Darkflower
JUB Addict
I'm posting in this forum because although this thread isn't meant to be titilating, it's more sexually oriented by definition and I'm figuring out (I think) that people would prefer to keep Hot Topics as a more non-sexual spot. Also, I thought it might be interesting to note how the answer may change dependent on the gender of the fuck-ee for bisexual respondants.
I'm taking for granted that most people feel different ways in different situations, i.e. sometimes you want to tear eachother's clothes off and sometimes you want to take things slow. Sometimes it depends on the individual you're with. I'm already taking those variables for granted. I'm asking about your general tendency, what you are likely to do or to want more often than not.
I'm also not imposing any value judgements on "fucking" versus "making love", or trying to impose iron-clad definitions of either. I realize there can be great tenderness in an intense fucking, as there can be a great deal of power play in softness and delicacy. But my working definition of the two options are:
Making Love: Long, drawn out foreplay, lots of slow movement and body contact, more sensual, less goal-oriented, deep kissing.
Fucking: Primal, hard-pounding, faster, kinkier, less warm-up, aimed at making the other person cum or cumming yourself as intensely as possible.
If one of the suggested poll answers doesn't work for you, or if this topic spurs any other thoughts around gender, gender roles, and sexuality, feel free to post about it.
This isn't a public poll, so no one will know what you answered, but feel free to share your answer if you like as a preface to any additional remarks you might make.
I myself identify as straight, and in general I find myself fucking.
I'm taking for granted that most people feel different ways in different situations, i.e. sometimes you want to tear eachother's clothes off and sometimes you want to take things slow. Sometimes it depends on the individual you're with. I'm already taking those variables for granted. I'm asking about your general tendency, what you are likely to do or to want more often than not.
I'm also not imposing any value judgements on "fucking" versus "making love", or trying to impose iron-clad definitions of either. I realize there can be great tenderness in an intense fucking, as there can be a great deal of power play in softness and delicacy. But my working definition of the two options are:
Making Love: Long, drawn out foreplay, lots of slow movement and body contact, more sensual, less goal-oriented, deep kissing.
Fucking: Primal, hard-pounding, faster, kinkier, less warm-up, aimed at making the other person cum or cumming yourself as intensely as possible.
If one of the suggested poll answers doesn't work for you, or if this topic spurs any other thoughts around gender, gender roles, and sexuality, feel free to post about it.
This isn't a public poll, so no one will know what you answered, but feel free to share your answer if you like as a preface to any additional remarks you might make.
I myself identify as straight, and in general I find myself fucking.
