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Gay Club Crash Course

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bananagoof

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Hey Peeps!

Going to my first gay club soon, and I was wondering what the etiquette is? Apparently, there's topless boys dancing about, from what my other friends are telling me. Okay, that I can deal with - it's safe eye-candy. But who to I fight off that guy who wants to grind my ass without making eye contact? Will I be swarmed by bears the minute I'm not right next to my friends. Are there certain actions or phrases that I shouldn't utter because they have secret gay club "let's screw" implications? What should I expect to see in the bathrooms?

Thanks for the help :)
 
OH for god's sake.

You're going to a bar, not an orgy.

No, yo're not going to be "swarmed" by bears unless you're going to a bear club and go out on the dance floor with your shirt off and arms in the air yelling "Swarm me"

You're not going to get your ass grinded by a total stranger unless you're out in the dance floor with your shirt off doing the booty dance.

In the bathrooms you'll most likely see men peeing.

And once you're in a gay club, you don't NEED secret phrases like "Dogs barking cannot fly without umbrella"

You can just say "wanna screw?"
 
lol...oh soilwork...what would we do without you...there are just some people that you wish there were more of...
 
Right.. forgot to add:

Go have some fun and just take all those pent up fears and worries and pitch them.. you don't need them.

go take your shirt off and do the booty dance if you want..
 
Ohh a Gay club, never been to one. Let us know how it was for you Bananagoof!
 
I think everyone perceptions of gay clubs are fucked up due to the movies and tv shows i.e. QAF, etc. I thought that the same thing was going to happen to me when I first went. Thought that there was going to be men having sex in the bathrooms, older men hitting on me all night, etc. None of that happened and I had a blast. Have fun!
 
You can expect loud music, the smell of beer and cigarettes and plenty of boys giving attitude.
 
I'm glad someone else asked this question....though I would have include asking about the going rates for gratuity & if I could bring my dog along.
 
Same as any bar (I always tip a dollar per drink, unless I'm in a more exclusive place, then it's 2 dollars a drink), and no, unless you're blind and need it as a guide.
 
er.....depends how you look.
i, myself, look like a total twink. i get hit on by old men at every gay bar im at. and yes, when im dancing, people randomly start grinding on my ass, because that's just what happens. go with it. if you don't like it, don't hesitate to just move away. expect people to blatantly check you out, without regard to normal rules of etiquette--it's a bar, people are drunk, that's just what happens.

as to what happens in the bathrooms....depends where you live. i know in LA, i find more guys looking at themselves in the mirror, then actually peeing. and yes, people do do coke lines on the toilets, but you shouldn't have to actually see it. the only time i've ever seen someone having sex in a bathroom was in portland...that was awkward.

and always remember, it's perfectly ok to lie and say "i have a boyfriend, but thanks!"
 
Jinx said:
as to what happens in the bathrooms....depends where you live. i know in LA, i find more guys looking at themselves in the mirror, then actually peeing. and yes, people do do coke lines on the toilets, but you shouldn't have to actually see it. the only time i've ever seen someone having sex in a bathroom was in portland...that was awkward.
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I've definitely seen shenanigans in the bathroom at a gay bar in Portland (I think it was CC Slaughters). I've seen such in places in Seattle too, but I wouldn't say it's all that prominent or even happening most nights. It's certainly not hard to avoid. You just do your thing and they do theirs.
 
Categorizing gay clubs is like categorizing str8 clubs... it's not possible. Each one is different and you can expect different things at it. Generally speaking all of the same rules of a str8 bar/club apply at a gay one. The differences include...

1) looking at other guys is acceptable. And people look more often. You probably will get your ass grabbed at least once... but most just grab as they walk by.

2) drugs might be more prevalent... but I think it depends on the bar, just like str8s.

3) less guys use the urinals.

Other than that it's not much difference. Some clubs people dance without a shirt, others, that's not the case. If somebody starts grinding with you that you don't want to grind with, just dance away from them. They get the hint and nobody is going to try to feel you up if you don't allow it. Some guys are more aggressive than others, but they all know that if you stop it, they shouldn't continue. It's simple.

Relax, have fun, you'll probably just be a wallflower the first time, but you'll join in soon enough.
 
A gay bar may not be the best place to start looking for my first bf , but at least I'll know for sure theres gay men inside;).

This may sound odd, but lacking any male friends that would accompany me to a gay bar, I have a female friend who would like to go with me. I don't think it will make a difference should I find myself attracted to another man, shes just a friend socializing with me after all.

Btw, I was only kidding about gratuity & the dog. [there is an initiative in my state to allow dogs in taverns/bars though].
 
Thanks for those of you who gave me good advice.

The experience, in the end, was overwhelming and I left. Truth is, my friends got me waaay too drunk before we got there, and my emotions took over. Suddenly, it was like all these big changes in my life were in the forefront of my thoughts, and rather than breakdown in my drunken state, I said my goodbyes, hailed a cab and that was that.

It wasn't the club, or the people. I was just too drunk to keep perspective about my life.

I'm sure I'll end up in a gay club again eventually, but that night was a big mess. That, and (since some of you mentionned it's not an orgy) I find clubs these days are almost always about people getting really frisky and working off sexual energy. I dance because I like dancing, and not so much to pick up. Which is why I haven't been dancing in a long while. I'm going to find different places, and stay away from the show-off, hook-up types.

That said, thanks again folks.
 
hmmm... never been drunk at a gay club. I have so much fun sober, I never have needed alcohol. And as to dancing... I love dancing and have found several places to go where it isn't only working off sexual energy. If somebody tries to grind with you and you're not interested, politely dance away. It's always worked for me.
 
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