
What a problem or challenge to have. How well to you know this guy? Is there the possibility that a relationship might develop between you two? What was his answer when you told him that the action would stop with you found someone special? If he does not care, go for it. But you never know what may happen since he is into you. Good Luck.
 
I've been out on two dates with this guy about a year or so ago. I didn't find him smoking hot, but cute enough. I didn't find that we had all that much in common so I kind of stopped seeing him.

Two days ago he confessed to finding me so attractive that he couldn't get me out of his head. I found this pretty erotic, and also a bit disturbing.

Anyway, we're not friends, barely acquantances, and definitely not lovers.

He neglected to talk about my comment about cutting the fuckbuddy relationship off if and when I find Mr. Right.
 
I'd say to go for it if you're not friends.

If he can't get you out of his mind then he might have some emotions mixed in with his lust as well. If he neglected to talk about your comment was probably because he's not okay with it, not that he has a say in it seeming as how you two aren't in a relationship and he's the one with the preposition.

Either way, try and get more details before you do anything. Try and ask him if he's emotionally involved with you as well or does he just really want a fuck buddy. He could end up getting hurt as a result of what happens so be careful.
 
DO NOT DO IT.

if he says he "cant get you out of his head" he will get feelings for you once sex is a factor, and try to push some sort of relationship. or if/when you find someone you like that way he will become jealous and it will turn into a whole messed up drama situation.

just from my own personal experience, this is how it goes down.

fuck buds only works if it's just that, the only time you talk or have ever meet was to have sex and be on your way.
 
volcom1206 said:
Fuck buddies on the whole do not usually work out. The boundaries are slightly vague and often times one developes feelings for the other.

I would say shoot for a relationship or a friendship, not fuckbuddies.
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I'm definitely shooting for a relationship just not with this guy.
 
GayJerseyGuy said:
I've been out on two dates with this guy about a year or so ago. I didn't find him smoking hot, but cute enough. I didn't find that we had all that much in common so I kind of stopped seeing him.

Two days ago he confessed to finding me so attractive that he couldn't get me out of his head. I found this pretty erotic, and also a bit disturbing.

Anyway, we're not friends, barely acquantances, and definitely not lovers.

He neglected to talk about my comment about cutting the fuckbuddy relationship off if and when I find Mr. Right.
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I say go for it. You can't determine relationships or sexual encounters for others you are involved with based on what YOU think THEY should or should do. You can't be both parts of the relationship. You can only be open and honest with the other party about what YOUR intentions, goals, and needs are. If you've done that and they still want to move ahead and it excites you GO FOR IT!

Maybe being fuck buddies will satisfy his crush he seems to have on you. Maybe it won't. Maybe you'll find someone tomorrow to be in a relationship with, maybe you won't. Maybe you end up really liking this fuck buddy, maybe you won't.

You can't protect someone else from being hurt. You can only be honest and open with them on how you feel. Let the cards fall where they may. Enjoy it!
 
GayJerseyGuy said:
There's this guy who's totally into me and said that he want us to be fuckbuddy's. Anyway, not so sure how I really feel about a fuckbuddy type of relationship.

Thoughts!!??
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What matters here is what you want. Never settle for less.
 
If you're not ready to commit with a guy yet I would totally take advantage of just having fun while you're just going through the changes of life. Nothing wrong with seeking a guy for friendship and be fuck buddies in the short run. I used to be just like you a few years ago when I felt conservative about hooking up with guys for a night. I knew I wasn't ready to be committed to anybody but I took on that opportunity to explore fucking a guy. As long as you are playing it safe by strapping on a condom and not participating in any group orgies you should be totally fine. Now I am not trying to tell you to go out there and find a stranger on the streets to go back home and fuck. I would much rather prefer to be friends with somebody and get to know that person really well.

If you are not comfortable with the fuckbuddy thing then you need to let this guy know that you are not interested and you want to settle for a friendship instead. In case if you start to develop feelings for this guy then you will have somebody to get close with. :-)
 
It would depend on how "totally into you" he is. If he just thinks the sex would be hot, great. If he's thinking he'll be in a relationship once the sex gets going, not so great.

Lex
 
GayJerseyGuy said:
Pros & Cons of having a fuck buddy.

There's this guy who's totally into me and said that he want us to be fuckbuddy's. I'm not so sure I'm down with it, however, the idea of it completely turns me on. I'm single and not dating anyone, and informed him that once I start dating someone that our fuckbuddy status will be cut off.

Anyway, not so sure how I really feel about a fuckbuddy type of relationship.

HELP.

Thoughts!!??
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Fuck Buddy ,you say. Hmmm I'd kill for one of those right about now. With Fuck Buddies,the rules have to be well thought out and agreed upon,otherwise watchout for falling glass and hurt feelings.
Be careful,Be VERY CAREFUL. How well do you really know this guy? Not very well,From the previous post.
 
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