Gay? Bi? Confused?

[Confused18]

Hi, this is my first time posting here. I'm going through a strange time at the moment, mainly on account of having my first 'gay" experience with a friend about a month ago. I have a girlfriend and she turns me on, and I'm sexually attracted to women in general, and I didn't really ever think of any boy in that way until this incident happened. It was amazing and now I can't get it out of my head, and I have started fantasising about it. The guy it happened with is really effeminate so maybe there's some confusion there!

Anyway what do you guys think? Am I gay or bi or just confused?

 

[Confused18]

Sorry just to say a bit about myself. I am 19 and have been in a relationship with a girl for two years. What happened was I was out drinking with two friends, and ther friend who was gay came along. Anyway to cut a long story short, we ended up alone and we got talking about sex, he is really upfront and honest about things, and that turned me on a lot. As we lay on his bed, I felt myself getting hard and he noticed. He had been talking about giving head and then he asked if I wanted some. I hesitated at first, thinking he was joking but then I just lay back and let him work his magic. I've never had a blowjob like it! He was magic and I came in about five minutes, all of which he swallowed and this is the part that is getting to me, when my gf goes down on me I cum, but it's usually not a lot, however with this guy it was about five waves of cum, so I was obviously more turned on! I've never felt an orgasm like it, my legs were quivering! See I'm even getting turned on about it now! Can anybody help? Am I worrying too much? And should I just use this guy to relieve myself? He's up for it and so am I!!!

 

[Confused18]

Hey, this guy really turns me on. I wasn't fantasising about a girl, I was genuinely taken aback by the level of orgasm I had, and have had just thinking about it. He says he is up for no strings fun, including going all the way, which I'm into.

I do feel bad, concerning my girlfriend but I we've been having problems so I've not been intimate with her as regularly. I don't know whether to just get it out of my system or what? I really, really want to....

 

[mbamike]

You are 19 which means you are at that point in your life where you need to figure out your sexual identity. Please don't do as I did and suppress these feelings you are having now. BIG MISTAKE!

Take time to explore your attraction for gay sex. Don't worry about labels. Just have fun, but play safe. In time you will know if you are gay, bi, or just curious.

 

[moschj]

I agree fully with mbamike. There's never a need to make decisions to fit labels, go with the flow, have fun, don't hurt anyone, and have fun!

 

[Seasoned]

People say a lot of things when they're horny, but in the end they are people, as was already mentioned. Unless it's an anonymous hook up or a gloryhole the person has feelings and maybe even motives. Tread carefully. Be respectful to yourself and regular sex partners. Give hook ups what they want as long as you're ok with it. Hanging with regular partners will probably eventually out you.

 

[DVM26uk]

You're young, you're having problems in your relationship...

Ditch the g/f and be single for a while, then decide which path in life is for you. It's not uncommon for straight men to have at least one gay/bi experience so getting sucked off by another male doesn't mean you're not straight.

I think you probably had a stronger orgasm because you knew it was wrong, just like people who have affairs. The sex is great while they're sneaking behind their partners back because they know deep down that they shouldn't be doing, the naughtyness adds an element of hornyness to it.

Warning: cock is very addicktive, choose your path carefully.

 

[conrad]

Assuming that we all are correct in assuming that you are sexually active with your girlfriend and have found that pleasing and satisfying. Now, along comes a guy (you indicated he was effeminate--can you explain what that means to you?) who, as a sex partner, has caused you to question your own orientation.

Actually, I don't think that is all so very amazing. You have discovered something a lot of men never do allow themselves to discover. I, of course, refer to the fact that males do have the power to be sexually attractive to others, including males. Yes, there is pleasure to be had in sex with a man and that pleasure tends to bond two persons closer if they have already bonded in some way. What I do not like in what you have told us is that your male friend seems willing to have you "off on the side" to satisfy his and your urges for sex with each other without any emotional ties. Are both of you being honest in this?

Could it be that your one time sex partner is thinking that being a "regular" to him might just bring him around to being more with it as a man. All such "angles" deserve at the very least to be looked at seriously.

Believe me, I think you are fortunate in having this shock come before you settle down in a committed relationship or marriage. Bimarried men find that their dual attractions are a real problem when one has a wife and children.

Don't rush. Give it time. You will sort it out if you perservere.